Kunezinto mayelana nokukhulelwa okungekho muntu okutshela zona kodwa kungaba ngumqondo omuhle ukuthi wazi ukuze okungenani ukwazi ukuzilungiselela okuzayo uma usanda kukhulelwa. Ukukhulelwa kuyisigaba somlingo abesifazane abanenhlanhla ukusiphila, futhi yize kukuhle futhi kuyamangalisa ukukwazi ukudala impilo ngaphakathi kwethu, iqiniso ukuthi kunezingxenye zokukhulelwa ezingezinhle kangako futhi kunezinto okufanele zikutshele zona ... ngakho-ke nakhu engizokwazisa ngakho zonke lezo zinto!
Kepha okokuqala, kumele ngikutshele ukuthi angifuni nakukhathazeka ngoba zonke lezo "zinto" ongatshelwa muntu ngazo ziyizinto ezincane ezinesixazululo. Ngoba ngaphezu kokungaphatheki kahle, uzoba nezinye izinzuzo eziningi zokukhulelwa, isibonelo ukuthi isikhumba sakho sihle, izinwele zakho zinamandla, ungakwazi ukulala ngokwengeziwe nokuthi unikezwa izihlalo ezintweni zokuhamba zomphakathi. Noma kungekona konke okuhle, ngaso sonke isikhathi kufanele ubheke ingxenye enhle, ngoba okuhle kakhulu kusazofika futhi kuzoba ngemuva kokulethwa.
Awudingi ukudla okubili
Yebo, lesi yisizathu sabesifazane abaningi sokuthi bakwazi ukwanelisa indlala yabo noma izifiso zabo lapho bekhulelwe. Kuyiqiniso ukuthi bekungeke kwenzeke kumuntu ukuthi atshele owesifazane okhulelwe ukuba ayeke ukudla uma elambile, kepha ngumuntu okhulelwe okufanele azi ukuthi uzodla nini futhi kanjani. Kodwa kuyiqiniso ukuthi abesifazane abakhulelwe bavame ukutshelwa ukuthi bangadla noma yini abayifunayo uma lokhu kungelona iqiniso.. Uma udla okufunayo noma ocabanga ukuthi kufanele ukudle ukudla okubili, uzomane ukhuluphale futhi ukhuluphale okuzoba nzima ukuthi kamuva ukushiye ngemuva.
Kuyadingeka ukuthi ucacelwe ukuthi ukukhulelwa kusho ukuba nokudla okunempilo, ukudla ukudla okuncane kodwa izikhathi eziningi emini ... kepha ukulandela ukudla okunomsoco. Izifiso zilungile ukuthi ube nesikhathi esithile (izifiso zenzeka ngoba udinga okuthile okuqondile), kodwa kufanele uzilawule. Uma uchitha sonke isikhathi sokukhulelwa kwakho udla ushokoledi noma ama-crackers, ungathola umbono wethonya ongaba nalo empilweni yakho nasenganeni yakho.
Izingubo zokubeletha ziyabiza
Izingubo zokubeletha ziyabiza, lokhu kuyiqiniso kodwa futhi uyakudinga. Awudingi ukuthenga izingubo eziningi zokubeletha noma usebenzise imali eningi ngazo. Ukukhulelwa kuthatha izinyanga eziyisishiyagalolunye kanti izingubo zokukhulelwa zizogcinwa ekhabetheni. Okufanelekile, kufanele ubuze abangani noma abanye omama ukuthi banezingubo zokukhulelwa abangakuboleka zona kulezi zinyanga, noma ukuthi uthenga izingubo ezithengiswayo noma ugqoke izingubo zosayizi abakhulu ezilingana kahle nawe. Kepha into okumele ucace ngayo, lapho isisu siqala ukukhula, ungazami ukugqoka izingubo zakho ezijwayelekile ngoba ngaphezu kokungakhululeki ungalimaza isisu sakho.
