Ukuthi izingane zinokufinyelela okulula kangako kuthelevishini noma emaphephandabeni nganoma yiziphi izinhlobo zayo kungaba yinto engeyinhle neze. Ikakhulukazi njengoba izingane, ezithinta kalula, ziyabona ukuthi abafana namantombazane amantombazane amancane kakhulu anokuqeqeshwa okuncane, aduma. Lokhu ngokungenakuphikwa kubaholela ekucabangeni ukuthi ukuduma kuyindlela elula yokuthola imali.
Kodwa-ke, ezimeni eziningi kakhulu kuyinto yesikhashana, idumela elingelokwethenjelwa. Kusukela namuhla, incazelo yomuntu odumile iguqulwe ngokumangazayo. Ezinganeni zanamuhla, abantu abadumile banjalo abasebenzisi be-youtubers, Abasebenzisi be-Instagram noma abanethonya, abantu abasha ngandlela thile abenza izigidi zezingane zilandele izeluleko noma izincomo zabo.
Ungaziphatha kanjani uma indodana yakho ithi kuwe: Mama, ngifuna ukuduma?
Izikhathi eziningi abazali banaka kakhulu izindaba ezithile, into ejwayelekile kepha engaholela ekutheni wenze ngendlela engafanele. Okokuqala, uma ingane yakho ikutshela ngokungazelelwe ukuthi ifuna ukuduma, kuzofanele uthole isho ukuthini incazelo encane enikezwa igama elidumile. Lokho wukuthi, mhlawumbe enganeni yakho umdlali webhola lezinyawo ubalulekile ngoba udumile, hhayi ngoba engumdlali osezingeni eliphezulu.
Ngakho-ke ngaphambi kokuba ukhale futhi uguqule leso sifiso sibe yimpi, xoxa nengane yakho. Mbuze obala ukuthi yini ayithatha njengeyakhe, adume ngayo. Ngoba mhlawumbe umqondo wakho walelo gama awulungile futhi lapho wazi iqiniso ulahlekelwa intshisekelo.
Namuhla umhlaba "wosaziwayo" uhluke kakhulu kunalokho owawuyikho emashumini ambalwa eminyaka adlule. Ngaleso sikhathi, abadumile kwakungabaculi, abasubathi, abalingisi nabalingisi nabanye. Kodwa-ke, namuhla ezinganeni, noma ngubani onethonya elithile ekuxhumaneni nomphakathi angaba inkomba yalokho okudume ngakho. Futhi, yize kungenzeka ukuthi uqinisile ngokwengxenye, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi ingane yakho iwuqonde kahle umqondo wokuba ngumuntu odumile.
Thola izintshisekelo zengane yakho
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi njengomama noma ubaba, ukhathazeke ngokwazi izintshisekelo zengane yakho. Ukuze ukwazi ukumsiza futhi umqondise endleleni ehamba phambili, okungasho ukuthi kufanele kube ngeyakho. Uma ingane yakho ikhombisa intshisekelo emhlabeni wobuciko, mhlawumbe unekhono layo futhi ungamsiza ukuthi anike amandla ubuciko bakhe. Ngaphandle kwale ncazelo ukufuna udumo ngazo zonke izindlela, ngoba lokho ngokungangabazeki kuzoba yindlela engafanele.
Kwazi bani ukuthi ngelinye ilanga ingane yakho iyoze idume ngobuhle bayo, ngokuthola kwayo, ngeqhaza layo kwezesayensi, ezobuciko noma ezemidlalo? Kungenzeka ukuthi kuzoba uphawu lokuma ngokuzayo, kepha uma liphumelela, kungaba ngentengo yokufaneleka, imizamo yakho yokwenza uphawu kulo mhlaba. Ukufeza lokhu, ungakhohlwa ukuchaza ukuthi intengo yodumo iyini.
Intengo yodumo
Ngendlela efanele iminyaka, ngokuqonda nangokuzwela okuningi, chaza ukuthi iningi lalabo bafana abadumile manje, kusasa bazoyeka ukuba khona futhi bangazithola sebengasebenzi, ngaphandle kobungcweti, nangekusasa eliyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu. Ngalesi sizathu, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi noma yini abafuna ukuyenza, ukuthi baziqeqeshe, bazilungiselele futhi bathole wonke amathuluzi akhona wokusebenzisa amakhono abo ngokugcwele.
Ngoba ukuqeqeshwa kuyisisekelo sokuziphendukela kwemvelo, ngaphandle kwalesi sisho sokuthi ukuba nomsebenzi noma izifundo ezithile kuzoba ukhiye wempumelelo. Impumelelo itholakala ngomzamo, ukusebenza, umzabalazo, futhi mhlawumbe ingane yakho izimisele ukunikela ngakho konke lokho ukufeza inhloso yayo. Lokho akukubi, ungazami ukumphambukisa kuleyo ndlela ngoba phela, uma indodana yakho inemibono ecace kangako, kungcono ukuthi uyisize. Ukuthi useceleni kwakhe ukumkhuthaza futhi uma kudingeka, mnikeze ihlombe lakho ukuthola induduzo.