Indodana yami iphatha kabi izilwane. ndodana yami ngaphandle kokwesaba umsila wekati ukudonsa. Angazi ngingachaza ngithini ukuthi bayingxenye yomndeni abawona amathoyizi kumele ubahloniphe...
Ingabe lolu hlobo lwamazwana noma umusho uzwakala ujwayelene nezilwane? Nakuba kungase kubonakale kungakholeki ukuthi ingane ifuna ukulimaza esinye isidalwa esiphilayo, ngezinye izikhathi kunezimo lapho «bayathanda ukubaphatha kubingaphandle kokuqaphela. Namuhla sizoxoxa nge ukuphathwa kabi ezilwaneni ngezinye izingane.
Kungase kwenzeke ukuthi izingane zikhangwe izilwane nakuba indlela yazo, ikakhulukazi uma isencane kakhulu, ingafaneleki ngaso sonke isikhathi. Bavundulula umhlaba, futhi phakathi kwakho konke abakutholayo sithola izilwane. Izidalwa eziphilayo ezihambayo, ezihlukile kuzo futhi ezibukeka njengezintuthwane ezingazibona ekamelweni lazo noma emakhathuni.
Akunzima ukubona izingane ezihlukumeza izilwane ezifuywayo, zibulala izinambuzane ezincane noma ukubamba izilwane ezihuquzelayo ukuze uzibheke futhi ufunde ngazo. Futhi lokho akusho ukuthi bangabantu ababi.
Sizobhekana nesihloko ngombono wengqondo nesayensi.
Izinganekwane ezingamanga nezinkolelo ezingamanga ngobudlelwano phakathi kwezingane nezilwane
noma yisiphi isenzo sodlame esenziwa ingane esilwaneni ngokuqinisekile kuyisenzo esivusa ukukhathazeka emehlweni omzali. Futhi lokho kujwayelekile ngoba siyazi ukuthi kwenzekani, kodwa izingane aziboni.
Ngokuvamile, lapho izingane zisencane kakhulu (sikhuluma ngeminyaka yobudala zasenkulisa) ilukuluku labo lemvelo lingadala okuhlangenwe nakho okungajabulisi kwezilwane ezifuywayo. Kungenzeka ukuthi isipiliyoni sakho sokuqala nesilwane futhi awukakafundi ukuthi uphathwa kanjani futhi usinakekele. Izingane azikalungeli ukuxhumana nesilwane futhi kancane nokusabela okungalindelekile kwezilwane ezincane. Kufanele sibafundise indlela yokwenza.
Ithini isayensi ngokukhulisa izingane ngezilwane?
Ocwaningweni lwesayensi olushicilelwe ku Ijenali yePediatric Psychology Kwaphenywa ukuthi ukufundisa izingane ngobudlelwano obufanele nesilwane kungaba yimpumelelo yini nokuthi kungenziwa kanjani. Iphuzu elibalulekile elivele kulolu cwaningo yileli ukungaqiniseki kokusabela kwazo zombili izingane ezincane kakhulu kanye nezilwane ngokwazo. Ukusabela ngezinye izikhathi okungajabulisi futhi okungalawuleki.
En zasenkulisa, okudidaniswa nokuhlukumeza, ezimweni eziningi, kungafundwa njenge ukuntula isipiliyoni sokunakekelwa (noma ukudlala) kokuziphatha nesilwane.
Inkulumo ihluke kancane uma kukhulunywa ngezingane ezindala. Esimweni esinjalo, izingane ezifunda isikole sezivele zikwazi ukuqonda ukuthi isilwane asiyona into yokudlala, kodwa isidalwa esiphilayo esikwazi ukuzwa ubuhlungu uma silinyazwa. Kulokhu, uma ubona lokhu kuziphatha kwengane yakho, iseluleko sami siwukuxhumana nochwepheshe wesayensi yezengqondo yezemfundo ongakusiza futhi akunikeze ulwazi olubalulekile.
Lawa amathiphu ethu:
Yimiphi imizwelo esiyizwayo?
“Ngiyesaba: kuzoba ikusasa lobugebengu?”
"Kuyangicasula, ngiyazithanda izilwane kakhulu!!"Sicabangani:
"Ukwenzelani lokho?"
"Mhlawumbe angizange ngikunake kahle!"
“Kuthiwani uma lesi simo siba sibi kakhulu?”
"Kwazi bani ukuthi omakhelwane bami bazothini uma bebona lezi zigcawu kuvulandi!"Esingakwenza:
"Ngingabuza"
“Ngingakhuluma nochwepheshe okuqondayo okungikhathazayo nokwaziyo ukunginika ulwazi oluwusizo”
Yini esingayenza ngokuzijwayeza?
- Ungalindeli ukuthi ingane yakho izokwazi ukunakekela isilwane ngokushesha: funda ukunakekela kuyinto okufanele futhi ifaniswe, iqondwe futhi ifundwe. Kancane kancane.
- Lalela emicabangweni yakho: zama ukunciphisa imizwa esimweni osiqaphelayo.
- Imayelana qaphela ukuthuthukiswa okuncane (njengokusondela esilwaneni ngobumnene) futhi unake lezi zikhathi ngokufanele, usidumise lapho sisondela ngokufanelekile.
- Uma kwenzeka ukuziphatha okungafanele, buza ingane yakho ukuthi yazizwa kanjani (hhayi ukuthi ikwenzeleni lokho).
- Uma ukuziphatha kuba kwande kakhulu, funa iseluleko sochwepheshe.