Kulezi zinsuku sifundile ukuthi iNkantolo yesiFundazwe yaseValencia ikhiphe isinqumo sokuhoxisa ukuhoxiswa kwecala eligciniwe. Konke kuqale ngesikhalazo sabanye abazali ngokuphathwa kabi kokuthi ingane yabo eneminyaka emibili ihlupheke esikoleni sezinkulisa kulelo dolobha. Njengoba ungacabanga, kube nesiyaluyalu impela, futhi kwaqubula impikiswano enkulu. Ingane bekungeyona yodwa eyahlukunyezwa amandla ngabanakekeli benkulisa, njengoba bebebaningi abathola izijeziso ukuma noma ukuhlala wedwa ekilasini elimnyama nelikhiyiwe (okuthusayo, woza…).
Imindeni ithembela kuqala ebuchwephesheni babasebenzi abafundisayo obuhambela amantombazane nabafana ezigabeni zabo ezehlukene zemfundo; Ngingathanda futhi ukuthi ngaphezu kokuqeqeshelwa ukufundisa nokunakekela izingane, izingane nentsha, bakwazi ngokomzwelo ukunakekela izidalwa eziyinkimbinkimbi futhi ezizwela kakhulu ukuthi njengoba bekhula bethula izidingo ezehlukene ezingokwengqondo, ezenhlalo, ezomzimba nezamasiko.
Ngikusho lokhu ngoba (manje angibhekiseli odabeni oluthile olusondele) sengazi amacala angaphezu kwelilodwa lapho bekufanele ngizibuze khona ukuthi "ngabe yini le ayaziyo mayelana nengqondo yezingane?" Kuhlale kuthiwa ukwenza le misebenzi kudinga ukukhuthazeka okuningi, kepha futhi nokuzinza okuningi futhi "ukwazi ukuthi ungaba kanjani", ngoba ukuvikelwa okuhlosiwe kungaphenduka kube ukulimala ngokomzwelo kwabafundi.
Ukungena esihlokweni, ngingakuqinisekisa ukuthi Ukuvalela ingane (2, 8 noma 12 yeminyaka) endaweni emnyama, futhi ukukwenza njengokujezisa kwehlisa isithunzi kakhulu, kepha futhi kuyabudedengu ngoba kukushaya indiva ukunakekelwa kwesidingo esiyisisekelo. Lesi sidingo singabhekisisa imizwa: lezo zindlela ezizenzakalelayo esizisebenzisayo ukuphendula izinto ezingaphandle.
Futhi njengoba ukunakwa (masingasho ukuthi ukuphathwa) kwemizwa kungenye yezinto ezikhohliwe kakhulu kwezemfundo, ngingahle ngiphakamise ukuthi sizibone njengabahlanganyeli, noma ezimeni lapho ingane, ngokobudala, ingaphansi kwengcindezi, noma noma ngabe yisiphi isizathu, asikwazi ukunikeza izimpendulo ezanele. Ngokubona kwami, lapha kulapho kuzobonakala khona inani lochwepheshe bezemfundo, ngubani - ngaphezu kwalokho - umuntu omdala, ngakho-ke okwazi ukuqonda abafundi babo.
Ukujezisa ngokuvalela?
Hawu, imfundo yengcindezelo asebekhulile abayitholile iminyaka isafanelekile, futhi okubi kakhulu!, angamaLegion abantu abathi Thembela ekujezisweni (kufaka phakathi okwenyama) njengendlela yokufunda, lapho kungenjalo. Kumele ufunde okunye ukuphawula ekubuyekezweni kwezindaba: kukhona labo abaphika amaqiniso ("abashana bami baye lapho, akunakwenzeka ukuthi kwenzeke into enjalo"), owehlisa lokho "ngempama ngesikhathi okwanele kakhulu, banginikeze khona akwenzekanga lutho kimi ”(ahem ... Ngabe ukuthethelela udlame akusho ukuthi ukujeziswa emzimbeni kushiye uphawu lwayo?), njll.
Okwamanje, umphakathi wonkana, namanje akazi ukuthi umthelela wokuhlukunyezwa kwanoma yiluphi uhlobo unjani ezimpilweni zezingane: empilweni yamanje nasesikhathini esizayo. Njengesibonelo ngiyakutshela ukuthi phakathi kweminye imiphumela kungenzeka lokho okwaziwa ngokuthi yi-hypothesis yokuzala kokuhlukumeza okungenzeka, okusaxoxwa ngakho kakhulu, yize uGreen (ngo-1998) akuqinisekisile. Ngamanye amagama, ingane ehlukumezayo iphatha kabi abanye abantu eminyakeni edlule, futhi lokho kungaba yisizathu esinamandla sokuthi sibheke ushintsho olukhulu ebudlelwaneni nabancane. Kepha futhi kungenzeka ukucindezeleka okunobuthi, neminye imiphumela esingeke sibhekane nayo manje.
Ngihlala ngikweluleka ukuthi uma ukuqonda okuvamile kungasiphumeleli futhi silahlekelwe umbono wangempela wokuvikela izingane, ake sicabange isenzo esingaba yingozi enganeni, kube sengathi sizosetshenziswa kumuntu omdala. Kuwena ongifundayo, cabanga ngalokhu okulandelayo, “ngoMsombuluko umphathi wakho uyakucasukela ngoba ukhuluma kakhulu futhi ucasula ozakwenu, bese ekuyisa egumbini elimnyama akushiye khona ihora elilodwa”, yini ukuthotshiswa! Intukuthelo engakanani! iqiniso? ". Okomntwana, ingane kulokhu! Kubi kakhulu, phakathi kwezinye izinto ngoba ithemba abanakekeli bayo, futhi ayinayo nombono wesikhathi ofana nowakho. Ungathini uma kuyini imizuzu engama-30 yakho yalowo omncane obe ngamahora ama-2? Phew!
