"Kubvisirwa vanaamai" waive musoro webasa uyo John Bowby, chiremba wezvepfungwa weBritish uye psychoanalyst, akanyora mushure meHondo Yenyika Yechipiri pakukumbira kweUN kutaura nezvematambudziko akatambudzwa vese vana avo vanga vaparadzaniswa naamai vavo. Yekubatanidza dzidziso yaizobuda kubva kune iri basa.
El kusungira ndiyo hukama hwehukama hunogadzwa nemucheche nemunhu anomutarisira nguva zhinji, wako wekutanga wekubatanidza mufananidzo. Yekubatanidza dzidziso inodzidza hukama hwevanhu, uye dzidziso yacho yakavakirwa pachokwadi chekuti kuchengetedzeka kwemwana kana kushushikana kunoonekwa nekuwanika uye kupindura kwechimiro chavo chekutanga chekubatanidza.
Asi ndiani ari wekutanga wekubatanidza chimiro?
Es munhu anochengeta mwana. Kazhinji nhamba iyi amai vake sezvo ari iye anomuyamwisa, anomurarisa, anomudzikamisa, anoimbira kwaari ... uye uyo akazvipira kurera vana, ane zororo rekuzvara (uyezve anowedzera kana kudzikisa zuva rake zvichienderana nezvaanogona ... ), nezvimwewo.
Hukama huri pakati pemucheche neake / ake ekutanga chinamato chimiro chinomupa iye rudo rwake uye hanya, pamwe nekuchengetedzeka uye kuvimba. Iyi link ichave yako kuendesa hukama hwekugadzira hukama hutsva munguva yehupenyu hwako. Mune mamwe mazwi, hukama hunosimbiswa nemwana nemuchengeti mukuru hunogadzirisa mhando yehukama hwaachazomisa mune ramangwana nevamwe vanhu.
Kubva pamufananidzo uyu, iyo inokupa iwe rudo rusingaverengeki uye chengetedzo, mucheche anoongorora nyika, inofamba ichienda, inounganidza zviitiko ... Uye inodzokera kwaari ku zvinyaradze uye uzvisimbise mumamiriro ezvinhu ane njodzi, kusagadzikana, kurwadziwa, Etc.
Chibatiso chakachengeteka
«Mwana anoziva chinamato chake anowanikwa uye anonzwisisa zvaari kuda inovapa yakasimba uye inopinda kunzwa kwekuchengeteka uye inomukurudzira kuti kukoshesa uye kuenderera mberi nehukama ». Aya ndiwo makotesheni anozivikanwa kubva John Bowlby, pamwe nekuti ndiyo inonyanya kujekesa.
Mary ainsworth, chiremba wezvepfungwa wekuAmerican akaramba achivandudza Bowlby's yekubatanidza dzidziso, akasiyanisa matatu marudzi ekubatanidza: iyo chibatiso chakachengeteka, el kunzvenga kusabatana kwakabatana, and the ambivalent chengetedzo. Margaret mahler, chiremba wevana uye psychoanalyst, akawedzera rudzi rwechina rwekubatanidza: iyo kusarongeka kana kusanzwisisika kunamatira.
Kana paine hukama hwe chengetedza chinamato Pakati pemwana naamai, mwana anonzwa akachengeteka kuva naye, anochema kana akaparadzaniswa naye, uye anofara apo kusangana kunoitika. Rudzi urwu rwekubatanidza runoitika kana muchengeti anogara achinzwisisa, achiwanika, uye achiwanikwa kutarisira zvinodiwa nemwana.
Kurwadziwa kwekuparadzana
Biologically, pamoyo, mwana anoda kuva naamai vake. Vana vanofanirwa kutanga hukama hwakakombama nemunhu mumwe chete, wekutanga wekubatanidza chimiro. Sezvandambotaura pamusoro, kazhinji amai vanomiririra uyu murume sezvo ari iye anowanzo kuve anotarisira mukurerwa kwavo kubva pakuzvarwa. Kubva pahukama naamai, mwana anotambanudzira hukama hwake kune mamwe manhamba ekubatanidza: baba, kutanga, uye gare gare dzimwe nhengo dzemhuri.
Kupatsanurwa kubva pachimiro chekubatirana, kana kuchikura, kunounza kushushikana kwakanyanya kana kushoma zvichienderana nezera remwana uye nguva yekuparadzaniswa. Muvana vari pasi pemakore matatu ezera, kupatsanurwa kubva kuna amai kwemaawa mashoma mamiriro ekutambura uye kana kukagara rinopfuura zuva, matambudziko akajeka uye anoramba aripo maitiro.
Kuparadzaniswa nekumanikidzwa naamai kunogona kuva nemhedzisiro yakakomba pahutano hwepamoyo hwemucheche.. Yakatsanangurwa naBowlby, maitiro anomuka mushure mekuparadzaniswa kusingadiwe ndeaya: kurwadziwa kwepfungwa, kusagadzikana kwehunhu, kushushikana, kutsamwa, kushushikana kana kuregera pamoyo.