Ukusiza ingane yakho ukuthi ifunde emaphutheni futhi ingayeki ukwehluleka kungaba yinselele, kepha kungenzeka ukwenza lokho ngokugcina engqondweni ukukhula kwengqondo hhayi ukucabanga kokuhlulwa. Esimweni sanamuhla sokuncintisana, lapho ezinye izingane ezisencane zifunda amakilasi entuthuko wezibalo kanti enye intsha iphoqelelwa ukuba iqale ukufunda ngokushelelayo ingakafiki iminyaka eyi-5, Abazali bangazizwa benengcindezi yokungazivumeli izingane zabo zisale ngemuva.
Lesi simo singashintsha futhi kufanele siguquke ngaphambi kokuthi silawuleke futhi sithinte kabi ukuzethemba kwezingane. Indlela yokwenza lokhu ukuhlakulela ukucabanga kokukhula. Izingane ezicabanga ukuthi ubuhlakani bazo nekhono lazo lilungisiwe futhi alinakunyakaziswa zizobanjwa futhi zizocabanga ukuthi azikwazi ukuqhubekela phambili noma ukufeza noma iyiphi inhloso abafuna ukuzibekela yona. Esikhundleni salokho, Badinga ukufunda ukuthi ngokubekezela bangafeza noma yini abayibeka emiqondweni yabo empilweni.
Izingane ezaziyo ukuthi ubuhlakani noma amakhono azo angathuthukiswa ngomzamo nangolwazi zizofuna izinselelo eziningi, zifunde emaphutheni, futhi ngeke ziyeke ukwehluleka. Konke lokhu abazali kufanele bakunake ngokuya ngemfundo yezingane zabo.
Ukubaluleka kwengqondo yokukhula
Umqondo wokukhula kwengqondo waphayona ngusosayensi wezengqondo waseStanford University uCarol S. Dweck, futhi usekelwe ku-neuroscience ekhombisa ukuthi ubuchopho bomfundi bungathuthuka ngomzamo wokuzinikela. Ucwaningo lwakhe lubonise ukuthi izimfanelo zomuntu siqu namakhono akulungisiwe, kepha kungashintsha ngokushintsha okulula kokugxila.
Ucwaningo lukaDweck luqhubeke lwabonisa ukuthi indlela izingane ezizicabanga ngayo zinomthelela omkhulu ekufundeni. Ngokuxhumana okuqinile phakathi kwesisusa sabafundi sokufunda ikhono elisha nokuthi babona kanjani ubuhlakani babo, ukuthuthuka kungenziwa, noma uma lokhu kuxhumana kungekuhle, ukuthuthuka kungawela eceleni kwendlela ngenxa yokungavikeleki.
Ukuhlakulela umqondo wokukhula enganeni yakho akuyona inqubo eyinkimbinkimbi futhi ukukhuthazeka okukhulu kungakhiwa ngokusebenzisa amagama afanele nokudumisa ngezikhathi ezifanele. Izingane kufanele zazi ukuthi uma zifuna ngempela, zingakwazi ukufeza lokho ezihlose ukukwenza.
IsiboneloUma intombazane inenkinga ngamakhono okufunda ulimi, ingatshelwa ukuthi ingangcono futhi ifunde okuningi ngokwenza nesikhathi engisinikela kulolo limi. Akukona ukuthi mubi ekufundeni noma ukuthi mubi kulolo limi, kuzofanele afake umfutho owengeziwe nokubekezela. Umzamo yiwo ozosiza ukufeza amakhono adingekayo. Izingane kufanele zazi ukuthi ukwehluleka nokwenza amaphutha kuyinto enhle ngoba amaphutha afundwayo. Ukufunda ukwehluleka kungaholela ekwakhiweni okuhle nasekuqambeni kwezinto ukuze kuthuthukiswe ngaphakathi.
Ukuncoma kubalulekile futhi emqondweni wokukhula. Kuyadingeka ukuthi ungasebenzisi indumiso ejwayelekile bese ukhetha ukucacisa. Esikhundleni sokusho izinto ezinjengokuthi: 'Uhlakaniphe kakhulu', ungasho okunye okufana nokuthi: 'Uthola imiphumela emihle ngoba ukuzijwayeza kukusiza uqonde konke kangcono kakhulu'. Lokhu kuzodonsela ukunaka kude nekhono elingaguquki futhi kugxile kwinqubo yokufunda nokuthuthuka.
Ungayinikeza Kanjani Amandla Okukhula Engqondo Yezingane Yokunqoba Ukwehluleka
Khuluma ngokufunda
Ukukhuluma ngokufunda kudinga ukuba yinto yansuku zonke emndenini. Noma ngabe sekuseni, emini, emotweni, ngaphambi kokulala, uhamba ngomgwaqo ... Abazali bangabelana ngeminye imibuzo nezingane zabo ukuze izingane zibone amandla azo aphelele. Eminye imibuzo ingaba elandelayo:
- Ufundeni namuhla?
- Ngabe wenze iphutha elikufundise okuthile okusha?
- Yini into eyinkimbinkimbi kunazo zonke oyenzile namuhla?
Kubalulekile ukuthi abazali nabagcini babantwana nabo babelane ngokufunda kwabo, ngoba kuyimodeli ezinganeni futhi bazokwazi ukuthi nabantu abadala bangawenza amaphutha futhi bafunde kubo nsuku zonke.
Khuluma ngenqubo hhayi ngomphumela kuphela
Ukuncoma imizamo yezingane kubalulekile ukuthi zifunde ukuthi kubaluleke kakhulu kunomphumela uqobo. Ukuphikelela, ukucabanga ngamasu ahlukile, ukufuna amathuba amasha, ukubeka izinhloso zokufinyelela imigomo emisha, ukuhlela ukuyifeza, ukusebenzisa ubuqambi noma ukuxazulula izingxabano, kuyizibonelo ezinhle zokudumisa inqubo hhayi umphumela omkhulu kangako.
Musa ukuncoma amakhono akho njengobuhlakani noma ubuciko. Lolu hlobo lokudumisa lungaholela ekulahlekelweni ukuzethemba njengoba izingane zingeke zihlakaniphe kuzo zonke izingxenye zempilo yazo. Bazongabaza ikhono labo lokuphatha okuthile okwaqala kwaba nzima kubo futhi bangafuna ngisho nokuyeka phansi kusenesikhathi, becabanga ukuthi abakwazi noma ukuthi akukufanele ukuzikhandla entweni abangayazi kahle.
Khuthaza ukufunda emaphutheni
Ukwehluleka kufundisa izingane zethu izifundo ezibalulekile zempilo. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, yindlela abafunda ngayo ukuqina, ukubekezela, nokuzikhuthaza. Manje yisikhathi sokuvumela izingane zizibeke engozini futhi zehluleke. Ungalingeki ukuvimbela izingane zakho ekuhlulekeni ukuze zingadabuki noma zizizwe njengesehluleki ... Kumele zifunde ukubhekana nale mizwa ukuze ziyinqobe futhi zibone ukuthi ziyakwazi ukubekezela nokuphikelela.
Kuyadingeka ukuthi izingane zivumele ukwehluleka okuthile ukuze zikwazi ukuqinisa imicabango yazo yokukhula. Uma ungakuvumeli, bazoba ngabantu abadala ngaphandle kokubekezela noma ukucabanga ukuthi akudingekile ukuthi usebenze kanzima ukuze uphumelele empilweni. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, uma usebenza ngokufunda emaphutheni, lapho izinto ziba nzima uzozwa ukuthi kuyinselelo ongayinqoba ngempela.