Ngabe izidingo zabafana zinakekelwa ngokwehlukile kunezamantombazane? Kubukeka sengathi nanamuhla kunemicabango ekubeka kucace ukuthi ngemfundo yezingane kuyadingeka ukuthi kube 'nzima' ukuze zingabi izingane ezonakele. Kubukeka sengathi izingane 'azikhali' nokuthi kumele zifundiswe ngokwalokhu kucabanga okuphelelwe yisikhathi nokwendabuko. Kepha lokhu sekuvele kungenandawo futhi kuyiphutha elikhulu.
Noma ngubani ocabanga ukuthi ingane yomfana kufanele ivunyelwe ukukhala ngoba ingumfana noma ukuthi kufanele ifundiswe kanzima uzoba nokwesaba okukhulu. Abafana namantombazane ngokufanayo badinga impilo enhle ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo ukuze bakhule kahle. Badinga ukunakekelwa okubucayi okuvela ezinganeni ngokufanayo, ukunakekelwa kokunamathiselwe okunikeza ukuphepha nokuvikelwa ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo. Lokhu kuzobasiza ukuba bazane kangcono, bazi abanye futhi ube namakhono amahle okuxhumana nokulawula ngokuzayo, kanye nozwelo, ukuzimisela noma ukulawula imizwa.
Izingane zesilisa
Kukhona uphenyo : Izingane Zethu Zesilisa: I-Developmental Neurobiology ne-Neuroendocrinology Yezingane Ezisengozini, enyatheliswa ngu-Allan N. Schore ikhombisa ukuthi abazali kufanele banakekele izingane zabo ngokulingana, kepha kufanele sinakekele nabafana ngokukhethekile ngoba kubonakala sengathi emphakathini wethu wamanje baphathwa ngonya ngendlela evamile.
Ukuba sengozini kwezingane
Abafana bavuthwa kancane kakhulu kunamantombazane, kuzo zonke izici. Ngaphezu kwalokho, basengozini enkulu futhi bangathinteka yingcindezi evela ekukhulelweni. Esikhundleni salokho, Amantombazane anezinye izindlela zokuzivikela zangaphakathi ekubhekaneni nengcindezi futhi akwazi kakhulu ukuqina kunabafana.
Izingane zisengozini kakhulu emizweni yomama wazo lapho zisesibelethweni, ekucindezelekeni kwabazali, ekwehlukaneni nomama lapho ezalwa, lapho zinganakekelwa kahle ... Lokhu kungadala ukuphazamiseka kwemizwa okuthinta ukukhula kwabo kwengqondo, kuthinte imizwa, ukuzithiba, uzwela noma ubudlelwano nabanye.
Futhi, izingane zabafana ziyakwazi ukukhombisa amazinga aphezulu okukhungatheka kunamantombazane futhi zikhombise ukusabela okunolaka kakhulu kuzikhuthazi ezingezona ezinhle. Abafana babonakala befuna kakhulu kunamantombazane futhi yingakho banezinkinga eziningi zokulawula izimo zabo ezingokomzwelo, into ezobenza badinge ukuholwa nokusekelwa okwengeziwe kubazali babo, ukuze baqonde imizwa yabo futhi bafune izixazululo ezingcono nezenziwayo zokulawulwa kwemizwa.
Imininingwane yokufunda
Kubukeka sengathi izingane zisengcupheni yokuthola ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo okungenzeka ezingeni lokuqala lokukhula, ngaleyo ndlela kuthuthukise i-autism, i-schizophrenia, i-ADHD noma ukuphazamiseka kokuziphatha ngokuzayo. Lokhu kukhuphuke amashumi ambalwa eminyaka kuze kube namuhla, kucatshangelwa idatha lapho izingane zibhaliswe ezikoleni zasenkulisa kusenesikhathi ngenxa yomsebenzi noma izizathu zomuntu siqu zabazali bazo, ukwehlukana nesibalo sabo sokunamathiselwa futhi, nokuhlupheka kusenesikhathi.
Ukuvuthwa kobuchopho kwengane, ngakho-ke, kudinga umama njengomuntu wokunamathisela futhi kumsize azilawule ngokomzwelo, udinga uthando lwakho futhi ngaphezu kwakho konke, lokhu kuyadingeka ekuvuthweni okuhle kobuchopho kanye nokukhula okuphumelelayo kwezenhlalo nangokomzwelo.
