Lapho kuphela izingane ezihlaselwa ngezipho nemivuzo, zithola umyalezo, "Ngihlala ngithola lokho engikufunayo." Akukephuzi kakhulu ukumisa ukunikezwa ngokweqile kwezipho. Imibhikisho engokomzwelo kungenzeka ilandele, kepha ukuthatha lesi sikhundla kuzokhokha ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Abazali kumele babone ukuthi akuzona izipho ezibalulekile; yisikhathi osichitha nengane esibaluleke kakhulu.
Ungayenzi ngokweqile ngendodana yakho okuwukuphela kwayo
Ngenkathi ukhulisa ingane, mhlawumbe uzozinakekela zonke izidingo zayo. Ngokuphambene nalokho, izingane ezinezelamani kufanele "zilinde emgqeni" ukuze zihlangabezane nezidingo zazo.
Ukufunda ukulinda kuyisifundo esibalulekile. Ukuvikela izingane kuphela ekuthuthukiseni isimo esithi "Engikufunayo, engikutholayo", abazali kufanele:
- Beka imikhawulo
- Ukubambezeleka kokuzanelisa
- Thobela imithetho yasekhaya
- Faka isiyalo ngokusebenzisa imihlahlandlela nokulindelwe
Musa ukulwela injabulo njalo
Uma uthanda indodana yakho okuwukuphela kwayo futhi uzitika ngayo, uzozisola ngokuyenza ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Omunye wemiphumela yalokho kuzitika ngokweqile: Abanye abantwana kuphela abafuna ukuba nakho konke ngokwemibono yabo. Bathuthukisa umqondo wokuthi "kuyindlela yami noma akulutho" ... bacabanga ukuthi banamalungelo amaningi ukudlula noma ngubani omunye umuntu nokuthi amalungelo abo angaphezulu kwawo wonke amanye.
Njengoba ochwepheshe nabazali besho, ukunakwa okuhlukanisiwe okutholwa yingane kuphela kubazali bayo kungaba yithonya elihle noma elibi. Kepha uma ugwema ezinye izingibe ezivamile futhi unikeza ingane yakho okuwukuphela kwayo uthando lwakho olungenamibandela, ngokungangabazeki uzophumelela. Eqinisweni, abazali abaningi bezingane kuphela abathi ubudlelwane babo nezingane zabo bufana nobungane obuhle. Okuhle kunakho konke, bathi, kungubungani obuhle obuhlala impilo yonke! Ngoba ukukhulisa ingane kunzima kakhulu kunokumosha, kepha kufanelekile.