Njengoba izingane zikhula, zithola amakhono okuqonda azisizayo ukucabanga imibono yazo kangcono kakhulu, yingakho zinazo ikhono lokuqamba amanga, noma ngabe kunjalo ukuphatha noma ukulawula isimo. Izindaba ezimnandi kukho konke lokhu ukuthi uma ingane ikwazi ukuqamba amanga, ithalente lakho lokulithuthukisa lisendleleni efanele, unobuhlakani.
Ngokwesifundo esivele sikhona U-20% wezingane ezineminyaka emibili futhibaqamba amanga bevuka U-90% wabo lapho befika eminyakeni emine. Kusukela eminyakeni yobudala eyi-7 lapho beqala ukubona ubukhulu izenzo zabo ezingafinyelela kubo, yize kuyinto ejwayelekile ukuthola izingane kusukela ebusheni lapho ziphindaphindeka kakhulu.
Singawabona kanjani amanga abo
Ingane ngayinye ikhula ngendlela ehlukile, amandla ayo okuqamba amanga nendlela acacisa ngayo amanga abo kungasinikeza izinkomba ezithile zokuthi baziphatha kanjani ngaleso sikhathi, eminye yale mininingwane ingaba:
- Inkulumo yakho ingazibonakalisa ngendlela eshubile futhi ungakwazi kubomvu ubuso. Ngaphandle kwalokho, uma ingane ikhuluma iqiniso, izothula futhi ikhululeke.
- Ukunyakaza komzimba wakho kuvame ukuhleleka futhi izandla zakho ziqale ukujuluka, ukushaya kwenhliziyo yakho nokuphefumula kuzoshesha.
- Ukukhuluma kwakhe ngomlomo akujwayelekile kakhulu, banikeza imininingwane embalwa yalokho abafuna ukukutshela, kunzima kubo ukucabanga isikhathi, imininingwane yabo igcwele ukuphikisana lapho benikeza izincazelo futhi kungenzeka baphethe ngokuthi akunangqondo noma kunengqondo lokho obekutshelwa.
- Ukuzenzakalela okuncane kungukuthi esinye sezimpawu, kubonakala sengathi akayibali ngendlela engokwemvelo kepha kubonakala sengathi kunjalo ukwenze ngendlela ephoqelelwe, noma ezimweni eziningi iyaziphikisa emibonweni yayo.
- Ngolimi lwakhe lomzimba siyakubona lokho izandla zakhe aziphumuli, aze azisonte, esikhundleni salokho ubuso bakhe bushukuma kancane kakhulu. Ezinye izingane zimboza ubuso ngezandla ngokungaphatheki kahle ngokwazi ukuthi banamanga.
Kungani beqamba amanga?
Akukholakali, iningi lezingane benza ngokulingisa abazali babo. Uma kuyinto abayibona ekhaya njalo bazoqhubeka nokwenza ngendlela efanayo. Ukunganakwa kuzokwenza nokuthi izingane zisebenzise amanga ukuthatha ukunakekelwa kwazo.
Ukwesaba Futhi kungenye into ehlobene, kusukela ngaphambi kwezenzo zokuzithuthukisa nokungakwazi ukuhambisana, babe yingxenye yenjongo yabo. Ebhekene nemicimbi enjalo, kufanele kwaziwe ukuthi lokho abazama ukukwenza njalo ukweqa kunoma yimuphi umugqa noma isijeziso y Dedela izifiso zakho zangaphakathi.
Indlela okufanele sisabele ngayo:
Into enengqondo kunazo zonke ukuthi kufanele phendula ngokuzola ngangokunokwenzeka, akufanele sibonise intukuthelo futhi yebo kufanele khuluma ngokuqinile nangomusa. Ingane kufanele ingaguquguquki ukuthi akukuhle ukuqamba amanga.
Uma ungumhlanganyeli ekuvumeni amanga akho singahlala njalo nxusa ukudalulwa kwayo, kufanele dala indawo yokwethembana phakathi kwabo bobabiliKwazise ukuthi lapho esesimeni esifanayo ngeke kube nemiphumela emibi.
Kumele kuqashelwe ukuthi ezinganeni ukufaka isandla ekusebenzeni okuhle ekuvezeni imibono yazo zama ukubafundisa ngobuqotho, imfundo yakho kumele iqine futhi izethembe. Yize amanga engase abonakale ehlekisa kaningi, akufanele siwahleke.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, uma iningi lezenzo zakho livela ezandleni zezenzo ezinjalo, kufanele ukwazi ukuhlukanisa ukuthi hlobo luni lwamanga bayasinikeza. Amanga we-neurotic vuka ebuntwini kuncike ezingeni eliphakeme lokukhathazeka futhi kufanele siphendukele kochwepheshe ukuze azosisiza.