Ukuba ngumzali okuhamba kancane, ukukhulisa izingane kancane

izinyawo-zengane (Kopisha)

Kungenzeka ukuthi awukaze uzwe ngegama elithi Slow parenting, kodwa-ke, siqinisekile ukuthi abafundi bethu abaningi balisebenzisa nsuku zonke ekukhuliseni izingane zabo. Le nhlangano ayinazo izimpande zayo kunoma iyiphi imanuwali noma isifundo se-psychopedagogy, noma kunoma yimuphi umkhulu wezifo zengqondo yengane.

Njengokulangazelela njengoba kungabonakala, Ukukhulisa kancane kancane empeleni kungumbutho wezenhlalo okhuthaza isidingo sokuthi "wehlise ijubane lomphakathi lamanje". Se buscaba una expresión contrapuesta al «fast-food» a esa comida rápida que en esencia, tantas consecuencias negativas tiene para la salud. De algún modo, y en lo que se refiere a la educación de los más pequeños, parece que estamos siguiendo los mismos patrones: acelerar para criar niños estresados y en consecuencia, infelices. Te invitamos a reflexionar sobre ello en «Madres Hoy".

Ukukhulisa kancane noma ukuncoma ukubambezelekaUkukhulisa kancane

Umhlaba udlula ngejubane elinganqandeki: umphakathi uqobo ngisho nathi uqobo, sifuna okuningi kithina esifisweni sethu sokwenza ngcono. Kungenzeka ukuthi konke lokhu kuzosiholela ekunqobeni ezikhathini eziningi, kepha empeleni injabulo ayibonakali njalo ihambisana nale mibono.

Namuhla, kunezazi eziningi, othisha futhi-ke, nabazali ngokwabo, I-WHO Bazama ukuhlomisa izingane ngamakhono abo okudlula ngokweqile: AmaNgisi, umculo, amakilasi e-ballet abelwe wona, sifuna babe nekhono, babe nokukhalipha nokuthi kusasa bazokufeza konke esinakho emqondweni.

Kodwa-ke, le yimiphumela esiyibonayo osukwini lwethu usuku nosuku:

  • Ukuguga kwanamuhla kwenziwa ngaphansi kwesidingo esiveza ubumbili obuphakeme: sifuna okuningi ezinganeni, nokho siba abavikelayo futhi asishiyi, ngokwesibonelo, ukuthi bafunde bodwa esikoleni baze bafinyelele ebusheni.
  • Kufunwa kakhulu okungahambisani nokufundiswa kwemithwalo yemfanelo,  ikhono lokukhetha, ukwazi ukwenza amaphutha njengengxenye yenqubo yokufunda uqobo.
  • Siphuthumisa izingane zethu ukuthi zigqoke ngokushesha, ziqede ukudlala kusenesikhathi ngoba kufanele zibayise emisebenzini yangaphandle. Izingane zanamuhla zigcina amashejuli abantu abadala. Manje, siyazi ukuthi ezimweni eziningi umthwalo "wokusheshisa" abancane akuyona eyethu kuphela, futhi nomphakathi uqobo kanye nokucaciswa kwezemfundo kubeka le ngcindezi ecacile.

Indumiso yokwehlisa noma iSlow-parenting ifuna ukuqwashisa omama, obaba, othisha kanye nezikhungo ze isidingo sokubuyela kulokho kubeletha okungasheshi lapho ibhalansi yenzeka khona, inhlonipho futhi ngaphezu kwakho konke, uthanda isigqi sengane uqobo ukuze sikhule futhi sithole umhlaba.

Ukukhulisa kancane akusho ukubambezela ukukhula kwengane kepha ukuhlonipha isigqi sayo

umzimba ngemuva kokukhulelwa

Ukukhulisa kancane akusho ukuthi sibeka eceleni ukukhuthaza noma ukuxhumana nezingane zethu ukuzisiza zikhule, zivuthwe. Kumane kuyindaba yokuthi "akukho ukucindezela" nokubeka phambili ikhwalithi ngaphezu kobungako.

