Nakuba izikhathi ezinzima zingenzeka kunoma yisiphi isigaba sokukhula kwentsha, ngokuvamile, umzuzu onzima kakhulu uvame ukwenzeka ekugcineni Okufanayo. Ukuphela kokuthomba kwenzeka cishe phakathi kweminyaka eyi-18 nengama-23, lapho umsebenzi wokuphatha ukuzimela okunomthwalo wemfanelo, ukuzimela ngokweqile ngokuvamile uqala.
Inkululeko phakathi nesikhathi esiningi sobusha yayibhekwa njengekhangayo futhi ijabulisa. Nokho, inkululeko esemngceleni wokuba umuntu omdala ingabhekwa njengesabisayo nesabisayo. Inselelo enkulu kulesi sigaba ukuhlukana nekhaya futhi uqale impilo ezimele. Lesi sigaba sihlobene kakhulu nokuthatha imithwalo yemfanelo yempilo yabantu abadala.
ukuphela kobusha
Isigaba sokugcina sobusha cishe yisona esinzima kakhulu nesikhathazayo kunazo zonke. Iningi lentsha alizimisele ukuhlangabezana nakho konke okulindelwe okudingekayo ukuthola ukuzimela okuphelele. Yingakho lesi sigaba sokugcina sizwakala njengesivivinyo esincane, ngoba ngokuvamile kusekhona ukusekelwa okuthile okuvela kubazali. Kuwuvivinyo futhi ngomqondo wokubekezelela amaphutha nokwehluleka njengomuntu omdala oqalayo, futhi ufunde kuwo uze ukwazi ukulawula ukuphila kwakho ngokuzimela.
Kulezi zikhathi, kulula kakhulu ukuzizwa ungenazimpande, ungenakuzisiza, ungenamsebenzi, ungenanjongo, ungelutho, futhi ungenathemba. Okuphambene kakhulu nezigaba ezedlule ze ubusha, lapho abafana namantombazane bezizwa bexhumene nabangane babo nozakwabo, benekhono, bewusizo, bekwaziswa futhi benethemba. Ezimweni eziningi, abantu abasha bazizwa bebambekile. Lo muzwa kungenxa yokuthi bayakhula futhi bafunda izifundo ezibalulekile zempilo. Bakha ukuqina kusukela ekululameni, bakhombise ukuqina kwengqondo ngokuqhubeka nokuzama, futhi bathole ulwazi olwengeziwe kanye nokuhlangenwe nakho kwempilo. Kafushane, naphezu kokudikibala, bayathuthuka futhi bayakhula njengabantu.
Ukungakhululeki Kwentuthuko
Uma abaneminyaka engu-18-23 ubudala besazizwa bekhululekile phakathi nalesi sigaba sempilo, kungase kube ngenxa yokuthi basengathembela ekondleni elidala lomndeni futhi abazinikele ngokugcwele ekukhuleni. Abantu abasha badinga ukugomela, ukusungula, nokuzilawula bona ukuzimela kwabo okusebenzayo, okungase kubangele ukungakhululeki okuthile. Nakuba benobunzima phakathi nale minyaka, kuyinto enhle ezobasiza ukuba baqine njengabantu abadala.
Kule nkathi, abantu abasha balwa ngokwabo kanye nomqondo wokuthatha umthwalo ophelele wezimpilo zabo ngoba abazizwa bekulungele. Ekuqaleni kokuthomba, abafana namantombazane bavukela abazali babo negunya, kodwa kulesi sigaba sokugcina lokho kuvukela kuphambene nabo. Manje, ukuhlehlisa, isilingo sokuhlangana nabantu, ukubalekela ezokuzijabulisa ze-elekthronikhi, kanye nokusetshenziswa kwezidakamizwa kungaphazamisa ukuhlanganyela okusebenzayo kule nqubo. Ikhambi lalaba bantu ababi ukuzithiba, lapho lezi zimfanelo ezintathu zincike khona: ukuqedwa, ukuzinikela kanye nokubekezela.
Ukuziphoqa ukuthi zithwale imithwalo yazo emikhulukazi, kumele bakwazi uku:
- Qedela abakuqalayo.
- Gcwalisa izibopho, ngokwakho kanye nabanye.
- Gcina ukuvumelana kwe umzamo ukuhlangabezana nezidingo eziqhubekayo zokuphila.
Shintsha ukucaciswa
Ushintsho olukhulu lwempilo empeleni luyingxube yezinguquko ezine kokukodwa. Eyokuqala emibili ayiqhubeki:
- Qala. Isipiliyoni sokuqala izinto ezintsha nezihlukile.
- Yima. Umuzwa wokumisa okudala nokusungulwa, njengokuncika kubazali ukuthi babeke imithetho yempilo yansuku zonke.
Okubili okulandelayo kuyaqhubeka:
- Khulisa. Umuzwa wokukhulisa izinga elithile noma inani lomsebenzi wempilo. Isibonelo, kufanele uthathe umthwalo owengeziwe wokuzithiba, ngaphandle kokuwela ekuluthweni.
- Nciphisa. Umuzwa wokunciphisa izinga elithile noma inani lomsebenzi wempilo. Isibonelo, ukuphumelela ngokugadwa okuncane futhi alukho usizo olubonakalayo.
Kuyinto evamile futhi kulungile ukudlula ezikhathini zokucindezeleka ngasekupheleni kokuthomba. Okungalungile wukuyeka ukukhungatheka bese unquma ukuthi ukubambezeleka, ukugwema, ukubaleka, noma ukuyeka kuyinto engcono kakhulu ongayenza ukuze uzizwe ujabule. Ukudela lowomthwalo wenqaba ukukhula.
Khumbula ukuthi isigaba sokugcina sobusha yisigaba esinesibindi. Sekuyisikhathi sokubhekana nokuzethemba okuphansi futhi ubhekane nokungaqiniseki kwekusasa. Kunjalo, impilo kusukela manje ngeke ibe lula, kodwa ngokuzinikela ezimfunekweni ezinkulu Ukuzimela, uzoba namandla futhi uzethemba ngokwengeziwe lapho ubhekana nanoma iyiphi inselele enkulu ezayo.