Njengoba ingane ikhula, kunezigaba ezimbili zokukhula okulindeleke kuwe: ukuqala ukuhamba nokukhuluma. Kepha akuzona zonke izingane eziqala ukukhuluma kusenesikhathi futhi lokhu kungabakhathaza abazali, ikakhulukazi uma kungama-timers okuqala. Ukwenza ingane yakho ikhulume inqubo edinga ukubekezela nokubekezela. Kusukela onyakeni wokuqala, bavame ukusho amagama amabili, noma amanye ambalwa, imvamisa umama nobaba. Ukukhomba izinto nokwenza imisindo kuba umkhuba.
Kuphakathi kwezinyanga eziyi-18 neminyaka emibili lapho kwenzeka khona ukuthuthuka okukhulu kokuqala olimini, lapho ingane iqala khona ukukhuluma imisho yamagama ambalwa, futhi inerekhodi elibanzi esilulumagama sayo. Kusukela lapho, amakhono olimi ezingane aqala ukuthuthuka. Yize izoqhubeka ikhiphe imisindo ebukeka njengezingxoxo kepha engaqondakali. Lokhu kubizwa nge-jargon. Ukucaca kwenkulumo kufanele kudlulele ekuqedeni phakathi kweminyaka emi-3 nengu-5. Kakade esikoleni izingane ngokuvamile sezivele zikwazi ukuzikhulumela futhi zigcine izingxoxo ezilula.
Ngingayenza kanjani ingane yami ikhulume
Dala amathuba okukhuluma
Kunezindlela ezingenakubalwa zokwenza lokhu khuthaza ingane yakho ukuba ikhulume, futhi kuvela kakhulu lapho ingane yakho ifuna okuthile. Isibonelo, ubeka ithoyizi lakhe alithandayo kude, ngakho lapho elifuna, uzozama ukuzenza aqondwe. Lapho ekhomba indawo lapho ithoyizi lakhe likhona, ungambuza ukuthi uyalifuna yini lelo thoyizi, ngokwesibonelo: "Uyalifuna iloli eliluhlaza?", Futhi lapho ulinika, phinda igama, njenge: "Thatha oluhlaza iloli. " Lokhu kuzobasiza ukuthi baqonde ukuthi basebenzise kanjani amakhono abo okuxhumana nokukhuluma ukucela usizo.
Lokhu kungenziwa ngezinto zakhe, kepha nangokudla, ukumvumela ukuthi a-ode ukudla kwakhe, isibonelo. Esikhundleni sokubanikeza ngesikhathi, ungadlala abazali "abakhohlwayo", umdlalo osebenza kahle futhi. Kuqukethe ukwenza sengathi ukhohlwa izinto ezisobala obukade uzenza, kanjena, Ngaphezu kokujabulisa ingane yakho, uzophinde uyikhuthaze ukuthi ikutshele ukuthi uzenza kanjani izinto kahle. Njalo sebenzisa imibuzo yokuqinisekisa, efana nokuthi "Ngikhohliwe izicathulo zami?" Ngale ndlela, ngaphezu kokumkhuthaza, uzokwandisa amagama akhe ngenxa yokuphindaphinda.
Nweba amakhono akho olimi ukuze ingane yami ikwazi ukukhuluma
Lapho uzama ukwandisa amakhono akho olimi, udinga ukugxila ekufinyeleleni ezingeni elilandelayo. Ukuzama ukumhambisa ngokushesha okukhulu kungamkhathaza. Izingane ezincane ziyakhuluma noma baxhumana ngamagama ambalwa kakhulu, ngakho-ke inhloso yakho ukukhulisa lelo silulumagama ukuze libe nezinsizakusebenza eziningi zolimi. Gxila ezintweni ozithandayo, kungaba yizilwane, izimoto, imibala ... Uma ungenasithakazelo esihlokweni uzobhoreka.
Isikhathi lapho usho igama, nweba uhlu lwamagama ngezincazelo. Isibonelo, uma ingane yakho ithi imoto, ungangeza izichasiso ezinjengokuthi “imoto enhle ebomvu”, noma “inja yinhle”. Leli isu ongalisebenzisa kusukela kumagama akho okuqala, noma ngabe lingahlanganisi imiqondo emshweni okwamanje. Into ebaluleke kakhulu ukusebenzisa amagama alula ongawaphinda.. Kubalulekile futhi ukuqeda ukunganaki. Okusho ukuthi, uma ebiza igama elingalungile, liphinde kahle kodwa ngaphandle kokumtshela ukuthi ulikhulume kabi. Ungakhohlwa ukuthi usafunda futhi ubatshele ukuthi bathe into engalungile ingaba nomphumela.
Uzoqala nini ukukhathazeka?
Izingane ezikuqondayo okushiwoyo kepha ezinesilinganiso esilinganiselwe sokusebenzisa amagama phakathi kwezinyanga eziyi-18 kuya kwezingama-35 zibhekwa njengezikhulumi ezidlula isikhathi. Isilulumagama esichazayo sengane sincike emagameni awasebenzisayo, hhayi ngendlela yabo yokuphimisela. Lokhu kwehlukile ekuqondeni. Ingane yakho kungenzeka ingakwazi ukubiza igama, kepha ingazenza iqondwe ngaphandle kokukhomba noma ukukhombisa isenzo.
Esinye isici sokunquma kwesipikha sekwephuzile ukuthi noma ngabe kukhona ukubambezeleka kwezinye izindawo zentuthuko njengokuhamba noma ukudlala. Uma ingane encane ikhombisa ukubambezeleka kokuthuthuka kulezi zindawo, udokotela wezingane uzobheka izimo ezinjengezinkinga zokuzwa noma i-autism. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukuthi ingane iqale ukukhuluma sekwedlule isikhathi esijwayelekile kujwayelekile, ngakho-ke uma udokotela wezingane ethi ingane yakho ilungile, asikho isidingo sokwethuka. Ingane ngayinye inezikhathi zayo futhi kufanele ihlonishwe.