Ukukhulisa izingane akulula, kepha ukuthola isitayela semfundo esivumelana nezinjongo zakho kanye nezomlingani wakho nakho kungaba yinselele. Izingane zidinga bobabili umama nobaba ukuze zikhule kahle. Badinga ukuthi abazali babo bavumelane ngesitayela sokuba ngumzali ukuze bangadideki.
Abazali badinga ukukuqaphela lokhu ukuze bakwazi ukuhlanganisa imibono yabo ibe isitayela esingaguquguquki sokuba ngumzali esizuzisa izingane futhi sizilungiselele impilo. Ukwazi ukuthi ubaba ngamunye nomama ngamunye banomlando wabo, kufanele bakhuliswe ngenhlonipho nangokuhlangana.
Isitayela somama
Omama bavame ukusondelana, yize lokhu sekuyinto nobaba abaqala ukuyenza, ngenhlanhla. Kwesinye isikhathi akunakugwenywa ukuthi umama azi ukuthi ziyini izidingo eziyisisekelo noma imizwa yengane esanda kuzalwa yize ingane esanda kuzalwa ingakwazi ukukhuluma. Umzwelo womama uvela enkundleni kulezi zimo.
Omama futhi bathambekele ekukhulumeni amagama ezinganeni zabo, ngoba imvamisa bakhuluma kakhulu kunamadoda. Lokhu kungazibonakalisa nokuba ngumzali lapho umama anganikeza khona amagama amaningi kanye nenkhulumomphendvulwano eveza okulindelwe. ngokusobala futhi sikhulume ngezihloko ezihlobene nesiyalo.
Omama (nobaba) babeka izidingo zezingane zabo ngaphezu kwezabo, kubonakala sengathi kuhlelwe ukuzidela bona kusukela lapho ethola ukuthi ukhulelwe.
Isitayela sokuba ngumzali
Ngokuvamile abazali bagxila ezinganeni zabo zenze izinto futhi zinamathele emithethweni ngokungaguquguquki. Bangagxila kakhulu ekulungiseleleni izingane zabo umhlaba wangempela, noma lokhu kwenziwa nangomama. Ngenhlanhla, ukuxhumana ngokomzwelo abazali abanakho nezingane zabo kuyakhula, into emashumini eminyaka adlule eyabonakala ngokungabikho kwayo.
Obaba abenzi amagama afane nomama kwazise amadoda, ngokuvamile, asebenzisa amagama nolimi ngaphansi kwabesifazane. Kwesinye isikhathi ubaba angabonakala enzima kunomama, kepha lawo mandla ahloselwe ukulungiselela izingane zakhe umhlaba wangempela. Abazali bathambekele ekuphoqeleni imiphumela ngokushesha okukhulu futhi kwesinye isikhathi ngokuxhamazela… kufanele bakhulume ngezinto ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
Abazali nabo bayazidela ngenxa yezingane zabo futhi njengamanje bagxile kakhulu emindenini yabo, yize kusakuthola kunzima ukugxila ezinganeni zabo ngawodwana. Okuthile kancane kancane kuyashintsha njengabazali isikhathi ngasinye bazi kangcono ngokubaluleka kwayo ekukhuleni kwengane.
Imiphumela yokungazihlanganisi izitayela zobuzali
Bobabili obaba nomama banendima ebalulekile ezimpilweni zezingane zabo. Ngalesi sizathu, izindima nezitayela ezahlukahlukene kufanele zihlanganiswe nendlela ehambisanayo yokuba ngumzali osebenzayo kuzo zonke izici.
Uma izitayela zokubeletha zingahlanganiswa, kungahle kube nemiphumela emibi eminingi okufanele ibhekwe:
- Izingane zingazizwa zididekile noma ziphikisana nokulindelwe okuhlukile noma imikhuba engaba khona ekhaya uma abazali bengavumelani.
- Lapho abazali bebonakala behluke kakhulu uma kukhulunywa ngokukhulisa izingane zabo, izingane zingasondela komunye noma komunye kuya ngokuthi iyiphi evumelana nazo kakhulu nganoma yisiphi isikhathi.
