Kuyivelakancane ukuthi kube nomzali ongahlulwa ukubekezela nezingane zabo kanye ngosuku. Ukukhulisa ingane akuyona into elula futhi elula futhi kunezikhathi lapho kufanele uzihlomise khona ngokubekezela okuningi ukuze ungagcini ngokugibela uKrestu. Izingane aziqondi ukucindezeleka noma amashejuli, into egcina ilahle ithemba ngabazali abaningi kakhulu.
Kodwa-ke, futhi ngokuphambene nalokho abantu abadala abangakucabanga, lezi zinhlobo zezinkinga azibangelwa yiphutha labancane, ngoba njengezingane banokulinganiselwa kwabo futhi abakwazi ukucelwa ukuthi baziphathe njengabantu abadala bangempela. Esimweni esinjalo, ukubekezela kuyisihluthulelo lapho kuziwa ekugwemeni izinkinga ezingaba khona ezithinta wonke umuntu.
Ukucindezeleka kwansuku zonke
Impilo yansuku zonke yanoma yimuphi umuntu omdala nomzali inengcindezi enkulu ukuthi abancane abasendlini bayiqonde. Azinakubuzwa ukuthi zidle ibhulakufesi ngokushesha okukhulu futhi zigijime ngasikhathi sinye nathi. Isigqi sabantu abadala asinakufana nesabantwana futhi yilapho izinkinga eziningi zansuku zonke zivela khona. Akunakubuzwa ukuthi bacindezeleke njengabazali babo futhi kulapho kungena ukubekezela.
Kufanele wazi ukuthi ungahlukanisa kanjani impilo yakho yomsebenzi neyomndeni wakho futhi ungadonseli izingane zakho ekucindezelekeni kwansuku zonke kwabazali bazo. Iningi lezimpikiswano phakathi kwabazali nezingane kungenxa yokuthi abantu abadala abanaso isineke ngesimo sabancane futhi bagcina bememeza futhi bexabana kaningana ngosuku. Lapha sikunikeza uchungechunge lwamathiphu nemihlahlandlela ongayilandela ukufeza ukubekezela okuningi nezingane zakho:
- Into yokuqala okufanele uyenze ukuhlala phansi nengane yakho nikhulume ngokuthi kunochungechunge lwemithetho nemikhawulo ekhaya okufanele ihlonishwe. Kumele umenze aqonde ukuthi esimweni sokungathobeli kubo, kuyinto ejwayelekile ukuthi ugcina uphelelwa yisineke futhi uthukuthele ngalesi simo. Awudingi ukufika lapho inqobo nje uma wazi ukuthi ungayamukela kanjani le mithetho, konke kuzolunga.
- Kubalulekile futhi ukufaka ingane yakho kusukela ebuncaneni ivelu ebaluleke njengokubekezela. Ngakho-ke kufanele uhole ngesibonelo futhi ubekezele ngangokunokwenzeka ukuze abone ukubaluleka kwalelo nani futhi amkhonze esikhathini esizayo esingekude kakhulu.
- Uma kwenzeka usuzoqhuma, kungcono ushiye indawo enezinkinga, udonse umoya bese ubale ufike kwabayishumi. Uma uzizwa ungcono kakhulu, ungabuyela emuva ukhulume nengane yakho ngokuxazulula inkinga. Kulezi zimo, kungcono ukugwema izingxabano futhi wenze ukubekezela kube yisikhali esingcono kakhulu.
- Ngezikhathi zokucindezeleka okukhulu nokuntuleka kokubekezela, Ochwepheshe abaningi beluleka ukuzifaka ezicathulweni zengane futhi ubone umhlaba ngendlela omncane awubona ngayo.
- Elinye icebo ukwakha uhlelo lwansuku zonke lomsebenzi ukuze ingane yakho yazi kahle ukuthi yenzeni ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka. Imikhuba yansuku zonke iphelele uma kukhulunywa ngokwenza ingane yemukele imithetho yasekhaya futhi yamukele ukuba nesibopho.
Ngeshwa, ukuntuleka kokubekezela kungenye yezinkinga ezinkulu emindenini namuhla.. Abazali balahlekelwa yimizwa yabo okungenani futhi lokho akuyona into enhle uma kukhulunywa ngokufundisa izingane nokudlulisa uchungechunge lwamagugu oluzisiza ukuthi zikhule njengabantu. Kufanele ubekezele empilweni, ikakhulukazi uma kukhulunywa ngobudlelwano bakho nezingane zakho. Kumele uqonde ukuthi izingane ziyizingane futhi zingaqhathaniswa nabantu abadala.