Ukukhuluma nendodana ngokuthomba yiyona ndlela kuphela yokuyilungiselela zonke izinguquko ezizobhekana nazo kulesi sikhathi soshintsho. Ushintsho okufanele nakanjani wonke umuntu adlule kulo futhi luyilo esinye isigaba esihle sempilo yakhe ebudaleni. Kodwa-ke, ezinganeni kuvame ukuba nzima ngoba ngaphezu kwezinguquko eziningi zamahomoni, kufanele babhekane nezinguquko zomzimba nezingokomzwelo.
Ungavumeli ingane yakho ifinyelele ebusheni ngaphandle kokuba nezindaba, ingazi ukuthi ibhekene nani nokuthi ingabhekana kanjani nalezo zimo ezingayibeka endaweni engafanele. Phendula yonke imibuzo yakho ngokwemvelo, ngoba ngandlela thile uzothola impendulo. Gwema ukukwenza ngendlela engafanele, ngokusebenzisa ezinye izingane, i-Intanethi noma imithombo engathembekile futhi enconyiwe.
Ukuthomba kubafana namantombazane
Ukuthomba yisigaba sokuqala sobusha, isigaba zonke izingane ezidlula kuzo nesibandakanya ukufinyelela ekuvuthweni kwezocansi. Endabeni yabafana, kwenzeka phakathi kweminyaka eyi-12 neyi-16 kanti endabeni yamantombazane, ukuthomba Ifika phakathi kweminyaka eyi-10 nengu-14 ngokufika kokuqala kokuya esikhathini. Ukuthomba kuveza izinguquko eziningi ezahlukahlukene phakathi kwabafana namantombazane, ngendlela efanayo, ngokomzwelo kubathinta ngokuhlukile.
Kumantombazane, ukuqala kokuthomba kuqala ngezinguquko zomzimba, imvamisa ukukhula kwebele. Ngemuva kwalokho izinwele ziqala ukuvela ezindaweni ezifana nasemakhwapheni noma ezinkantini futhi ngesikhathi sokuthomba, kufika isikhathi sokuqala. Zonke lezi zinguquko zenzeka kancane kancane futhi intombazane ngayinye yehlukile, ezinye zikhula ngokushesha kanti ezinye zibona zonke izinguquko ngasikhathi sinye.
Endabeni yabafana, umthondo namasende kuyakhuliswa, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi baqala ukuba nezinwele ezinkabeni nasemakhwapheni bese izwi labo liba likhulu. Imisipha yabo nayo iqala ukukhula, iphunga lomzimba wabantu abadala nezinwele kuvela ebusweni. Kubo bobabili abafana namantombazane, ukuthomba kungahambisana nezinkinga zesikhumba ezifana nezinduna.
Ukubhekana nokuthomba nendodana yami
Ukusuka ekubeni ingane, unomzimba wengane nesimo sengqondo esifana nengane, uye ekuthuthukiseni i-physiognomy yomuntu omdala, unezinwele ezindaweni lapho bekungekho ngaphambili noma ukuqala ukubona imizwa yabanye abantu, akulula. Iningi labafana lidlula ezigabeni ezihlukene kusukela ekuqaleni kokuthomba kuze kufike ubusha. Ukushintsha kwemizwelo, imizwa kunzima ukuyiqonda futhi ngokunengqondo, ngisho nangokwengeziwe ukuyiveza.
Ngakho-ke, ukuvumela ingane yakho ukuthi ifinyelele ebusheni ngaphandle kokwazi konke ezobhekana nakho, kungakhulisa ukudideka kwayo kukho konke okuzayo. Ukubhekana nokuthomba nokuvuthwa kubalulekile kubo bobabili abazali nasezinganeni. Qinisekisa ukuthi indodana noma indodakazi yakho iyakhula futhi uyilungiselele ukukwenza ngendlela engcono kakhulu. Qala ukuyiphatha njengephrojekthi encane yabantu abadala, ngoba kungekudala kuzoba futhi kuzofanele ithathe indima yayo entsha.
Chaza ukuthi yiziphi izinguquko zomzimba ezizokwenzeka, ukuthi umzimba wakhe uzoshintsha kanjani, nokuthi ama-hormone angayiguqula kanjani imizwa yakhe. Ungabeki eceleni ucansi, ngoba lokhu okuwukuphela kwendlela yokuqinisekisa ukuthi izingane zakho zilungiselelwe. Khuluma ngokuya esikhathini namantombazane nabafana ngoba kuyisinyathelo esibalulekile esisuka ebuntwaneni siye ebudaleni emantombazaneni.
Futhi ngaphezu kwakho konke, mkhumbuze ukuthi ukuthomba kuyinto ejwayelekile, ukuthi bonke abafana namantombazane kumele badlule kukho nokuthi kuyisigaba semvelo nje sokuphila. Ngoba ukulungiselela izingane zibe ngabantu abadala kubalulekileKuyadingeka futhi ngaphezu kwakho konke, kungumzamo ohlanganyelwe okumele uqale emindenini, ukuqhubeka esikoleni nokugcina esikoleni sempilo.