- Njengoba izingane zikhula kungaqala kube nezingxabano ekhaya ngenxa yokungavikeleki okudluliswayo futhi zingagcina zinezinkinga noma ukuqondaniswa kwabazali.
Yenza umzali asebenze
Ukuthola ibhalansi elifanele ekukhuliseni kubalulekile ekuphumeleleni. Ukulinganisa nokuxuba kudinga ukucabanga ngokucophelela nokwenza okuthile ngakwabazali. Ukuze ibhalansi isebenze kahle, kuzodingeka ukuthi kucatshangwe ngokukhulisa izingane futhi kubhekwe la maphuzu alandelayo:
- Xoxa. Abazali abanezindlela ezahlukahlukene zokukhulisa izingane kuzofanele bathole indawo abavumelana ngayo nokuthi bobabili bangakwenza kanjani lokho. Ukuxhumana okuhle, ukukhuluma ngomehluko, bese ukubambisana nokuzibophezela kungasiza ekutholeni ukuxubana okulungile kobuzali.
- Ukusekelana. Abazali badinga ukulekelelana ekukhuliseni izingane. Izingane zingafunda ngokushesha ukuthi zingaxabanisa kanjani omunye umzali futhi zivule ingxabano phakathi kwazo. Zama ukungaphikisani phambi kwezingane zakho nomlingani wakho ngezinkinga zobuzali. Uma omunye wenu kufanele avumele omunye umzali ahole esimweni esithile, makwenzeke lokho bese nikhuluma ngakho kamuva.
- Qaphela ukuba ngumzali okungaqondakali. Ngezikhathi lapho abazali banezindlela ezahlukahlukene, nquma kusenesikhathi ukuvumela umzali onqande kakhulu ukuba anqobe. Izingane zizozama ukukukhohlisa bese ziya kumzali obuyisana kakhulu kuqala ... ukuhlala ngaphakathi kwemikhawulo eqinile ngisho nasekuqaleni kuzovimbela izingane ekuzameni ukukukhohlisa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi.
- Cacisa ngamanani abalulekile. Lapho bobabili abazali befuna ukufundisa nokuqinisa izindinganiso ezifanayo, izitayela ezahlukene zokuba ngumzali zisebenza kahle kakhulu. Ngakho-ke cabanga ngokucophelela ngesitatimende semishini yomndeni esifaka amanani abalulekile umndeni wakho awaphakamisayo. Lapho-ke, njengoba nizalana ndawonye, ningahlangana ezintweni ezibalulekile futhi nikhombe indlela engcono yokuthola amanani ahlanganisiwe kunoma yisiphi isimo. "Okuhle kakhulu" kuzokusiza uthole ukugxila okulungile.
- Funa usizo uma kunesidingo. Uma uzithola ungqubuzana njalo ngezitayela zobuzali, kuwumqondo omuhle ukukhuluma nomelaphi womndeni othembekile noma umngani ukuze ukwazi ukubona izinto ngenye indlela. Ungacabanga nokuya esikoleni sokuba ngumzali kanye nomlingani wakho ukuze nizokwazi ukucabanga ukuthi isitayela sakho sobuzali singaba ngcono kanjani futhi sibhekane kangcono nezinkinga ezithile zomndeni ngale ndlela.
- Ukusebenza ndawonye ukufanisa izitayela zokubeletha kuthatha umsebenzi omningi nendlela ethile. Kepha umthelela omuhle ezinganeni zakho ngokuzama ukusebenza ngempumelelo njengezihlobo ungamangalisa ngempela futhi uwufanele wonke umsebenzi. Beka izingane phambili, yazi ukuthi izitayela ezahlukahlukene azizimbi, kodwa zehlukile, futhi nixhumana ndawonye njengabazali, futhi ngale ndlela niyothola ukuthi, lonke leli bhizinisi lokukhulisa izingane liyinqubo ezuzisa kakhulu kunalokho elibonwa ngakho. izikhathi ezishubile.