Kuyini okunamathiselwe kokugwema

intombazane ephambane izingalo

Okunamathiselwe yisimo sengqondo noma indlela yokuziphatha ojwayele ukuyenza lapho uhlobana nabanye.Ukusebenzelana kwakho kusenesikhathi nabazali bakho kulolonga indlela yakho yokunamathisela kukho konke ukuphila. Kuye ngokuthi abazali bakho bebesondele kangakanani futhi besabela kangakanani, indlela yakho yokunamathisela ingaba evikelekile, ikhathazeke, ingahlelekile, igweme, noma enye into.

Kodwa-ke, noma ngabe isitayela sakho sokunamathiselwe sigwenywa, ungashintshela kokunamathiselwe okuvikelekile ngosizo lochwepheshe. Lokhu kuzokwenza ubudlelwano bakho bomuntu siqu, kunoma yimuphi umkhakha, buthuthuke kakhulu. Uma ubuhlobo bomuntu siqu buthuthuka, akungabazeki ukuthi noma iyiphi ingxenye yokuphila kwakho iyozuza kakhulu..

Kusho ukuthini ukunamathela kokugwema?

Okunamathiselwe kokugwema kuyisitayela sokunamathisela ingane esikhula lapho uyise kanye/noma nomama behluleka ukubonisa ukunakekela noma ukuphendula okungaphezu kokuhlinzeka ngezinto ezibalulekile njengokudla nophahla phezu kwamakhanda abo. Ngaleyo ndlela ingane ayizinaki izinkinga zayo futhi idinga ukugcina ukuthula futhi igcine abazali bayo beseduze. Njengoba bekhula baqhubeka nokulwa futhi uzizwa ukhathazekile noma udabuke, kodwa bazigcine kubo futhi bayakuphika ukubaluleka kwaleyo mizwa. 

Lapho ingane ifuna noma idinga ukusekelwa, abazali abagwemayo bangase balulaze noma bangazinaki izinkinga zabo. Lokhu kubakhuthaza ukuthi bathuthukise indlela yokunamathisela yokugwema. EMpumalanga uhlobo lokunamathiselwe ngokuvamile ihlala nomuntu oyedwa kuze kube yilapho umuntu esekhulile, okungase kuthinte ubudlelwano babo bothando, ubungane, kanye nanoma yiluphi olunye uhlobo lokuxhumana.

Izimbangela zokunamathiselwe kokugwema

Izinkinga zomndeni

Ake sibone izibonelo ezithile ze- ukuziphatha komzali okukhuthaza ukuthuthukiswa kwalolu hlobo lokunamathisela:

  • Ukungaphenduli lapho ingane noma ingane ikhala
  • Baqede ukukhala kwabo
  • Ukungakhiqizi ukusabela okungokomzwelo ezinkingeni noma izimpumelelo zengane
  • Ukwehluleka ukubhekana nezinkinga zezokwelapha noma izidingo zokudla okunomsoco
  • Gwema ukuthintana ngokomzimba

Abazali maningi amathuba okuthi babonise lokhu kuziphatha uma besebancane kakhulu noma bengenalwazi lokukhulisa izingane. Kuvamile nakubazali abanesifo sengqondo. Izingane zingakwazi futhi ukuthuthukisa izitayela zokunamathisela zokugwema ngenxa yokutholwa noma isifo abaphethwe yiso. Ezinye izizathu zingaba ngenxa yokudivosa kwabazali babo noma ukushona kwabazali.

Gwema Izimpawu Ezinamathiselwe

Abantu banoma iyiphi iminyaka yobudala abanezitayela zokunamathisela zokugwema ingase ibonise izimpawu zokucindezeleka noma ukukhathazeka. Izingane zabazali abagwemayo zingase zingazi ukuthi zingenziwa kanjani ngaphandle kwesidingo sothando noma ukunakekelwa. Laba bantu kungenzeka:

  • Gwema ukuthintana ngokomzimba
  • Gwema ukuthintana emehlweni
  • Ungaceli usizo, noma uma belucela, yiba ngaphandle
  • Yidla ngendlela engavamile noma ngokungahlelekile

Njengoba izingane ezinamathele ngokugwema zikhula, ingase ibonise izimpawu ebudlelwaneni bakamuva nokuziphatha, njenge:


  • Inkinga yokubonisa noma ukuzwa imizwa yakho
  • Bazizwa bengakhululekile ngokusondelana ngokomzimba nokuthintana ngokomzimba nabanye abantu
  • Ebudlelwaneni bothando, basola uyise ngokunamathela kakhulu noma ukunamathela
  • Yenqaba usizo noma ukusekelwa ngokomzwelo kwabanye abantu
  • Ukwesaba ukulinyazwa umlingani wabo noma omunye umuntu uma bevule kakhulu
  • Umuzwa wokuzimela komuntu siqu kanye nenkululeko ubaluleke kakhulu kunokusebenzelana nabanye abantu
  • Ukungamethembi umlingani wabo ngezikhathi zokucindezeleka, nokungavumeli umlingani wabo ukuba amethembe
  • Kubukeka kuzolile futhi kuqoqwe ezimeni ezikhungethwe yimizwa

Ukwelashwa kokunamathiselwe okugwemayo

ubudlelwano bezithandani ezikude

Ukugwema ukunamathela kungavimbela abantu ekubeni nobudlelwano obunempilo nobanelisayo nabalingani babo, umndeni nabangane. Kodwa kungenzeka ukushintsha isitayela sokunamathiselwe ngokusebenzisa ukwelashwa. Ukwelashwa kokuziphatha kwengqondo kusebenza ngokukhomba amaphethini okucabanga ayingozi nokuziphatha, ukuqonda ukuthi kungani futhi kwenzeka nini. Kungenzeka ukuqeda lezi zindlela zokucabanga eziyingozi kanye nokuziphatha ngokulingisa indawo, ukuxazulula izinkinga kanye nokuthuthukisa ukuzethemba.

Ukuze ugweme ukunamathela, ukwelashwa kokuziphatha kwengqondo kungabhekana nemicabango nezinkolelo ezigwemayo, futhi kusebenzele ukwakha okunamathiselwe okuphephile esikhundleni salokho. Ukuthola umelaphi ofanele kuyingxenye ebalulekile yokwelashwa. Isiguli kufanele sizizwe sikhululekile lapho sinomelaphi waso futhi kumelwe simethembe. Ngokwelashwa, ukungaguquguquki kuyisihluthulelo, noma ngabe uzwa sengathi imicabango yakho nokuziphatha kwakho kuyathuthuka ngokushesha.


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  2. Inhloso yedatha: Lawula Ugaxekile, ukuphathwa kwamazwana.
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  4. Ukuxhumana kwemininingwane: Imininingwane ngeke idluliselwe kubantu besithathu ngaphandle kwesibopho esisemthethweni.
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