"Ukuhamba kancane" kusho ukuqonda ukukhula kwengane yethu, hhayi ukuyidonsa ngokungadingekile ukudala ingcindezi noma ukukhathazeka.


  •  Ukuba ngumzali ongasheshi kufaka imibono efana nokwazi ukuthi kufanele kusetshenziswe kanjani ukuba ngumzali okunenjongo, lapho "kumele sibe khona", sithokozela lapha manje kuzo zonke izici zokuphila kwezingane zethu, kepha ngasikhathi sinye sazi ukuthi kufanele siyihloniphe kanjani inkululeko yabo yomuntu siqu: ngakho kukhula kakhulu, uthanda ukwenza izinqumo zakho lapho isikhathi silungile.
  • Ubuntwana akufanele bube ngumjaho ophikisana nesikhathi. Ukuba yingane kusho ukukwazi ukudlala, ukwazi ukuthamela izinto ezishukumisayo, ukuba nesikhathi sokujabulela, ukuhleka nokuhlola umhlaba ngokwemibandela yakho.
  • Okufanele sikukhumbule ukuthi iSlow-parenting iqala kuqala futhi ibaluleke kakhulu ukusuka ekhaya uqobo. Sidinga isikhathi, futhi sikwazi ukujabulela uhlelo esizochitha ngalo isikhathi nezingane zethu, siphumule nazo, sidlale nazo futhi sizindle nazo.
  • Siyazi ukuthi namuhla isikhathi siyilungelo, ukuthi amahora okusebenza awahlali ebuyisana njengoba besingathanda nokuphila komndeni. Ngakho-ke, ukwaziswa okwanele ngezikhungo zenhlalo kuyadingeka.

Sithambekele ekunikezeni izingane zethu okuhle kakhulu, ngenkathi "singekho"

ingane enkulisa

Lo mbono uyinkimbinkimbi njengoba ungokoqobo: abazali abaningi bakhathazeka ngokweqile ngokubanikeza isikole esihle kakhulu, izingubo ezihamba phambili, igumbi eligcwele amathoyizi ngenkathi bechitha isikhathi sabo esiningi bengekho ekhaya ngenxa yezibopho zabo zomsebenzi.

Siyazi ukuthi le yindlela impilo esungulwa ngayo namuhla, kepha kungadingeka ukucabanga ngayo ukuze wazi ezinye zezinto:

  • Isiko lomthengi selifinyelele kuhlobo lwe-apotheosis lapho abantu abaningi behlala kuphela kulokho okulindelwe, yesidingo sokunikela okuhle kakhulu ezinganeni zabo: amazinyo aphelele ngezinsimbi zawo, izinwele ezifanele, ukunakekela ukuthi azikhuluphele ngokweqile, kubanikeza iholide eliphelele lekamu ... Manje, kwesinye isikhathi, akukho kulokhu okunikeza injabulo yangempela umfana.
  • Los expertos nos dicen que en los últimos años la maternidad se da ya en edades que rozan o sobrepasan los 40. Las madres han pasado mucho tiempo «soñando» cómo debe ser la vida de su hijo, ansiando darles sin duda lo mejor. Tienen unas expectativas muy altas.
  • Ukhiye ulula kunokuba sicabanga, kwanele ukwethemba, ukuzidedela, ukukuqonda lokho isipho esihle kunazo zonke esingasinikeza izingane zethu sibizwa ngokuthi "isikhathi", "Ukuqonda," kanye "nothando." Akudingeki bakhulume izilimi ezi-5, bathole ama-honors, noma babe nekhono kwezemidlalo.

Izingane zethu zizoba yilokho ezikufunayo, futhi kuze kube yilapho zikuthola kufanele zibe nenhloso eyodwa kuphela: ukukhula empilweni nenjabulo.