Umehluko wobuchopho
Akukusha ukuthi abafana namantombazane banezindlela ezahlukene zokukhula kobuchopho futhi yingakho umehluko othile ungaqondakala ezinhlakeni zomphakathi nezingokomzwelo kubafana namantombazane. Masithi lokhu kwehluka kuhleliwe ngokwezakhi zofuzo, kepha ngokungeziwe, indawo yezenhlalo nayo inomthelela oqondile kubo kwazise abantu bangabantu abazivumelanisa nemvelo. Ngakho-keKubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi abafana namantombazane badinga ukunamathiselwa ukuze bakhule ngempumelelo, kepha ukuthi ukufundiswa kwezingane kudinga ukuzwela okwengeziwe ukuze zikwazi ukulawula imizwa yazo ngokuzayo futhi ngaleyo ndlela zikhule kahle ngokwenhlalo nangokomzwelo.
Ukunakekelwa ezigabeni zokuqala zempilo
Abafana (namantombazane) badinga ukuthi abazali babo bathembele ekunakekelweni okunamathiselwe kanye nasekuyalweni okuhle ukuze abafana (namantombazane) bakwazi ukulawula imizwa yabo futhi baqonde nabanye futhi. Bazokwazi nokukhula ngokuzethemba ngokwabo, ngokwazi okukhulu ngesenzo, kanye nokuzethemba okuhle nobuntu obuthuthukisiwe. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, uma izingane zikhula zinokuhlukunyezwa nokuhlukunyezwa okunamathiselwe, izingane zizokholwa ngokuxineka kanye nemiphumela emibi empilweni yazo yengqondo engaholela ekuphazamisekeni ngokomzwelo.
Ukukhula kancane kobuchopho bezingane kuzoba sengozini enkulu kakhulu ekucindezelekeni kwemvelo futhi kudinge isinxephezelo esibucayi ukulinganisa imisebenzi yezenhlalo neyemizwa. Badinga okunamathiselwe okuphephile ngesikhathi sokukhula kobuchopho babo, iminyaka emithathu yokuqala yempilo yengane iyisihluthulelo sokukhula okuhle kwenhlalo-nemizwa. Ngokufanayo, amasu wokulawula imizwa kufanele alingiswe futhi afundiswe impilo yonke.
Ukubaluleka kwemizwa
Izingane ziyakhala, futhi kufanele. Izingane kufanele futhi ziqonde imizwa yazo ukuze ziqonde ezabanye. Kumele babeke amagama kulokho abazizwa ngakho futhi abazali babo bangabaqondisi babo abakhulu ukwenza lokho. Ingane akudingeki iziphathe ngonya ukuze yamukeleke ngokwengeziwe emphakathini, izingane ezinonya kakhulu aziyona engcono kakhulu.
Ingane idinga ukulawulwa ngokomzwelo ukuze ikhule kahle nokuthi imizwa yayo ibhekelwe selokhu yafika kulo mhlaba. Ukukhuliswa kanye nokufundiswa kwezingane kumele kuhambisane nokuzwela okwengeziwe, ukuze zifunde ukuzwelana, ukuqiniseka nokuzithiba. futhi ngenxa yalokho, banokuzethemba okukhulu nokuvikeleka kubo ngokwabo, ngaleyo ndlela bathuthukise ukuzethemba okuhle nokulawula ngokomzwelo. Izingane kufanele ziqonde ukuthi ulaka akuyona indlela engcono yokuxhumana okufanele.
Sawubona María José, kubaluleke kakhulu ukukhuluma ngalesi sihloko, ngoba ngeshwa, futhi njengoba usho eposini, kusenezinkolelo eziningi eziyiphutha ngokukhuliswa nokufundiswa kwabafana. Basaphathwa ngonya kakhulu kunamantombazane, bazama ukungayivezi imizwa yabo ... futhi lokho kuholela ekudidekeni okukhulu, futhi esimweni esibi kakhulu kube ukuphazamiseka kwemizwa. Nginomfana nentombazane, futhi manje njengoba owokuqala eseyibhungu, ngibona ukuthi ingcindezi yemvelo imdida kanjani futhi yenza kube nzima ukuthi azithole, ngenhlanhla ekhaya uthola ukuqonda akudingayo.
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