Isimo somzali othanda izidakamizwa singase sibe isici abazali abaningi abangasinaki, ngoba kuvamile ukuba nalokhu kuziphatha benganakile. I-Narcissism izalwa ngobuntu obuningi Futhi zingafanelana nempilo yethu Kepha eziningi zazo zifakiwe kulokho okuchazwe ngempela futhi kungahle kube yilokho kuthinta ukuziphatha kwezingane zethu.
Ngaphandle kokungabaza, lokho abazali abakufuna kakhulu yilokho ube nezingane eziphumelelayo futhi bafuna ukukwenza lokho ngezidingo zabo zobugovu. Abacabangi ukuthi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi abagcini ngokuba lusizo ezinganeni futhi lokho kungaholela kukho izinhloso ezingakhiqizi noma ezinenani.
Izici eziyisisekelo zomuntu othanda ukucasula
Kunezimpawu eziningi ezikwenza kucace ukuthi umuntu uyisichwensi. Endabeni kababa othanda ukukhuluma kabi, kuvame ukuholela ekutheni izingane ngokwazo awazi ukuthi bahlala ndawonye nobaba onjalo.
Kwezinye izimo, kungabashadikazi abathi uyaphika ukuthi umyeni wakhe unalesi sici Futhi-ke awufuni lowo muntu njengomfundisi wezingane zakho. Bangabantu abayize kakhulu, bahlala bekhuluma ngabo ngoba bacabanga ukuthi baphakeme.
Njalo basebenzisa abantu ukuze kuzuze bona nokuthi ibafanele nini. Bathanda ukuthola ukunakwa ngabantu ukuze bakwazi kube sobala ngaleyo ndlela bakwazi ukunqoba impumelelo yabo.
Ngokusobala lezi akuzona izici ezihamba phambili ezinganikezwa ingane njengesibonelo, ngoba zingakhula ngochungechunge lwe amanani angavinjelwa kahle kakhulu. Futhi banesici sokungakutholi ukugxekwa kahle futhi bathukuthele kakhulu.
Ngabe ubaba othanda ukuxhaphaza usebenza kanjani phambi kwezingane zakhe?
Umzali othanda ukucasula angagcina edalile imfundo enezimpumelelo ezimbalwa kakhulu, izingane zingabonakala zinemfundo ejwayelekile, kepha hhayi ekujuleni kwenhliziyo zingakufinyelela lokhu ukulimala ngokwengqondo. Bonke abazali bafuna okungcono kakhulu ezinganeni zethu futhi zibheke zikhula futhi ziphumelele. Abazali abangamaNarcissistic ngokuvamile abaqondi ukuthi bakha izingane ezinezidingo ezifanayo ukuzicabangela bona uqobo lwabo. Bayabafundisa ngenhloso yokuthi babe izingane ezifanele futhi ngaleyo ndlela bafeze amaphupho afanayo abafuna ukuwafeza bona.
Ngale ndlela izingane azikhuli ngamaphupho abo nokukhathazeka kwabo. Ngeke bakhule benemigomo efanayo futhi bazokwazisa izinto ngendlela yesiko, bazohambisana nezindinganiso ezingafaneleki ezifanayo nezikayise.
Ingane angakhula ethola ukunconywa okuningi ohlangothini lukababa, futhi ngesikhathi sokubona ukuthi lokhu isimo sengqondo siyanyamalala. Ugcina ngokubona ukuthi yinto yokwenziwa kakhulu. Njengoba bekhula, bazoziqhathanisa nabazali babo bese bezama ukuthola impumelelo efanayo. Okubi kunakho konke ukuthi ubaba ngeke uzizwe uziqhenya kakhulu Futhi kungabuthinta kakhulu ubudlelwane phakathi kwalaba bobabili.
Umama okhathazekile usebenza kanjani nobaba oyindlamlenze?
Kukhona omama abakhathazekile ngalolu daba nabesifazane abazama qeda ubudlelwano bakho ngalesi sizathu. Ezimweni eziningi bafuna ukuqeda ukuxhumana okuphelele noma ukunciphisa ukuxhumana phakathi kukababa nezingane zakhe, ngoba bangabantu abangqubuzanayo. Imvamisa kwenzeka ukuthi ihlale iqhumisa izimpi futhi lesi simo kufanele sigwenywe ngangokunokwenzeka.
Kulezi zinhlobo zezimbangela asikho isilinganiso esiqondile sokwenza, kepha kukhona uchungechunge lwezincomo olungasetshenziswa, ngoba kuyadingeka ukukhuluma nomuntu onjalo lapho kudingeka. Kuzo zonke lezi zinkhulumomphendvulwano, kuzoxoxwa ngakho konke okuphathelene ngqo nokuba ngumzali.
Kunzima ukuqondisa izingane ngendlela engcono badlule ekukhulisweni ngenkani, kepha akukho okungenzeki. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi ungabeka amazinga futhi uholele izingane amanani amahle kakhulu. Kufanele bazame ukuchitha isikhathi esincane ngangokunokwenzeka nalaba bantu, ngoba abawazisi amaqiniso ngendlela enhle. Futhi abavumeli ukuba baphile ngokukhululeka nangokuziqhenya. Khumbula ukuthi kufanele qinisa amanani amahle ukuze izingane zikhule zizinzile futhi zazi ukuhlonipha imithetho yomphakathi.