Ukusizakala ngeqiniso lokuthi kusasa uSuku Lwabesifazane Lwamazwe Ngamazwe, ngithanda ukukhuluma nawe ngodaba olubalulekile emphakathini, kubo bonke abantu kanye nanoma imuphi umndeni, futhi lokho wukuthi akufanele sikushaye indiva: indima yabesifazane emphakathini wethu nokuthi kuhlobene kanjani ne umthwalo wemfanelo owabiwe emndenini nasemphakathiniKuze kube yiminyaka embalwa edlule, abesifazane babesavalelwe ezweni elilawulwa yizinzalamizi lapho babekholelwa khona ukuthi indima yabo kwakuwukukhulisa izingane nokubonga imizamo yabayeni babo yokuletha imali ekhaya.
Mhlawumbe igama elithi "unya" liyihaba kakhulu kwabanye abantu, futhi bazozivikela ngokusho nokuvikela umbono wokuthi abaningi balabo besifazane babejabule ukuphila impilo enjalo, futhi ngaphandle kokungena kuleyo ngxoxo, umuntu angavuma ngekhanda athi kuyiqiniso. Kodwa futhi kwakukhona nabesifazane abaningi abazinikele ekunikeleni amaphupho abo. ngokuphila indlela yokuphila umphakathi owawubafakela yona, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi bayayithanda noma cha.
Ngenhlanhla, konke lokho kuyashintsha, futhi yize izinsalela zalowo mphakathi osephelelwe yisikhathi zisekhona, abesifazane balwe kanzima ukuze bafinyelele izimpilo abazijabulelayo namuhla. Yebo, mhlawumbe kunjalo Umsebenzi owengeziwe wabesifazane abasebenza ngaphandle kwekhaya, ngaphezu kokuba ngamakhosikazi emakhayaKufanele bakhulise izingane zabo futhi bajabulele impilo. Kodwa kungenzeka, futhi abaningi bethu bayakuthanda ukukwenza.
Ukuze lokhu kube ngokoqobo, ukuba owesifazane azizwe ekhululekile ngempela ezinqumweni zakhe zokuphila nokuthi ukuba owesifazane angamenzi azizwe engaphansi kwendoda (ngisho nangokweholo), khona-ke… Kumelwe kuqale ekhaya, ngoba abantwana bayikusasa. Futhi lokho abakubonayo ekhaya yilokho abazokudlulisela emphakathini abazothuthuka kuwo futhi babe ngabantu abadala.
Kuyini ukuba nomthwalo wemfanelo ngokubambisana emndenini nasemphakathini?
Uma sikhuluma ngokulingana kanye nendima yabesifazane, akwanele ukukhuluma nje ngokulinganisela emsebenzini nempilo. Kubalulekile ukwethula umqondo wokuthi umthwalo wemfanelo womndeni kanye nowezenhlaloUmthwalo wemfanelo ohlanganyelwe, kalula nje, ukwabiwa okulinganiselayo kwemisebenzi yasekhaya kanye nemithwalo yemfanelo yokunakekela phakathi kwabesilisa nabesifazane, ukuze impilo yabo bobabili yabiwe ngokulinganayo.
Lokhu kuhlanganisa okungaphezu nje kokuwasha izingubo ngezikhathi ezithile. Kuhilela ukwabelana ngomsebenzi ngokulinganayo. inhlangano yendlu, lo ukukhulisa amadodana namadodakazi, the ukunakekelwa kwabantu abaxhomeke kubo futhi i umsebenzi womzwelo okusekela umndeni. Uma kunomthwalo wemfanelo ohlanganyelwe, imisebenzi yobungcweti yabesifazane, impilo, kanye nenhlalakahle akusathintwa kabi yizidingo zokunakekela.
Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukubambisana akugcini nje ezindongeni ezine zendlu. Kumelela ushintsho olukhulu emphakathini. lapho ohulumeni bomphakathi, izinkampani, izikhungo zemfundo kanye nezinhlangano zomphakathi zithatha ingxenye yazo yesibopho ukuze amadoda nabesifazane bakwazi ukunakekela nokusebenza ngaphansi kwezimo ezilinganayo.
