Namuhla bengifuna ukukulethela imiqondo ephathelene nokuziphendukela kwemvelo komuntu, ukuze ube nemibono eminingi ngomqondo ngamunye ohlobene nempilo yengane.
Ingane iyakhula kuyaqala, bafunde njengoba bedlula iminyaka yabo. Yonke le nqubo ine uchungechunge lweziqondiso ukuthi uma kuqondwa ngendlela yomqondo kulula kakhulu ukwenza inqubo yabo yokukhula nokufunda.
Kunjani ukukhula nentuthuko?
Ukukhula, ukuvuthwa kanye nentuthuko imiqondo esetshenziswa ngokushintshana ukubhekisa kuzinqubo ezihlobene nokuziphendukela kwemvelo komuntu. Kungakho-ke ngizokunikeza isifinyezo esifushane sale mibono, ngigxile ekukhuleni uqobo nasekuvuthweni, kanye nobudlelwano umuntu ngamunye anabo komunye nomunye.
esemncane
Konke kuqala kusukela ebuntwaneni, lapho umuntu ngamunye kufanele afunde ukunyakaza ngokuzimela futhi bahlanganyele endaweni yabo. Ukuze benze lokhu, kufanele bathuthukise amakhono athile, njengokukhuluma, ukudlala ukuze bafunde, babone imizwa eyinhloko futhi bakwazi ukuveza imizwa yabo ngokukhala nokuhleka, futhi ekugcineni badale ukwazi ukufunda nokubhala.
Ubuntwana besibili noma ubuntwana
Kulesi sigaba sekuvele kuthathelwe indawo iminyaka yobudala, lapho amakhono ayisisekelo aqala: ukuqonda kanye nenhlalakahle yengqondo. Lapha kuqala isigaba sesikole, esinye sezisekelo lapho kuzosungulwa khona ubuntu bomuntu.
- Ubuntwana noma ubusana bubekiwe, lapho umntwana ekhula khona ngobude futhi enze ngokusemthethweni zonke izinkulumo zakhe, amakhono akhe emoto kanye nokuziphatha kwakhe komphakathi. Phakathi nalokhu kukhula ingane kufanele ithuthuke ngamakhono athile:
- Kumele phatha wonke amathuluzi ayisisekelo asebevele benenkimbinkimbi (ukuxhumana ngamazwi kanye nokusetshenziswa kwezibalo) kanye nokuphathwa kobudlelwane babo obuthinta inhlalakahle njengobungani nobungane.
- Baqala ukuthuthukisa umcabango wabo wokuzijabulisa, ukudala imisebenzi yokuzilibazisa futhi baqale ukudala ubudlelwane babo bomphakathi bokuqala ngaphandle kwekhaya.
- Banomcabango wabo wokuqala onengqondo futhi bayithuthukisa ngokuziphendukela kwemvelo okuphelele, kuhlanganise nemiqondo nemibono yabo.
Ukukhula (Ukuzalwa Umuntu Omdala)
Inqubo Izinguquko zomzimba ebonakala ngokwanda kobukhulu bomzimba kanye nokuguqulwa kobukhulu bomzimba. Lokhu kubangelwa ukwanda kwenani nosayizi wamaseli.
Izinguquko kulesi sigaba yilezi ngobuningi (kungalinganiswa). Amapharamitha ajwayelekile kakhulu isisindo nokuphakama, yize ama-cranial kanye ne-thoracic perimeters nawo asetshenziswa.
Le nqubo ayinakho ukuvela komugqa, ngakho-ke izigaba ezahlukahlukene ziyabonwa lapho izinguquko ezinkulu zenzeka ngesikhathi esincane. Lokhu kwenzeka ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa, unyaka wokuqala wokuphila, nasebusheni.
Ukuvuthwa
Ngabe izinguquko zebhayoloji okwenzeka ezinhlakeni zangaphakathi zabantu nokubenza bakwazi ukwenza imisebenzi ethile.
Le nqubo ibhekisa ezingeni lokuthuthuka kwezinhlelo, izinto zokusebenza noma izitho zomzimba womuntu. Inqubo yokuvuthwa komzimba womuntu landela i-odaIkhanda livuthwa kuqala, kulandelwe umboko bese izitho zigcina.
