Cishe izinyanga ezingama-24, abazali babona ushintsho ezinganeni zabo. Ingabe i- isigaba sezinguquko esifana kakhulu nobusha, lapho bethola khona igama no namandla okuthukuthela. Bayeke ukuba yizingane ukuze babe izingane, kepha abazi ukuthi bangenza kanjani futhi. Yingakho kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi kuyinto ejwayelekile ukuthi zonke izingane zidlule nokuthi zingabeka kanjani imikhawulo ezinganeni ezineminyaka emibili.
Iminyaka eyi-2
Iminyaka emi-2 yisigaba izazi eziningi zengqondo ezisibiza ngokuthi yi- "I-Preadolescence". Bazozama ukukucindezela kuze kube semkhawulweni ukuze babone ukuthi bangahamba ibanga elingakanani, bazophonsa intukuthelo abangazange bayenze ngaphambili futhi bazofaka amahlazo ukuze bathole abakufunayo.
Njengabazali owethu umsebenzi babasize kule nqubo yenguquko, ehambisana nabo futhi ebeka imingcele ecacile. Ake sibone ukuthi yini ukusetshenziswa kokubeka imingcele ezinganeni.
Maka imikhawulo
Imikhawulo ingukuthi kuyadingeka ekukhuleni okulungile kwemizwa yezingane. Kumele bafunde ukuthi kwesinye isikhathi akuyona yonke into enjengesifiso sethu nokuthi kufanele uzivumelanise nezimo. Uma simnika konke noma simvumela ukuthi enze lokho akufunayo, uzokhungatheka lapho engena empilweni yangempela futhi abone ukuthi impilo ayinjengoba ayekholelwa. Izobenza ube namandla okuqina, ozethembayo, oguqukayo, ovuthiwe futhi ohloniphayo. Bazothuthukisa ukuzethemba okufanele futhi bazokwazi ukuthi yini engenziwa nengenziwa. Yingakho kudingekile ukusetha imingcele.
Ukubeka imingcele, kufanele ivumelane nobudala, ubuntu kanye nokukhula kwengane, ngoba akuzona zonke izingane ezifanayo. Kusukela ezinyangeni eziyi-18, izingane sezivele zikwazi ukufunda imithetho eyisisekelo.
Ungabakhawulela kanjani abaneminyaka emibili ubudala?
- Mnike imisebenzi angayenza. Ukudla nokugqoka wedwa ngokwesibonelo kuzobenza bazizwe endala futhi ezimele ngokwengeziwe. Kuzobanikeza ukuphepha bazi ukuthi bangenza izinto ngokwabo.
- Imingcele kufanele icace futhi ibe mfushane. Gwema imithetho engaqondakali efana nokuthi "uziphathe kahle", kufanele ibe yimithetho ecacile nebambekayo.
- Kwangathi ulimi lomzimba wakho luhambisana no-no. Awukwazi ukumtshela ukuthi akukho angakwenza futhi ahleke, ngoba ngeke kube nomthelela. Kufanele uqine kulo lonke ulimi lwakho, kokubili ngamazwi nangamazwi.
- Ukujeziswa akuyona inketho enhle. Kuyinto eyodwa ukufundisa ngokufanele nenye ukufundisa ngezijeziso. Ungabona i-athikili yethu «Ukujezisa noma ukufundisa ngokufanele? Lapho sichaza konke ngokuningiliziwe.
- Unganikeli. Bobabili abazali kufanele baqine ngemingcele noma ngabe bathukuthela emphakathini. Kufanele ugcine amazinga akho ukuze uqinisekise ukuthi ayahlangabezana. Ungafunda i-athikili "Ungayiphatha kanjani ngenhlonipho intukuthelo" ukuthola eminye imininingwane.
- Shintsha imishwana engemihle kokuhle. Esikhundleni sokuhlala umtshela ukuthi yini angakwazi ukuyenza, mtshele ukuthi yini angayenza. Esikhundleni sokuthi "ungashiyi igumbi lonke lingcolile" yithi "beka amathoyizi akho."
- Imikhawulo nemithetho kufanele ngaso sonke isikhathi isuke othandweni. Ungamthethisi, noma umesabise, noma ungalokothi ushaye, kungenjalo bazofunda ukuthi ulaka lungenza izinto zenzeke.
- Kumele senze isivumelwano phakathi kwabazali. Ukufeza lokhu, bobabili abazali kufanele bavumelane nale mithetho futhi bazise umndeni ukuthi uyini ukuze ulandelwe.
- Beka onkhe. Amashejuli nawo yimithetho okufanele ihlonishwe. Amabhati, ukudla, isikhathi sokulala kubalulekile ukuwagcina.
- Ungazami ukubonisana. Bancane kakhulu ukuthi bangaqonda ukucabanga kwakho, ngemithetho ecacile neqondile akudingeki unikeze incazelo ethe xaxa.
- Langazelela izinto. Ukwenza isibonelo, mtshele ukuthi athathe amathoyizi akhe ngoba ngesikhashana kuzofanele ageze. Ngaleyo ndlela ngeke ubanjwe uluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka.
Iminyaka emibili yiminyaka yokutholakala. Ingane yakho ithola umhlaba futhi ayisazi okufanele ikwenze nokuthi yini okungafanele iyenze. Kuzoba nguwe njengabazali okufanele baqondise
Ngoba khumbula… izingane zidinga imikhawulo ukuze zizizwe ziphephile.