Ngokuya ngokuthi ukukhulelwa kwakho kwakuthuthuke kangakanani ngesikhathi sokulahleka, uzoba nezinketho eziningi zalokho ongakwenza nengane yakho engakazalwa.. Noma kudingekile ukuqonda ukuthi yisiphi isigaba sokukhulelwa, Ungabamba umngcwabo uma ufisa ngoba ubuhlungu bokulahlekelwa bungaba bukhulu kakhulu kuwo womabili amasonto angama-28 no-39 okukhulelwa.
Ngendlela efanayo, futhi yize ubuhlungu bukhulu kakhulu, kukhona labo abakhetha ukungabi nomngcwabo. Uma lokhu kwenzeka kuwe, ungakhathazeki ngoba imizwa yakho iyalawula. Akukho okulungile noma okungalungile uma kukhulunywa ngemingcwabo ngemuva kokukhulelwa kwesisu noma ukuzala ingane ifile ... kungcono ukwenza lokho okukwenza uzizwe ungcono hhayi lokho ocabanga ukuthi abanye bacabanga ukuthi kungcono kakhulu.
Kungani kufanele ube nomngcwabo?
Imingcwabo iyingxenye ebalulekile yenqubo yosizi kubantu abaningi, indlela yokuvalelisa nokuhlonipha inkumbulo yomuntu omthandayo. Kungabonakala kunzima ukuba negumbi eligcwele abantu okufanele ubhekane nabo, kepha futhi kungaba lula kuwe ukuthi ubhekane nawo wonke umuntu ngesikhathi esifushane kunokuba Asiduduza ngokulahleka kwakho amasonto njengoba uwabona empilweni yakho.
Umngcwabo ungakusiza nokuthi uthole ukuvalwa kwenxeba lakho elingokomzwelo futhi ungaba yisinyathelo sokuqala sokululama kwengqondo yakho ekuphuphumeni kwesisu noma ekubelethweni komuntu oshonile. Ngenkathi kungenzeka ukuthi uvalelise ngokuseduze ingane yakho engakazalwa esibhedlela, mhlawumbe umqondo womngcwabo wenelisa kakhulu kuwe.. Ngokuya ngokuthi ingane ikhule kangakanani ekukhulelweni, ikakhulukazi labo abazalwe bengasekho, ungathola ithuba lokumbona nokumbamba ngaphambi kokuvalelisa kuye unomphela.
Ukuba nomngcwabo wengane yakho kungaba nokwelashwa ngoba kuzokunika ithuba lokuthatha izinqumo ngengane yakho engakazalwa. Ukuhlela umngcwabo kuyinto esiyenzayo ejwayele ukwenzeka ngemuva kokushona, kungakusiza ukwamukele ukulahlekelwa okungazelelwe.
Ungasheshi
Awufuni ukukwenza konke ngosuku olulodwa. Akujwayelekile ukuthi kuthathe kuze kube yisonto ukuqeda wonke amalungiselelo omngcwabo. Kulungile ukuthatha isikhathi osidingayo, kuzofanele uqiniseke ukuthi utshela umndeni wakho nabangane bakho abanezinhloso ezinhle ukuthi bakwenzele izinqumo uma ubona kufanelekile ... Uma bekubona usosizini olukhulu, ngeke bathi cha. kodwa ungavumeli noma ngubani akwenzele izinqumo uma ungafuni lokho kwenzeke, isigEnqubweni yakho yokwelashwa, izinqumo kuzofanele zenziwe nguwe.
Ngendlela efanayo, kuzofanele uzizwe uphile ngokwanele ukuze ukwazi ukuqhuba umngcwabo futhi wehlise umoya ngokwanele ukubhekana nokududuzeka komndeni wakho nabangane.
Thembela emvelweni yakho
Abaqondisi abaningi bemingcwabo bazwela kakhulu ezidingweni nasezidingweni zabazali. Uma ufuna ukugqokisa ingane yakho umngcwabo, yisho njalo ... FUTHI Uma ukhetha ukungafuni, ungazizwa uphoqelelwe. Ungacela ukuthi abasebenzi basekhaya lomngcwabo bagxivize izingane zakho iminwe noma banqunywe izinwele ukuze ukwazi ukuzigcina unazo.
Uma ufuna izithombe zengane yakho nganoma yisiphi isikhathi kumalungiselelo noma emngcwabeni, yisho njalo. Ungahle uthande ukuqoka umngani ukuthi enze lokhu. Ungavumeli abanye abantu bakutshele ukuthi ayifanele noma iyinki… Uma uzizwa sengathi kufanele ukwenze ukuze ube nenkumbulo yengane yakho, kwenze. Abantu abaningi bathatha izithombe futhi bazithole ziqinisekisa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, noma ngabe abanye babatshele ukuthi bekungeyona indlela engcono kakhulu.
Into ebaluleke kakhulu okumele uyikhumbule ukuthi umngcwabo yindlela yakho yokuzihlonipha wena nengane yakho, hhayi eyomunye umuntu. Uma wenza umngcwabo ungaba mfushane noma ube mude, abanye abantu bathola incazelo ekufundweni kobuKristu kwenkonzo, kanti abanye bakhetha ukufundwa okungekhona okwenkolo. Kulungile uma ufuna ukuthula isikhashana. Umngcwabo wenzelwe abantu abasaphila.
Kufanele kwenziwe kuphi?
Ungenza umngcwabo noma yikuphi lapho uzizwa ukhululekile khona. Ikhaya lomngcwabo linamagumbi okubuka, ungakwenza esontweni noma ekhaya lakho. Kukhona nemindeni eyenza imingcwabo ezindaweni zomphakathi njengolwandle noma ingadi, inqobo nje uma izimvume ezidingekayo zitholakala ukuze zikwazi ukwenza kanjalo.
Umngcwabo ungaba yinto enhle nesinyathelo esiwusizo odabukisayo. Noma ngabe uke waphuphunyelwa yisisu noma wazala ingane ifile, ungaba nomcimbi okhethekile wokuhlonipha inkumbulo yengane yakho, noma ngabe kungumcimbi ongakahleleki nasekhaya lakho.
Noma ngabe ukhetha umngcwabo noma cha, kunezinye izindlela zokuhlonipha ingane yakho ukuze ingakhohlakali, kepha khumbula ukuthi okubaluleke kakhulu njengamanje ukuthi ungadlula kwinqubo yakho yokudabuka. Noma ngabe ingane yakho ibingaphili empilweni yakho, noma ngabe akuyona ingane endala… Yingane yakho futhi leyo yindlela owazizwa ngayo kusukela ngesikhathi sokukhulelwa. Kuzofanele udlule osizini lwakho futhi uqonde ukuthi uma ngokuzayo ufuna ukukhulelwa futhi, akudingeki uzizwe kabi ngakho ... Ngoba uzobe ungashintshi ingane yakho, uzobe unikeza ingane yakho umfowenu omncane ofana nenkanyezi esibhakabhakeni.
Ungavumeli imibono enezinhloso ezinhle evela kwabanye abantu ukuthi izame ukukududuza njengokuthi; "Wayengazimisele ukuzalwa"; "Ungaphinda ukhulelwe futhi"; "Izokudlula kungekudala ngoba ibingakazalwa", njll ... zikucwila ngokuqhubekayo. Cabanga ukuthi ngamagama ayizinhloso ezinhle yize engahlali ephumelela kakhulu. Ingane yakho izohlala isenhliziyweni yakho nasemngcwabeni, yenza lokho okushiwo yinhliziyo yakho.