Uma umbhangqwana unquma ukuhlukanisa nezingane, kungenxa yokuthi izinkinga ezinkulu ziholele kuleso sinqumo. Mhlawumbe uthando seluphelile, noma ukwethembana ebudlelwaneni kuphelile, okwenza ubudlelwano bungenzeki. Kodwa kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yisiphi isizathu , ukunquma ukuhlukanisa akulula neze , ikakhulukazi uma kunezingane ezihilelekile okumele nazo zidlule kuyo yonke inqubo futhi zizwe sengathi izimpilo zazo ziyaphazamiseka.
Phakathi nobunzima nobuhlungu, umbhangqwana ohlukanisayo ungase ungaqapheli ukuthi lokhu kuzithinta kanjani izingane zawo ezincane, kodwa ngokuqinisekile kuyabathinta bobabili abancane nabakhulu. Izingane ezincane, ezingakabi naso isilulumagama sokuchaza indlela ezizizwa ngayo noma ukuthi lezi zinguquko zibathinta kanjani, nazo kudingeka zivumelane noshintsho. Mhlawumbe uma unezingane ezindala uzobathumela ekwelashweni, futhi uma unezingane ezincane ungase ucabange ukuthi zikusingatha kahle, kodwa akukho okungaba kude neqiniso. Okubaluleke ngempela ukubasiza baqonde kangcono zonke izinguquko ezizayo. Ukuze ufeze lokhu, ungangabazi ukulandela iseluleko esingezansi bese usivumelanisa nesimo somndeni wakho samanje.
Chaza isimo esisha
Izingane ziqonda okungaphezu kwalokho thina bantu abadala esikuqaphelayo, yingakho zifanelwe ukuchazelwa izinto. Kuzodingeka usebenzise ulimi olulula, kodwa kumelwe ukwenze, futhi ngokushesha kungcono. Abazali kudingeka bachazele izingane zabo ukuthi lesi simo sizothinta kanjani izimpilo zazo , futhi kudingeka bazi kahle ukuthi "isehlukaniso" siyini nokuthi sizosho ukuthini emndenini nakubo ngokwabo.
Uma ungakazi ukuthi yiziphi izinguquko ezizayo, ungachaza kuphela lokho okwaziyo. Isibonelo, ungasho izinto ezinjengokuthi, "Sizohlala kule ndlu, futhi ubaba uzothuthela kwenye indlu, kodwa uzobuya ngezikhathi ezithile," noma mhlawumbe, "Umama nobaba bazoba nendlu yabo, futhi nizohlala kuzo zombili izindawo." Uma unikeza imininingwane eminingi, kulapho ingane yakho izokulungela khona okuzayo. Siza ingane yakho iqonde ukuthi lesi yisimo esihlala njalo, futhi ungazami ukusifihla, ngoba ngeke uyilungiselele iqiniso elingaphambili.
Khuluma isikhathi eside
Kungenzeka ukuthi ubuhlungu obuzwayo ngalesi simo bungakwenza ufune ukusebenzisa amagama amnene ukuze izingane zakho zingafundi iqiniso. Ukusho izinto ezinjengokuthi "Umama noBaba bayathandana" noma "Sisengumndeni osondelene" kungadida ingane futhi kuyivimbele ekuqondeni ukuthi kungani konke lokhu kwenzeka. Kungcono ukugwema lezi zinhlobo zokuphawula. Uma ukhuluma nezingane ezincane, kungcono ukusebenzisa ulimi olulula oludlulisela imiyalezo yesikhathi eside kodwa ecacile. Kufanele ugweme ukunikeza izingane zakho ithemba elingamanga ukuze zingabi nobuhlungu obukhulu lapho zithola ukuthi amaphupho azo okuthi umama nobaba babuyelane ngeke agcwaliseke.
Kwenze kucace ukuthi awusoze wamshiya
Ngezinye izikhathi izingane aziqondi umqondo wesehlukaniso futhi zingase zicabange ukuthi uma abazali bazo behlukana, bangase bahlukanise nabo, okungadala umuzwa omkhulu wokulahlwa. Izingane zidinga ukwazi ukuthi ngezinye izikhathi omama nobaba banquma ukwahlukana, njengoba nje ngezinye izikhathi izingane zinquma ukungabi abangane. Kodwa azisoze zayeka ukuthandwa noma ukulahlwa, ngoba abazali bahlala bezithanda izingane zabo, kuze kube sekupheleni kwezinsuku zazo.
Tshela indodana yakho ukuthi izolala nobani
Izingane eziningi zizizwa zididekile ngokuthi kufanele ziye kuphi usuku noma isonto. Azi ukuthi zizolala kuphi, futhi lokhu kubabangela ukucindezeleka nokudideka. Azi ukuthi uyise noma unina bazozilanda esikoleni. Izingane zidinga ukwazi isimiso sazo sansuku zonke. Zitshele njalo ekuseni ukuthi zizobe zenzani nokuthi zizobe zinobani, bese uzikhumbuza futhi ngaphambi kokulala. Yenza ikhalenda ekhombisa izinsuku ezizoba noMama nezinsuku ezizoba noBaba bese uyilenga ekamelweni lazo ukuze ziqonde. Isibonelo, ungafaka imibala ezinsukwini ezizoba noBaba ngombala owodwa nezinsuku ezizoba noMama ngombala owodwa. Lokhu kuzobasiza bakhumbule isimiso sabo ngokubonakalayo futhi bazizwe bedidekile kancane.
Mabehambe abazali babuyele emakhaya
Kodwa-ke, kukhona inketho engiyibona ifaneleka kakhulu enhlalakahleni yezingane lapho abazali behlukana. Uma indlu iphethwe ngabazali bobabili futhi iyikhaya lomndeni, futhi uma kukhona indlela yokunciphisa ukuphazamiseka empilweni yezingane, ikhambi elifanele ukuthi abazali bangene futhi baphume ekhaya . Ngamanye amazwi, izingane zizohlala zihlala ekhaya lomndeni ukuze zigweme ukuphazamisa izimpilo zazo ngangokunokwenzeka (sekunzima kakade ukuthi kufanele zidlule ekuguqukeni kwesehlukaniso), futhi abazali bazoshintshana ngokuba nezingane zabo lapho. Ngale ndlela, izingane zizobhekana nokungazinzi okuncane. Ucabangani ngale ndlela yokuvakasha?
Hlela amaholide ukuze bazi ukuthi bazokwenzani futhi nobani
Kubaluleke kakhulu futhi ukuthi amaholide nezinsuku zeholide ziphawulwe ngokucacile ekhalendeni lawo wonke umuntu kusukela ekuqaleni. Ngale ndlela, ngesikhathi samaholide kaKhisimusi noma ehlobo, izingane zingachitha isikhathi esilinganayo noyise nonina, okuzivumela ukuthi zijabulele isikhathi nabazali bobabili ngokulinganayo.
Futhi-ke, zonke izahlulelo ezikhishwa yijaji maqondana nelungelo lokugcina izingane kanye nanoma yiliphi ithemu maqondana nokunakekelwa nenhlalakahle yezingane kufanele ziphoqelelwe ngokuqinile. Yini enye ocabanga ukuthi iyadingeka ukubhekisisa yonke le nqubo kanye nangenxa yezingane ezincane?