Ukuthuthukiswa kobungcweti: umsebenzi nezifundo
Intuthuko yobungcweti emphakathini wethu iya ngokuya idingeka ukuze ihambisane nesikhathi, emiphakathini yezenhlalo ehlala ishintsha futhi ikhula. Kuze kube muva nje, amadoda ayenokufinyelela okubalulekile emfundweni nasezidingweni zaseyunivesithi, ezazibhekwa "njengamadoda" kuphela. Ngenhlanhla, lowo mkhawulo usuvele unqotshiwe futhi abesifazane banenkululeko yokukhetha iziqu zaseyunivesithi abazifunayo. ukuthuthuka ngokomsebenzi emkhakheni esiwufisayo.
Nokho, Ukulingana okusemthethweni ekufinyeleleni imfundo akuhlali kuhunyushwa kube ukulingana kwangempelaUkukhetha imisebenzi kusathonywa kakhulu yimibono engafani ngobulili, futhi abesifazane abaningi bayaqhubeka nokugxila emisebenzini ehlobene nokunakekelwa, evame ukunganakwa futhi engakhokhelwa kahle.
Kodwa kwenzekani uma owesifazane eba ngumama? Ingabe isikhathi sakhe njengomfundi siphela unomphela ngoba kufanele anakekele izingane zakhe? Lutho neze. Ukuba ngumama akufanele kube ukuphela kwentuthuko yemfundo.Futhi ngokusekelwa umlingani nomndeni noma inethiwekhi yokuxhumana nabantu, kungenzeka ukuthola ibhalansi ukuze bobabili abazali bajabulele amathuba okuqeqeshwa afanayo.
Uma kwenzeka umsebenzi, Abesifazane bayaqhubeka nokubhekana nomthwalo ophindwe kabiliUkuze bafakazele ukuthi banekhono elifanayo nabalingani babo besilisa ngesikhathi esifanayo behlangabezana nokulindelwe yimindeni okuwela kubo ngokuyinhloko. Kubonakala sengathi ngisho nanamuhla, abesifazane kusadingeka bathathe isinyathelo esikhulu maqondana nomholo nokuqashelwa ngoba kunzima ukuqonda ukuthi owesifazane uyakwazi ukwenza umsebenzi ofanayo nowesilisa ngemiphumela egculisayo ngokulinganayo noma ngisho nangokwengeziwe.
Izinyathelo zokulinganisela impilo yomsebenzi, njengokunciphisa amahora okusebenza, ikhefu lokunakekela izingane, noma amashejuli omsebenzi aguquguqukayo, zisacelwa kakhulu ngabesifazane. Lokhu kunemiphumela eqondile kubo izindlela zomsebenzi: ukukhushulwa kwezikhundla okumbalwa, amaholo aphansi, ukungazethembi okukhulu emsebenzini, kanye nabantu abaningi abayeka imisebenzi yabo siqu.
Yingakho kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi izinqubomgomo zabasebenzi, izinkampani, kanye namasiko omndeni ngokwawo kugxile umthwalo wemfanelo ohlanganyelwe ekuthatheni lezi zimvume nezinyatheloUma ubaba enciphisa amahora akhe okusebenza ukuze anakekele izingane zakhe, uma indoda ibonakala ihilelekile ekunakekeleni izingane enkampanini yayo, ifaka isandla eqinisweni lokuthi ukuba ngumama akusabhekwa njengenkinga yomsebenzi wabesifazane kuphela.
Amathuba alinganayo kanye nokulingana ngokobulili
Sekungamashumi eminyaka abesifazane belwela (futhi bazoqhubeka belwela) amathuba alinganayo abawafaneleNgeshwa, kunemiphakathi enamasiko ahlukene engakakwazi ukubona lesi sinyathelo esibaluleke kakhulu, hhayi kwabesifazane kuphela, kodwa nakumphakathi wonke. Indima esebenzayo yabesifazane emphakathini iletha izinzuzo kuphela kunoma yiliphi ihlangothi olibheka ngalo.
Abesilisa nabesifazane bahlukile ngezindlela eziningi, kodwa futhi kuyiqiniso ukuthi Siyaphelelisana ukuze izinto zihambe kahleKungumthwalo wemfanelo wawo wonke umuntu ukuqhubekisela phambili umhlaba wethu, futhi lokhu kuhilela ukungabaza izindima zendabuko ezinikeza ukunakekela cishe kwabesifazane kuphela.
Umthwalo wemfanelo ngokubambisana usekelwe ku- ukulingana ngokobuliliOkusho ukuthi, ekwabiweni kwezinsizakusebenza, isikhathi, kanye nemithwalo yemfanelo ngendlela efanele. Lokhu kuhlanganisa isikhathi samahhala, amandla omzimba nangokomzwelo, imali engenayo, kanye nezingozi zempilo ezihambisana nomthwalo ophindwe kabili othwalwa ngabesifazane abaningi.
