ULina, owesifazane onesibindi sokuba ngumama iminyaka engaphezu kwengu-60

1. ukukhulelwa

Lapho sicabanga ngabesifazane abangomama asebekhulile, sicabanga ukuthi baneminyaka engama-45 ubudala, okungenani ama-50 (kulokho umakhelwane asichazele khona ngesihlobo sakhe); Sivele sitshele kulokhu okuthunyelwe ukuthi ngesikhathi sokunqamuka kokuqala kusesenokwenzeka (mfushane, yebo) wokukhulelwa, futhi leyo yiminyaka yokugcina owesifazane angakhulelwa ngayo ngaphandle kokusebenzisa izindlela zokufaka umquba noma ukunikela ngeqanda. Impela akwenzeki kithi ukuthi sicabange ngomama omusha ongaphezu kweminyaka engama-55 ubudala, akunjalo? ULina inalvarez usibonisile ukuthi kungenziwa, futhi uneminyaka engaphansi kwengu-62 ubudalaYize ngisola ukuthi unamandla amakhulu, ngaphandle kwalokho bengingeke ngithathe isinqumo sokuba ngumama okwesithathu.

Kwakungo-Okthoba 11 lapho kuzalwa uLina omncane (oqanjwe ngegama likanina nogogo wakhe ongumama), futhi manje usendlini ethokozela ukusondelana komndeni, futhi kulokhu esikufundile, uthokozela negama likamama, ngoba Umzimba owesifazane okhulelwe (noma ngabe yikuphi ukukhulelwa okufike ngakhona) ukhiqiza ubisi futhi i-oxytocin ikhishwa ukuze ingane ikwazi ukondliwa. Lo mama ungudokotela futhi umangazwa wumsindo obusuhleliwe mayelana nokuba ngumama kwakhe muva nje: wonke umuntu unikeza umbono wakhe, aze ahlulele, yize ebukeka ejabule.

Futhi ngithi yingane yakhe yesithathu ngoba uLina unoXiquito oneminyaka engama-27 ubudala ophethwe yi-cerebral palsy, noSamuel, owazalwa eminyakeni eyi-10 eyedlule, nonina naye wasebenzisa inqubo yokukhulelwa ukuze amkhulelwe. Lo mama waseGalician akazange abe nomlingani selokhu ahlukana nobaba wengane yakhe yokuqala; kodwa kulokho engikufundile, kubhekwa njengokwazi ngokuphelele ukukhulisa nokufundisa umuntu omusha, ngubani (ngokwamazwi akhe) lapho umama eneminyaka engama-92, uzobe eseneminyaka engama-30 ubudala, ngakho-ke ngeke amdinge kangako.

Umndeni osukhulile futhi ukhulelwe sekwedlule isikhathi.

Ngamuzwa ngoMsombuluko kuthelevishini (ngicabanga ukuthi kwaba lapho ekhishwa ngemuva kwezinsuku ezimbalwa zokuhlinzwa) ethi imvelo ibeka imingcele, hhayi umuthi. Ukuqinisekiswa kuyiqiniso kuphela ngoba esimweni sakhe umkhawulo unwetshiwe ngenxa yokuba nemithombo yezimali yokukhokhela ukungenelela okwenziwe ngudokotela wezifo zabesifazane lowo ayemtholile ecwaninga kwi-Intanethi, ngemuva kokwenqaba kochwepheshe ahambela kubo ukubona iphupho lakhe lokuba ngumama lifezeka futhi.

Ukukhulelwa kwamenyezelwa ukuthi kuyasebenza, kwathi ngemuva kokufakwa kombungu, kwafakwa ama-hormone ukuze isibeletho sibe nempendulo ejwayelekile; lokhu kuze kwaba yinyanga yesithathu, ngemuva kwalokho i-placenta iyakwazi ukukhiqiza kokubili i-progesterone ne-estrogens. Sihlala sisho ukuthi 'imvelo ihlakaniphile', futhi mhlawumbe ukunqamuka kokuya esikhathini kusiza umzimba wesifazane ukuba ungalayishwa ngokweqile lapho usuvuthwe ngokuphelele, kepha ususondele ekugugeni. Yize kunezingozi eziningi ekukhulelweni, njenge-hypertension, isifo sikashukela sokukhulelwa, ukukhulelwa ngaphambi kwesikhathi, isisindo sokuzalwa esiphansi, njll. Ngendlela, uLina junior wayenesisindo esingaphansi kuka-2500 gram ngesikhathi sokuzalwa.

