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Iningi lezingcindezi eziyishumi nambili

Isikhathi sobusha yisikhathi esinzima esiyinselelo kunoma imuphi umndeni. Thola izinto ezibangela ukucindezeleka nokukhathazeka ezinganeni lapho isigaba sangaphambi kobusha Kungakusiza ukuthi uqonde kangcono futhi ubhekane nengane yakho kangcono, kepha futhi kuyisize idlule kuleso sigaba ngendlela engcono kakhulu.

Ebusheni nasebusheni, kujwayelekile ukuthi abantu abasha bahlupheke ngezinkinga ezingokomzwelo noma ukukhathazeka. Uma kulesi sigaba ingane yakho ikhombisa izinkinga zokucindezeleka noma ukucindezeleka, kubalulekile ukuthi uzame ukuthola ukuthi yini engahambi kahle ngayo. Akuwona umsebenzi olula ofuna kuwe ukulawula ngokweqile ngokomzwelo kanye nesimo sengqondo sokuqonda nokuzwela. Nazi ezinye izici ezingaba khona ezingadala ukucindezeleka kwentsha kanye neshumi nambili. Lokhu kuzokusiza unake izinguquko nokuphendula kwengane yakho futhi ukulungele ukunikeza usizo nokusekelwa abakudingayo. 

Ukuthomba

Noma kungabonakala kusobala ukusho njalo, kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi ukuthomba kuyisikhathi esinzima. Uyakhumbula eyakho?   Ukuthomba kungenza ngisho nabantu abangazethembi kakhulu bazizwe bengavikelekile futhi bexakile.

Izinguquko eziza nokuthomba zingadala umonakalo omkhulu ngokomzwelo. Intsha eningi ayizwani, ikakhulukazi uma umzimba wayo uthinteke kabi. Imininingwane ingasiza ingane yakho ukuthi iqonde ukuthi lokhu kungokwesikhashana futhi kuvamile ngokuphelele. Lapho wazi futhi uqonda kakhudlwana, kulapho uzokhathazeka kancane ngezinguquko obhekene nazo.

Iningi lezingcindezi eziyishumi nambili

Izinkinga zomndeni

Intsha eningi kanye neshumi nambili iba nengcindezi ngenxa yezinkinga zomndeni, njengokuhlukanisa noma ukwehlukana nabazali bakho, ukulahlekelwa othandekayo, abazali abangasebenzi noma izingxabano phakathi kwamalungu omndeni, ukubala ezimbalwa.

Kulezi zimo kubalulekile ukuthi ukhulume nezingane zakho, uchaze ngokwenzekayo nokuthi uzisize ziveze imizwa yazo. Ingane yakho kufanele izizwe ithandwa futhi iphephile ngaphandle kwezimo. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, unganqikazi ukuya kudokotela wezengqondo noma kumelaphi uma ubona ukuthi ingane yakho ayihambelani kahle nezimo zomndeni.

Izinselelo ezintsha nezikhulayo zemfundo

Isikole singaba yindawo ecindezelayo kanye neshumi nambili. Uma amamaki engane yakho ehla noma enqena ukuya esikoleni, kungenzeka ukuthi unenkinga yokugcina izifundo zakhe nokugcina amamaki akhe.

Yingakho Kubalulekile ukuthi wazi ngomsebenzi wakhe wesikole, ukuthi ukhulume naye ngesikole nokuthi unentshisekelo kulokho akufundayo. Akukona okwakho ukwenza umsebenzi wakho wesikole naye. Kepha iqiniso lokuthi usevele emdala ukuthi enze imisebenzi yakhe ngokuzimela akusho ukuthi uyakunaka. Futhi lapho kunenkinga encane yezinkinga, unganqikazi ukwenza i-aphoyintimenti nomfundisi noma uthisha ukuzama ukuthola noma iyiphi inkinga kusenesikhathi.

Izinkinga zomndeni Intsha eningi nentsha engaphansi kweminyaka iba nengcindezi ngenxa yezinkinga zomndeni, njengokuhlukanisa noma ukwehlukana nabazali bayo, ukulahlekelwa othandekayo, abazali abangasebenzi, noma izingxabano phakathi kwamalungu omndeni, ukubala nje ezimbalwa. Kulezi zimo kubalulekile ukuthi ukhulume nezingane zakho, uchaze ngokwenzekayo nokuthi uzisize ziveze imizwa yazo. Ingane yakho kufanele izizwe ithandwa futhi iphephile ngaphandle kwezimo. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, unganqikazi ukuya kudokotela wezengqondo noma kumelaphi uma ubona ukuthi ingane yakho ayihambelani kahle nezimo zomndeni.