Uma imisebenzi yokunakekela isatshalaliswa ngokungalingani, amaphethini obulili avamile ayaqhutshekiswa: Bayanakekela, bakhiqizaUkwephula le ndlela kudinga ukuguqulwa okujulile kwezinkolelo, imikhuba, kanye nokulindela. Akukhona nje ukuthi amadoda "asize," kodwa futhi nokuthi athathe umthwalo wemfanelo wezenzo zawo. umthwalo wemfanelo ogcwele noqondayo ekhaya kanye nomndeni.
Amathuba alinganayo nawo ayabonakala emkhakheni wezemfundo, njengoba Izingane kufanele zikwazi ukuqhubeka nomsebenzi wazo ngaphandle kokucwaswa. Noma ukucwasa ngokobulili. Ukubona ekhaya ukuthi bobabili ubaba nomama bahilelekile kuyo yonke imisebenzi (kusukela ekushintsheni inabukeni kuya ekulungiseni ipulaki) kuqeda amalebula anjengokuthi "lokhu kungokwamantombazane" noma "lokhu kungokwabafana".
Imisebenzi yasekhaya: ukwahlukana kwangempela nokuqaphile
Futhi njengoba ngishilo ekuqaleni, owesifazane, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi usebenza noma cha, akayona isigqila sanoma ubani, ngakho-ke Imisebenzi yasekhaya ingumthwalo wemfanelo wawo wonke amalungu bekhaya elifanayo ukuze nihlale ndawonye ngokuzwana.
Nakuba yonke imindeni ihlukile futhi indlela imisebenzi ehlukaniswa ngayo izoncika ezimweni zomndeni, okuqinisekile nokungafanele kuntuleke yilokhu ukulingana kanye nokulingana emisebenzini yasekhayaNgale ndlela, abesilisa nabesifazane kufanele babelane ngemisebenzi yasekhaya ngokwesikhathi abanaso kanye nezidingo zabo zangempela, ukuze ukuhlala ndawonye kube yimpumelelo futhi bobabili babe nendima esebenzayo.
Uma sikhuluma ngemisebenzi yasekhaya, asisho nje ukuhlanza noma ukupheka. Siphinde sihlanganise... ukuphathwa kwezimali zasekhaya, ukuhlela ukuthenga, ukulungisa nokunakekela ikhaya, ukuhlela ama-aphoyintimenti ezokwelapha, imisebenzi yesikole neyemisebenzi yangaphandle, kanye nazo zonke izinto ezenza impilo yomndeni isebenze.
Ingxenye enkulu yalo mthwalo ayibonakali futhi ivame ukuwela kwabesifazane ngesimo umthwalo wengqondoYibo abakhumbula izinsuku, babikezele izidingo, bahlele amashejuli, futhi babone izinkinga kusengaphambili. Ukubambisana kusho ukuthi lokhu kuhlela nakho kuyabiwa, hhayi nje ukwenziwa kwemisebenzi ethile.
Ithuluzi elilula lokuqhubekela phambili ukuhlala phansi njengomndeni, senze uhlu oluningiliziwe lwazo zonke imisebenzi yasekhaya (kufaka phakathi emincane nebonakala ingabalulekile) bese niyihlukanisa. ngokucacile nangokungaguquguqukiUkuhlukaniswa kwemithwalo yemfanelo kubuyekezwa njalo. Umgomo akukhona ukuthi yonke into ihlukaniswe ngokuqinile ngo-50/50, kodwa kunalokho ukuthi bonke abantu abadala ekhaya bazizwe benesibopho esifanayo sokusebenza kahle kwekhaya.
Izingane zizokubona lokhu futhi kuzoba isibonelo esibaluleke kakhulu kubo nasekukhuleni kwabo kwangaphakathi. Ukukhulela ekhaya elinomthwalo wemfanelo ndawonye Kubafundisa ukuthi ukunakekelwa akunabo ubulili nokuthi bonke abantu bafanelwe isikhathi sokuphumula, ukufunda, ukusebenza nokujabulela.