Ukukhulelwa akulula
Yize kuliqiniso ukuthi kunabesifazane abathi ukukhulelwa kwabo kulula nokuthi abakaze bakunake, iqiniso ukuthi iningi labesifazane emhlabeni ukukhulelwa kungaba nezikhathi ezinzima impela. Ubuhlungu bemisipha, lapho ukuvuka nokuhlala phansi kuba yinselele, lapho kufanele uye endlini yangasese amahlandla ama-20 emahoreni amabili, lapho uhlangabezana nokugaya ukudla, lapho isilungulela sikukhulula uphefumule, lapho ukhathele ngaso sonke isikhathi, lapho ama-hormone zikwenza ube nemizwa yokucasuka futhi icasule wena nabanye ... konke kungaba yiqoqo lezikhathi ezinzima. Kepha kufanele wazi ukuthi umzimba wakho uyashintsha kwesinye isikhathi nokuthi udinga amandla nezinsizakusebenza eziningi ukunikeza impilo.
Asikho isikhathi lapho kufanele ucabange ukuthi ubuthakathaka ngoba ubuhlungu buyakukhathaza noma ngoba ucabanga ukuthi bunzima kakhulu noma bunzima. Ukukhulelwa kunzima jikelele kubo bonke abesifazane futhi akekho noyedwa ozokwazi ukujabulela yonke iminithi yokukhulelwa, kungahlala kunezikhathi eziyinkimbinkimbi kunezinye. Kepha ngento eyodwa ongaqiniseka ngayo, uzothanda ingane yakho ngaphambi kokuba izalwe noma ungakuthandi lokho obhekana nakho phakathi nezinyanga eziyi-9.
Awukwazi ukuba nempilo yokuhlala phansi
Uma ujwayele ukuba nempilo yokuhlala phansi ngokujwayelekile, kufanele wazi ukuthi ngeke ukwazi ukuhlala njalo uma ukhulelwe. Uzodinga ukuzivocavoca noma ngabe uhamba ihora ngosuku, kufanele uzilungiselele ukusebenza futhi ngenxa yalokhu kuzodingeka ube sesimweni esifanele. Ngaphezu kwalokho, kuyadingeka ukuthi ungazuzi ngaphezu kwalokho okudingekayo ngoba lokho kungadala izinkinga ekuzihlonipheni kwakho ngemuva kokuthola umntwana. Omama abaningi bakuthola kunzima ukubeka ama-jean abo aqinile emuva ngoba abadlanga ukudla okulinganiselayo nokunganyakazi ngokwanele ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa. Namuhla ungenza imisebenzi ehloselwe abesifazane abakhulelwe ukuzivocavoca nokuthi ukubeletha nokubeletha kungaba yinto elula ngaphandle kwezinkinga ezingeziwe.
Qaphela ukucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha
Ukucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha kuyinto engokoqobo abesifazane abaningi abahlushwa yiyo lapho bebeletha. Ukucindezeleka kwangemva kokubeletha kuvame ukuvela ngosuku lwesibili noma lwesithathu ngemuva kokubeletha futhi kuvame ukuhlala amasonto amabili, kepha kuzoncika kowesifazane ngamunye ngoba ezimweni ezinzima kakhulu kungahlala amasonto amaningi noma izinyanga. Ngemuva kokubeletha uzoba ngumjikelezo wemizwelo futhi kungaba yingozi.
Kunomama abacabanga ukuthi abazithandi izingane zabo ngokushesha futhi bazizwe benecala ngakho, abanye bacabanga ukuthi bekungeyona into abebeyilindele, kungenzeka bangakwazi ukuba omama, ukuthi bazizwe bedidekile noma bedidekile, noma ukuthi amadoda abo kuyisithiyo ... konke lokhu kuyimicabango engenangqondo ngenxa yokudangala kwangemva kokubeletha kungalawulwa ngokwazi ukuthi kungokwesikhashana. Uzoba nemizwa engalawuleki, kepha ungathatheki yiyo, ucabange ukuthi ungumama, ukuthi ngemuva kokusebenza kanzima kokukhulelwa umzimba wakho kufanele ubuyele kokujwayelekile nakumahomoni akho. Unamandla futhi uthando lwakho ngengane yakho lukhulu kakhulu.