Ubungane obunezinkinga

Umbuthano wabangane bengane yakho uqala ukwanda, futhi awukwazi ukumlawula njengakuqala. Ingane yakho ngeke ihlangane nabantu abahlukahlukene kuphela ezindaweni ezihlukene, kodwa izoyeka ukukutshela konke eyayikutshele khona iseyingane. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ngalesi sikhathi ingane yakho izoqala ukubandlulula phakathi kofunda naye noma osebenzisana naye nokuthi yini engumngani, futhi izovezwa amathonya amaningi. Ngoba zonke ziqala ukushintsha ngasikhathi sinye futhi zithonye omunye komunye.


Konke lokhu kungaholela ezingxabanweni nasezimpikiswaneni ingane yakho engazi ukuthi izobhekana kanjani nazo noma ingahle ingalingani kahle. Ukucindezeleka okudalwa yimvelo kuvame ukuba kukhulu kakhulu. Kungakho kubalulekile ukuthi unake, ukuthi uhlangane nabangane bakhe nokuthi umsize akwazi ukuxhumana nabantu angakwazi ukugcina ubudlelwano obuhle nabo.

Ukuhlaselwa ngokobudlelwano nokuxhashazwa

Ukuhlukunyezwa ngokobudlelwano, ukwesatshiswa, noma ukuxhashazwa kuvame ukukhula phakathi neminyaka eyishumi nesishiyagalombili. Amantombazane nabafana basengozini yokuhlukunyezwa futhi bangaze bahlukunyezwe abangane babo noma abanye emphakathini wabo. Ukuqinela abanye akulula ngaso sonke isikhathi ukukubona. Eqinisweni, kulula ukuthi ingane yakho ingafuni ukuvuma inkinga.

Kubalulekile ukuthi ungenelele uma becabanga ukuthi ukuhlukumeza kuyinkinga futhi, uma kunesidingo, ukwenza abanye abantu abadala bangenelele, kufaka phakathi othisha abathintekayo, abaqeqeshi, noma abeluleki ukuze banqande le ndlela yokuhlukumeza.

Ubudlelwano bokuqala bezothando Ubusha besikhathi sokuthomba nobusha yisikhathi sokuqala ubudlelwano bothando bokuqala bese uqala ukuzama emhlabeni wothando nobulili. Lobu budlelwane bokuqala bungaba nengcindezi enkulu, ikakhulukazi kumuntu osemusha ongakakulungeli ukuphatha lezi zinhlobo zemizwa. Ukubhekana nalokhu, kubalulekile ukuthi ukhulume nezingane zakho ngobudlelwano, uzikhuthaze ukuthi zingazibandakanyi kakhulu noma zenze impilo ibe nzima futhi, ngaphezu kwakho konke, uzisize zikhulise amakhono ezenhlalo futhi zifunde ukuphatha imizwa yazo ukugwema umdlalo ongqubuzanayo nodweshu.

Ubudlelwano bokuqala bezothando

I-Preadolescence nobusha yisikhathi sokuqala ubudlelwano bothando bokuqala bese uqala ukuzama emhlabeni wothando nobulili. Lobu budlelwane bokuqala bungaba nengcindezi enkulu, ikakhulukazi kumuntu osemusha ongakakulungeli ukuphatha lezi zinhlobo zemizwa.

Ukubhekana nalokhu, kubalulekile ukukhuluma nezingane zakho ngobudlelwano., umkhuthaze ukuthi angazibandakanyi kakhulu noma enze inkinga yokuphila futhi, ngaphezu kwakho konke, amsize athuthukise amakhono okuxhumana nabantu futhi afunde ukulawula imizwa yakhe ukugwema umdlalo ongqubuzanayo nodweshu.


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  1. Ubhekele imininingwane: Miguel Ángel Gatón
  2. Inhloso yedatha: Lawula Ugaxekile, ukuphathwa kwamazwana.
  3. Ukusemthethweni: Imvume yakho
  4. Ukuxhumana kwemininingwane: Imininingwane ngeke idluliselwe kubantu besithathu ngaphandle kwesibopho esisemthethweni.
  5. Isitoreji sedatha: Idatabase ebanjwe yi-Occentus Networks (EU)
  6. Amalungelo: Nganoma yisiphi isikhathi ungakhawulela, uthole futhi ususe imininingwane yakho.