Udlame lubanga ukuhlupheka okuningi, futhi ukuhlukunyezwa wudlame
Sisafundisa ngokwesaba
Sifuna izincwadi zinyamalale futhi izingane zethu zifunde ngamaphrojekthi, sifuna izinsizakusebenza eziningi ze-ICT emakilasini, sifuna uhlelo lwesimanje ezingeni lamanye amazwe, futhi ngaphezu kwakho konke ezingeni lezidingo zabanye abafundi abazoncintisana ngokuhlukile imakethe yemisebenzi esizithole sikuyo.
Futhi ngibheke phambili kuzo zonke lezo zinguquko ezinhle ... Siyakhohlwa ukuthi SISAFUNDISA ngokwesaba (abazali nothisha) ngokwazi noma ngokungazi; Futhi-ke, ukwesaba kuphambene nothando, okuyinto amantombazane nabafana abakudinga kakhulu. Kuyadingeka futhi ukuthi sigxile enhlosweni yokuqeda ukwesaba, ngoba (futhi uValeria uzokhuluma ngalokhu kungekudala) ingumlingani omkhulu wokungabi nalusizo kwabafundi, okuvimba isenzo futhi kukhulise kakhulu ukuba sengozini kwengqondo komncane. Awukufuneli lokho izingane zakho, akunjalo?
Ngimelene nezinhlelo zezijeziso nemivuzo kunoma ibuphi ubudlelwano bezemfundo, kepha ukujezisa obhekene nodonga noma ukukhiya ... yilokho impela, kunzima kangakanani ukwazi ukuthi imicimbi efanayo iyenzeka emhlabeni wonke. Noma ngubani ojezisayo akazethembi kangako emandleni abo, kepha futhi kubangela nokuthi omncane ayeke ukumethemba. Asidingi ukuthambisa noma ukulawula izingane ukuze sizwane nabo.
Ilungelo labazali lokubika.
Kusuka kunoma imuphi umama, kunoma yimuphi ubaba, owaziyo ukuthi ingane yakhe ihlukunyeziwe noma ihlukunyezwa uthisha, ehlushwa ukusetshenziswa kabi kwamandla, kulungile! Akudingeki siyivume, kepha izingane yizo esizithanda kakhulu! Njengoba ngifundile, ummeli wesikhungo semfundo uyabuphika ubufakazi, nokuthi owayengumfundi esikoleni sezinkulisa, wakuqinisekisa ngaleso sikhathi izinsolo zabazali. Futhi ngasendleleni, ngikhuluma ngalokho 'kusetshenziswa kabi kwamandla engikushoyo', UMel usitshela okuningi ngaye kule posi yebhulogi..
Imibiko yezengqondo yokuthi akukho ngane okufanele idlule kuyo iveze lokho eseminyakeni yayo engakwazanga ukukuveza ngamazwi, noma (mhlawumbe) ngenguquko ebonakalayo ekuziphatheni. Isikhathi sokuthi abazali bazithathe ngokungathi sína lezi zinto, futhi masivikele inzalo yethu, ngoba imicimbi efana nale esikhuluma ngayo ngeke yenzeke kuzo zonke izindawo (ngiyethemba), kepha kuyilungelo lokufuna imithwalo yemfanelo.
Futhi ngasikhathi sinye, ngicabanga ukuthi kuyilungelo labancane ukuthi abanakekeli babo bazi ukuthi bangabanakekela kanjani lapho bekhala, bezizwa bengakhululekile, bedabukile ... Isibonelo, akunangqondo ukwenza lokho eminyakeni emi-2 bathatha isihlwathi ngomlingo nawo wonke umuntu ngehora elilodwa. Kufanele kube khona izixazululo ezilungele wonke umuntu, futhi kulokhu "wonke umuntu" ngifaka nezitshudeni.
Ngikholwa wukuthi inkulisa, inkulisa kanye nesikole samabanga aphansi, isikole samabanga aphakeme, kufanele kube nezindawo ezamukelekayo neziphephile zabafundi bazo. Yini abaya lapho ukuyofunda? Yebo, yebo, kepha ngaphezu kwakho konke bazothuthuka njengabantu, futhi umuntu onjani ongahlazeka noma othukwe angaba ngumuntu onjani?
Ngidinga usizo ubaba wentombazane yami umvalela endlini yangasese futhi
shiya ebumnyameni
Ngisizeni, akukapheli ngisho inyanga eyodwa indodana yami eneminyaka emithathu ubudala yayilwa nabazala bayo futhi mina njengesijeziso samvalela egumbini elimnyama, kwakusebusuku. Manje usesaba yonke into, akafuni ukuba yedwa ngisho nasemini, futhi akafuni nokudla, wehlile kakhulu emzimbeni. Ngiyacela, ngenzenjani ukukusiza unqobe ukwesaba? Ngiyaxolisa kakhulu ngesimo sami sengqondo
Umzukulu wami oneminyaka eyisi-5 uthathe izikhathi ezimbalwa eziyinselele, abazali bakhe (mina nendodakazi kanye nomkhwenyana) bamvalela njengesijeziso, ngifuna ingxabano yobungcweti ukuze ibavimbe bangakwenzi, ngiyabonga.
Lowo engangisebenza naye futhi sinendodakazi eneminyaka engu-8 ubudala lapho sehlukanisa indodakazi yami yayineminyaka engu-5 nje kuphela, njengesijeziso uma ingaziphathi kahle ngayivalela egumbini ngicishe isibani nomnyango wavalwa, indodakazi yami isiqalile manje ukungitshela izinto ezithile, futhi angazi ukuthi ngenzeni. Ngicela ungisize.