Kuphinde kube yisiteji se izinguquko ezinkulu ezingokwengqondo nezingokomzwelo, iyilungiselelo eliphelele phakathi kobuntwana kanye nobudala. Kuvame kakhulu ukubheka ukuthi kukhona ukuhlukumezeka kwemizwelo nalapho umzimba ushintsha kakhulu futhi ngokuziphendukela kwemvelo. Lesi sikhathi sihlukaniswe izingxenye ezimbili:
- Ubusha bokuqala (iminyaka eyi-12 kuye kweyi-15). Izinguquko ziqala ukubonakala, sezivele zihlukana nokubukeka kwazo ngokomzimba futhi isigaba sokuvuthwa ngokocansi komzimba wabo siqala. Phakathi kwabo bobabili ubulili, izinwele ze-pubic nezomzimba zivela, ukuya esikhathini kubonakala kwabesifazane, ukwanda kwebele, ukushintsha kwezitho zangasese, isisindo nokuphakama, izinguquko zomzimba kanye nokubukeka kwesifiso socansi.
- Ukuthomba sekwephuzile (iminyaka eyi-15 kuye kwengama-21). Izinguquko ziyaqhubeka nokuziveza, kodwa aziqinanga kangako. Izinguquko ziyaqhubeka nokukhula ngendlela yengqondo-ngokomzwelo kanye nengxenye yomzimba. Lapha kuvela ukuhlubuka futhi sekuvele kunikeza izimpawu zokufuna ukuzimela ngaphandle kwesibalo sabazali babo.
Ubudala
Lesi sigaba yisona eside futhi ihlanganisa isigaba esiphakathi sempilo. Umuntu usevele aqale ukuba nomthwalo wemfanelo ngokwenhlalo nokuphatha kahle. Iqala ukusebenza ngokuzimela nenkampani, basesigabeni lapho benze khona izifundo ezisemthethweni futhi Baqala ukufuna umsebenzi futhi bazame ukwenza umndeni ube semthethweni.
- Ubudala bokuqala (kusukela eminyakeni engama-21 kuye kwengama-40). Ubunikazi bomuntu buyakhiwa, uqala ukwakha umndeni, unomthwalo wemfanelo womsebenzi futhi uzama ukuthola inzalo. Isiyaluyalu esasikhona ebusheni siyanyamalala, njengoba engena esigabeni semithwalo yemfanelo emikhulu.
- Ubudala obugcwele (kusukela eminyakeni engama-40 kuye kwengama-60). Umuntu ufinyelela umzila wakhe ogcwele futhi uqala ukulungiselela izimpawu zokuqala zokuwohloka kwakhe ngokomzimba. Sebefinyelele enkathini yokukhula kwengqondo, sebeqala ukucabangela kabusha ubukhona babo, ulwazi lwabo lokuphila, futhi sebeqala ukubona ikusasa labo seliseduze nokuguga. Iqhaza abalizuzile yileli ubuholi bempilo yabo. Manje sekuyithuba labo lokufundisa inzalo yabo ukuthi umkhondo wabo ubunjani nokuthi kufanele balandele ezinyathelweni zabo. Bavuthwa ngokomzimba futhi sebevele babonisa izimpawu zokuguga, ngokushintsha izinwele zabo, ukulahlekelwa ukuguquguquka kanye nokuncipha kwe-libido.
Ukuguga
Yisigaba sokugcina sokukhula komuntu, lapho okuzibonakalisa kakhulu ukuwohloka komzimba kanye nokuvela kwezifo. Konke kuzoncika ekunakekelweni okwenziwe ngomzimba emgudwini wempilo yakhe.
Kungaba yisigaba esibuhlungu lapho izinguquko ezibalulekile zihilelekile kanye nemodeli yempilo engahambisani nempilo yomndeni neyomphakathi. Isizungu siyavela, kwazise abaziboni besohlwini lokukwazi ukuhambisana nesigqi sempilo endaweni abakuyo. Izifiso zabo zihlala ziyisisekelo futhi zizakha kabusha, lapho becabanga ukuthi basesimweni isigaba sokugcina sezimpilo zabo kanye nokuqaphela izinsiza zezokwelapha.