If there is a characteristic that accompanies the passage through the adolescence is frustration. Adolescents and tweens face a new difficult stage that can become much more complicated if they do not have the support and understanding of their parents. And since few parents are prepared for that moment or are simply caught off guard or refuse (consciously or unconsciously) to accept change, the impact on their children can be significant.
Teens face new challenges and no wonder they are often frustrated and / or confused. Helping them get over the bump is not that difficult ... maybe a little bit it is. In any case, it is possible through some strategies that help to calm down and calm down. Let's see how to get it.
Give it space
If your teenager comes home angry and Bad mood You will most likely feel the urge to try to calm him down and talk to him, but he will probably reject you. If so, don't insist and give it space. Don't be angry or take the rejection personally. Give it space and let him deal with his bad mood. Give him no more reason to be angry.
Listen to him when he wants to talk
If your teenager wants to talk to you you must listen to him, let him vent and answer his questions. When he is venting, you can take the opportunity to show your support and empathy and to show him effective ways to deal with his problems and frustrations.
It is important that don't judge him and that you give solutions. If he feels judged he will look for another way to Unburden and other types of people to talk to. And you never know where that road ends.
Help him find a hobby
Adolescents, as well as adults, do very well have a hobby to distract yourself out of your problems and release your frustration. Helping him find a hobby that he enjoys and supporting him in his development is very beneficial and will allow him to experience the benefits of taking on new challenges.
Don't interfere
It's hard to watch your child go through a difficult time. But trying to solve their problems is not the way. Your son is learning to trust others, is discovering how human relationships work and how it should unfold. If you interfere you are denying him a learning that is fundamental for life.
Support him when he needs it and never say "I warned you" or "how do you think to do that." Show him that you respect him so that he is the one who comes to you for advice. In this case, don't tell him what to do: show him options so he can think about it, reflect and decide for himself.
Pay attention and act when necessary
Not interfering does not mean not being attentive. On the contrary: you must remain vigilant and know what is happening. If your child's situation becomes complicated, you should know and act before it is too late.
La subtlety It can be your great weapon if you detect, for example, a problem of bullying or lack of adaptation, for example. Whenever you can, help your child without appearing to be intruding on his life. Y if it is necessary to intervene, seek the necessary support in the environment, talk to your child and, if necessary, seek professional help.