Umthethonqubo wezomthetho wokusiza ukukhiqiza kabusha ezweni lethu, ubeka ubuncane beminyaka eyi-18, ngaphandle kokubeka umkhawulo weminyaka yobudala; Yize iKhomishini Kazwelonke Yezokukhiqizwa Komuntu Okusizwayo yavuma eminyakeni embalwa edlule iminyaka yobudala engama-50 (phakathi kweminyaka engama-48 nengama-52 ngaphezulu impela) njengobukhulu bokukwenza. Kuyisizathu sokuthi isicelo sikaLina singaphendulwa eGalicia, umphakathi wakubo ozimele. Uma kunomthethonqubo umehluko weminyaka okufanele wehlukanise umnikeli nowesifazane owemukelayo, futhi lo mehluko kungaba yiminyaka engama-45.

Ngabe uLina uzokwazi ukuyinakekela indodakazi yakhe?

Ngicabanga ukuthi kukho konke ukugxeka elikutholile, okuthetheleleka kakhulu yilokho, ngoba akusithina okufanele sithathe isinqumo sokuthi siyakwazi ukukhulisa nokufundisa noma cha. A priori Kubonakala kucace ukuthi uma umama esemncane, uyoba namandla nobungqabavu obuningi, yize impilo yakhe ingcono futhi esizwa ekhaya, intombazane izoba nonina iminyaka eminingi.. Kuyacaca ukuthi sonke siyacabanga “futhi ingabe uyafa ushiya intombazanyana eneminyaka embalwa ingenamndeni?”, Kodwa futhi asazi noma ngabe usungule uhlelo lokugada ukuze ezinye izihlobo zikwazi ukuphatha, ngokujwayelekile thina khuluma ungalazi kahle icala.

Ungomunye wabesifazane baseYurophu abebengumama omdala kunabo bonke, ngakho-ke akufanele kukumangaze ukuthi sonke sisalindile 😉, ngiyaqonda ukuthi manje usemva kokubeletha kwakho futhi ngeke ufune ukuthola ukuthi abanye bacabangani. Ngendlela, kunezibonelo zabesifazane asebeke baba nezingane ngisho nangaphezulu: UCarmen Bousada oneminyaka engama-67 waba namawele (yize ngeshwa washona beseneminyaka emithathu), iRomania u-Adriana Illiescu eneminyaka engama-3, u-Ula Margusheva waseRussia oneminyaka engama-66, njll.

Ngakwesokudla kukamama noma kwengane?

Le nkinga inempikiswano enkulu, futhi masingakhohlwa ukuthi uma kungukuthi kukhulunywa ngayo, akukhona nje ukuthi usekhulile (futhi ngingaxolisa ngenkulumo ethi 'advanced'), kodwa ngoba ungowesifazane, ngoba sonke siyazi amadoda adumile abengabazali asebekhulile kakhulu futhi nathi siyawagxeka? Yebo, kuzoba khona abangacabangi nangobunzima bezingane noma bezingane ezinomzali ongaba mkhulu wabo, abanye abantu bayacabanga ngakho, noma ngabe kungubaba noma umama.

Kubukeka sengathi uSaul noXiquito bajabule ngodadewabo omncane, uSaul naye usekhule ngokwanele ukuthi angasiza unina kancane; umama othi ukukhubazeka kobuchopho bomdala wakhe kubangelwe ukubhoboza amniocentesis, nokuthi ngemuva kokuthola ukuhlolwa kwe-radiology, ubhekene necala elibhekene nesibhedlela lapho kwenziwa khona ukuhlolwa ngesikhathi ekhulelwe okokuqala eminyakeni engama-27 eyedlule. Indaba emangazayo yalona wesifazane. Simfisela impilo enhle yokukhulisa uLina, axhase uSaul njengoba ekhula, futhi alungiselele ikusasa lendodana yakhe endala..

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