Lapho izingane zisencane futhi zineminyaka ephakathi kwengu-1 nengu-4 ubudala, ungahle ube nomuzwa wokuthi awukwazi ukuzilawula ngoba ukuthukuthela kuvamile, ikakhulukazi kusukela eminyakeni emibili. Kepha lokhu akudingeki kukwenze ukhungatheke lapho ukhuza izingane zakho, Kumele ucabange ukuthi kuyinqubo yemvelo kanye nokuziphendukela kwemvelo ekukhuleni kwabo, kubalulekile ukuthi bafunde nokuthi ubafundise ukuthi iyiphi indlela eyiyo, ngaphandle kokumemeza noma imikhuba emibi.
Izingane ezincane ezineminyaka emine ubudala zizodinga ukuholwa nokuqondiswa kwakho kaninginingi, ngoba ungabanika umyalo futhi kungekudala bazobe sebekhohliwe. Kepha khumbula ukuthi kubaluleke kakhulu ukubaphatha ngesiyalo esihle, ukuqiniswa okuhle kubaluleke kakhulu ukuqinisekisa ukuthi isimilo esifanele siyaphindwa. Kepha uma sesikwazi lokhu, kufanele baqeqeshwe kanjani abaneminyaka engu-5-7?
Lapho izingane zidlula umkhawulo weminyaka engu-4 ubudala, ziguquka ngokushesha futhi ziya ngokuya ziqaphela okwenzekayo ezizungezile, ngakho-ke kubalulekile ukwazi ukuthi iziphi izindlela ezifanele kakhulu ukukwazi ukuyala. ngaphandle kokuwela esijezisweni, izinsongo noma ukwesaba.
Imiyalo emifushane nelula
Uma ubonisana nengane yakho okokuqala lapho ephula imithetho futhi unikeza izincazelo eziningiliziwe ngalokho akwenzile okungalungile futhi uyisabisa ngolaka ngamalungelo azowathola uma engayeki ukungaziphathi kahle ... kufanele wazi lokho njengecebo lokuqondisa izigwegwe ayisebenzi futhi ingathinta nezingane ngokomzwelo ngoba bezwa usongo kakhulu.
Ingane enezinyanga eziyi-18 ayinakho ukuqonda okwanele ukuqonda imisho eyinkimbinkimbi, ingane eneminyaka emibili noma emithathu ubudala ayinaso isikhathi esanele sokunaka ukuqonda lokho okushoyo kepha kufanele uyixwayise futhi uyiqondise ekuqondeni, futhi Lapho bedlula umkhawulo weminyaka engu-4, bazokwazi ukuqonda lezo zinto ozibachazela ngemisho emifushane futhi oziphindayo izikhathi ezimbalwa, kufaka phakathi ukuqhamuka kwezwi nokubukeka kobuso.
Thola isikhathi sokuphumula
Uma kumzuzwana othile kube nezixwayiso eziningi kakhulu, uziqondise kaningi kakhulu noma ngisho ukulahlekelwa amalungelo kusetshenziswa ngokweqile, lapho-ke izingane azifundanga ukuthi lokhu kuziphatha akulungile futhi zicabanga ukuthi zingaqhubeka nokwenza it. Ukubanikeza isikhathi sokucabanga Kuyadingeka ukuthi umshiye ngesikhathi sokulinda (umzuzu owodwa wonyaka ngamunye weminyaka), kepha ukuthi kulolu hlobo lwekhefu awumshiyi yedwa.
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi nicabange ndawonye ngokwenzekayo nokuthi nimdlulisele ngqo kulokho enikulindele kuye nganoma yisiphi isikhathi. A) Yebo, Mhlawumbe ngokumkhuthaza ngokumqinisa kahle, ungamenza aqonde ukuthi ukuziphatha kwakhe okuhle kunemiphumela emihle.