Imfundo ngezikhathi zobunzima

Singaphakamisa umbuzo othakazelisayo wokuthi ngabe inkinga yamanje yezenhlalo nezomnotho iyabonakala yini kuzitayela zamanje zokuba ngumzali:

  • Eminye imindeni iyasibona isidingo sokufuna futhi "isheshise" ijubane lezingane zayo ukuze zikwazi ukuncintisana kakhulu, ukuze ngandlela thile, babe namathuba amaningi kusasa uma bezilungiselele kahle.
  • Ngakolunye uhlangothi, omama nobaba abaningi banomuzwa wesidingo sokuhlela kabusha izindinganiso zabo: ukunika ukubaluleka kwalokho okubalulekile, ukuze izisekelo: ukuvumela izingane ukuthi zijabulele ubuntwana bazo kancane, ngalezo zikhathi zenjabulo ezizohambisana nabo kusasa lapho sebekhulile.

Ukukhulisa izingane kancane akusitsheli ukuthi kufanele sihambe ngejubane lomnenke empilweni, kepha kunalokho kusivumela ukuthi sihlole, sihambele, siphefumule, thokozela imvelo yethu sibambisene nezingane zethu ukukwazisa okubaluleke kakhulu, ngaphandle kobuciko noma ingcindezi.

Sikumema ukuba ucabangisise ngale mibono bese uyisebenzisa nsuku zonke, hhayi kuphela ekufundiseni izingane zakho, kodwa nasempilweni yakho uqobo: kwesinye isikhathi "ukwehlisa ijubane" kusivumela ukuthi sithole eziningi zalezo zinto ezinhle ezisizungezile nokuthi kwesinye isikhathi, ngenxa yokuxhamazela, asikunaki.


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  1.   UValeria Sabater kusho

    ¡Excelente información Olegoana! Muchas gracias por tu aportación y por leernos. Un abrazo grande desde todo el equipo de «Madres Hoy".

  2.   Macarena kusho

    Hewu! Olegoana, kuyinto esingayicabangi nokuyicabanga ngoba singena emotweni yejubane sicabanga ukuthi iyona ehamba phambili, noma ejwayelekile nje ... unezela ngokuthi sihamba ngo-100 ngehora futhi sicabanga ukuthi sihamba kancane, ukuthi thatha ingane uye nayo epaki kuthi ngemizuzu emihlanu siyikhiphe lapho ... phew! Iziphi izimpilo ezingekho ezingokoqobo futhi ezingasho lutho esiziphilayo futhi sizenza ziphile.
    A ukubingelela.

  3.   Macarena kusho

    Ukucabanga okudingeka kakhulu: Ngithatha impilo ngokuzola kunokushesha, futhi noma kunjalo, kusenokuthula okuningi engingakuthola ngaphakathi kimi. Izingane zichitha izimpilo zazo ngaphandle kokuxhumana nabazali bazo, izingane zichitha izimpilo zazo ngaphandle kokuphila ebuntwaneni bazo. Siphila ezweni eligulayo elisigulisayo 🙁

    ¡Gracias!

    1.    UValeria Sabater kusho

      Ngivumelana ngokuphelele nokuphawula kwakho Macarena. Ngenkathi ngisebenza esikoleni sokuxhasa isikole ngiyakhumbula abazali, bejaha izingane ukuba zithole isidlo esisheshayo ukuze zingene ekilasini. Ngemuva kwalokho, sibanxuse ukuthi basheshe baqede umsebenzi wabo wesikole kanye nokuzivocavoca… Izingane bezikhathele kangangokuba iningi lisabele ngendlela ehlukile, okusho ukuthi, "ngokungakhathali, ukukhuphuka ezindongeni." Futhi izinto zihlala zinjalo ... futhi okukhathaza kakhulu: akunakwenzeka ukuthuthukisa lesi simo. Kuzofanele siqale kusuka ku- "0".
      Ukumanga uMacarena!

  4.   I-everest ehamba ngezinyawo kusho

    Ngikhuthazeke kakhulu ukukufundela iVsleria. Futhi bengihlala nezingane zami ukukhuliswa kwabo kugxile kubo. Manje njengoba sebekhulile, ngifuna ukuthi ngivusa kanjani inqubo yami, umsebenzi wami ngokuvumelana. Ngiyabonga !! Ake sijule kancane kuValue of Slowess ngezikhathi nezindawo zempilo yethu. URossana

    1.    Macarena kusho

      URossana… ngiyabonga kakhulu ngokuphawula kwakho, nangokusitshela ngomuzwa wakho obalulekile <3