Ukunakekelwa kwezingane nokunakekelwa kwabanye abantu abathembele kuzo
Njengoba nje abesifazane bake bacatshangwa ukuthi banesibopho sokupheka nokuhlanza ikhaya, kwakukholelwa nokuthi abesifazane kufanele babe nesibopho sokukhulisa izingane kuphela nokuthi ubaba wayemane nje eyisibonelo sokuqondisa okufanele izingane zisilandele ukuze zilalele (ngokuvamile ngenxa yokwesaba nokuqonda okungafanele isiyalo). Lo mqondo ugcizelele ukuthi umthwalo wemfanelo okhethekile wokukhulisa izingane ngasohlangothini lowesifazane.
Lokhu sekuyisikhathi esidlule futhi, kulezi zinsuku, kuyaziwa ukuthi izingane zidinga ukubamba iqhaza okusebenzayo, okulinganayo nokuhlelekile kwabazali bobabili ukuze ukukhuliswa, imfundo, kanye nobuhlobo obungokomzwelo nabo bobabili kufaneleke ekukhuleni kwabo kanye nenhlalakahle yabo ngokomzwelo. Indima kababa ekukhulelweni, ekubelethweni nasekukhuliseni izingane kubaluleke njengokwamama.
Izingane zidinga okungaphezu nje kwezingubo, indawo yokuhlala, kanye nokudla okushisayo. Kudingeka bazizwe sengathi abazali babo nabo basohlangothini lwabo.ukuthi bobabili bahlanganyela emisebenzini yansuku zonke (ukugeza, umsebenzi wesikole, ukuvakashelwa udokotela, ukusekelwa ngokomzwelo) nokuthi bangathembela kunoma ubani kubo ukuthi aveze imizwa yabo.
Umthwalo wemfanelo ohlanganyelwe uhlanganisa nokunakekelwa abanye abantu abaxhomeke kubo ngaphakathi komndeni, njengokunakekela asebekhulile, abagulayo, noma abantu abakhubazekile. Ngokwesiko, le misebenzi iye yawela emadodakazini, komalokazana, kanye nezinye izihlobo zesifazane, okubangela umthwalo omkhulu futhi ongaziwa kakhulu. Ukusabalalisa lokhu kunakekelwa ngokulinganayo, ukufuna izinsiza zokusekela, kanye nokufuna izinsizakalo zomphakathi ezanele yizici ezibalulekile zokufeza ukulingana.
Izibalo zisabonisa ukuthi Iningi labo ngabesifazane abayeka ukusebenza noma banciphise amahora abo okusebenza ukuze banakekele izingane zabo. ezinganeni noma ezihlotsheni ezithembele kuzo. Lokhu kuntuleka kwemithwalo yemfanelo ehlanganyelwe kuvimbela ukuqashwa kwabesifazane, kwandisa igebe lomholo, futhi kubangele abesifazane abaningi ukuba badele isikhathi sabo, imigomo, namathuba abo.
Ukufundisa izingane kusukela zisencane ukuqonda ukuthi ukunakekela izingane kuwumsebenzi obalulekile nohlanganyelwe kungenye yezindlela ezinhle kakhulu zokutshala imali esikhathini esizayo. Ukubona abazali bazo behlukanisa imisebenzi, bekhuluma ngokukhululekile ngesikhathi, ukukhathala, nezidingo, futhi becela usizo lapho kudingeka kubenza bakhule benomntwana. umbono olinganayo nozwela kakhulu.
Umsebenzi ongokomzwelo kanye nenhlalakahle yomndeni
Uma sikhuluma ngomthwalo wemfanelo ngokubambisana, sivame ukucabanga kuqala ngemisebenzi yezinto ezibonakalayo, kodwa kukhona isici esibaluleke ngokulinganayo: umsebenzi womzweloKumayelana nayo yonke imisebenzi ethuthukisa inhlalakahle futhi inikeze ukusekelwa ngokomzwelo kwabanye nakuwe: ukulalela ngokucophelela, ukunikeza ukwesekwa, ukukhulisa ubudlelwano, ukusingatha izingxabano, ukuhlela imikhosi noma izikhathi ezikhethekile, okuhambisana nokukhala nokukhungatheka.
Lo msebenzi futhi abesifazane kakhulu futhi abaqashelwa kahleOmama abaningi baphatha umndeni ngokomzwelo: banaka indlela izingane zabo ezizizwa ngayo, bakhumbula izinsuku zokuzalwa, baxhumana nomndeni omkhulu, baxazulule izingxabano, futhi bazama ukuqinisekisa ukuthi "wonke umuntu ulungile." Nakuba lokhu kuwumsebenzi obalulekile enhlalakahleni yomndeni, akuvamile ukubhekwa njengomthwalo wemfanelo okufanele wabelwane ngawo.