Misa isikhashana isibonelo
Ngakho-ke izingane zizokwazi ukukuzwa usondelene futhi zizobona ukuthi akuyona yonke into ekumele ibe yimbi. Kepha ngaphambi kokusebenzisa isikhathi sokuphumula (noma isikhathi sokulinda) kuzodingeka ukuthi ngokumamatheka kepha ngezwi eliqinile usho okuthile okufana nalokhu: "Ngibala kubathathu futhi uma ungami kuzomele silinde isikhathi."
Uma ngemuva kokubala uye kokuthathu ingane yakho ingalalelanga, kufanele uyiyise endaweni ethule nephephile ene-timer yokucabanga nokuzindla. Ekugcineni, kuzodingeka ukuthi umcele ukuthi azoxolisa futhi amange kakhulu ukuze ezwe ukuthi awuthukuthele. Ngemuva kwesikhashana besebenzisa leli qhinga uzobona ukuthi ukuziphatha kwabo okubi kuzoqala kanjani ukwehla.
Kufanele ube nesimo sengqondo esihle
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuthi ube nesimo esihle sengqondo ngakho konke okwenzekayo noma ngabe ingane yakho inokuziphatha okungalungile. Akunandaba ukuthi uzizwa uphatheke kabi kangakanani ngokuziphatha kwengane yakho, ungalokothi uthukuthele phambi kwayo. Kubalulekile futhi ukuthi ungaze umehlulele njengomuntu: "ungumfana omubi" futhi uma usola isimilo: "Ayinamatheli kudadewenu". Uma ukhuluma nezingane zakho ngendlela yokuphelelwa yithemba noma engemihle, kuzokwenza kube nombono ofanayo kubo sengathi ubone umphathi wehhovisi lakho ehluleka ukulawula inkampaniNgeke babe nesithombe esihle ngawe futhi bazophinda indlela obukade uyenza kuze kube manje ngoba ngeke balithembe ikhono lakho lobuholi.
Kepha futhi kufanele ngikutshele, ukuthi omama nobaba ngabantu abakhathele, ukuthi singaba nobusuku obubi, ukuthi singazizwa kabi futhi sibe nosuku olubi ... kuyinto evamile ukuthi uzizwe uthukuthele ngezikhathi ezithile . Uma uzizwa kanjena, ungaya kudokotela wezingane zakho, ukhulume nomlingani wakho noma umngane omethembayo (ophinde abe ngumzali) ukuthola ukwesekwa noma ukwelulekwa. Okungenzeki ukuthi uhluleka ukulawula zonke izinsuku noma awukwazi ukulawula imizwa yakho, kulokhu kufanele uhlaziye okwenzekayo kuwe. Khumbula ukuthi ukuyala ingane kufanele ulinganisele ngokomzwelo ukuze udlulise ukuphepha nothando.
Yehlisa umoya
Kuyiqiniso ukuthi kwesinye isikhathi kungaba nzima ukuhlala uzolile, ikakhulukazi lapho ingane yakho izama ukuphula okuthile, ishaya inja, ingafuni ukuxubha amazinyo, kubonakala sengathi isikhathi sokulala asimthandi noma iyahlukumezeka phansi. Kepha uma ukhala ngokuthukuthela, uthumela umyalezo ongafanele futhi futhi uqinisa nokuziphatha kwabo ngendlela engeyiyo: "uma ngiphatha kabi abazali bami bayangilalela." Into enhle kulokhu ukuthatha umoya ojulile, kubalwa kuye kokuthathu noma kwayishumi, yehla uye ezingeni lamehlo engane bese ukhuluma nayo ngendlela eqinile, ebucayi nenzima ...
Uma ulandela zonke lezi zeluleko, uzobona ukuthi izingane zakho ezineminyaka ephakathi kwemihlanu nengu-5 ubudala zizoqala zibe nokuziphatha okungcono, kepha khumbula ukuthi kubalulekile ukuthi ube yisibonelo esihle sokuziphatha nokulinganisela okungokomzwelo.