Umthwalo wemfanelo ngokubambisana kusho ukuthi Amadoda nabesifazane kufanele baqeqeshwe futhi bahileleke ekunakekelweni ngokomzwelo yomndeni. Ubaba ohlala phansi ukuze alalele indodana yakhe esencane ngaphandle kokwahlulela, ehamba nayo ngesikhathi sokucasuka, ehlela ukuvakashela isihlobo esigulayo, eqaphela imizwa yakhe futhi eyabelana ngayo, nakho kuyindlela enamandla yokulingana.
Ukusebenza kulesi sici kuhilela ukuthuthukisa ukuxhumana emibhangqwaneni nasemindeniniZijwayeze ukulalela ngenkuthalo, qinisekisani imizwa yomunye nomunye, futhi nivumelane ngendlela yokuphatha ukungezwani kwansuku zonke. Ukubambisana akugcini nje ngokuba umuntu ngamunye enze indima yakhe buthule, kodwa mayelana nokwakha ndawonye indlela yokuphila enakekela wonke umuntu ekhaya.
Isimo sengqondo esisekelwe ekuhlonipheni okuhlangenwe nakho komuntu, ukuzinakekela, kanye nokufuna amasu alula okuthuthukisa ukuhlala ndawonye (njengokuvumelana ngezikhathi zokuphumula, ukucacisa izindawo zomuntu siqu, noma ukuhlukanisa ukuthi ubani onakekela izingxabano ezithile) kusiza ukuqinisekisa ukuthi akekho ozizwa sengathi uhlala ethwele umthwalo wemizwa womndeni.
Imodeli yobuhlobo enezingqimba
Ngalo mqondo, izingane, kusukela zisencane, zidinga ukubona ubudlelwano obuvundlile phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane ukuze bakhule bazi ukuthi bobabili baphila ngamathuba namalungelo alinganayo, okuyilokho umphakathi okudingayo ukuze uqhubekele phambili.
Ubudlelwano obuvundlile akusho ukuthi konke kuhlukaniswe ngokwezibalo, kodwa kunalokho kusho ukuthi Azikho izikhundla zamandla ezingalungile Ngaphakathi komndeni, izinqumo ezibalulekile ziyaxoxwa, imibono iyalalelwa, amaphutha ayaqashelwa, futhi impumelelo iyagujwa njengeqembu. Kulolu hlobo lobuhlobo, amamodeli obudoda nobufazi aguquguquka kakhudlwana, futhi umuntu ngamunye angathuthukisa ubuwena bakhe ngokukhululeka.
Kuleyo miphakathi lapho indima yabesifazane isagxile khona esikhathini esidlule, sekuyisikhathi sokuqhubekela phambili nokuthola leso sikhathi sokuguquka lapho abesilisa nabesifazane beqaphela khona lokho Bahamba ngesikebhe esifanayoUkubambisana kuyithuluzi eliyisisekelo lokufeza lokhu, ngoba kubonisa empilweni yansuku zonke ukuthi ukulingana akulona usongo, kodwa kuyintuthuko yabo bonke abantu.
Konke ukunyakaza kubalulekile: inkampani elungisa amashejuli icabanga ngabo bonke abasebenzi bayoUbaba othatha ikhefu lobuzali, umama onikeza abanye imisebenzi engenacala, isikole esifundisa ukulingana, uhulumeni oklama izinqubomgomo zomphakathi ezisekelwe ekuzibophezeleni okuhlanganyelwe. Zonke lezi zinguquko, zihlangene, zinganciphisa kakhulu isikhathi ebesizosithatha ukuvala igebe lobulili ukube besilondoloza indlela yamanje. isimo se-quo okwamanje
Ukuya emakhaya nasemiphakathini enabantu abanomthwalo wemfanelo akulula futhi akulula, ngoba kuhilela ukuhlola kabusha izinkolelo ezijulile nokuyeka amalungelo athile. Kodwa-ke, izinzuzo zinkulu kakhulu: Inhlalakahle enkulu, isikhathi samahhala sangempela sawo wonke umuntu, impilo engcono, intuthuko yobungcweti elinganiselayo, kanye nobudlelwano bomndeni obunempiloUkukhetha lo modeli kuyindlela eqondile neyansuku zonke yokwakha umhlaba olungile wamadodakazi ethu namadodana ethu, kanye nathi ngokwethu.