Until not long ago, women stayed at home to care for their children. Fortunately, today, this can be a decision that women make freely without having to be a social imposition. There are many people who think that staying at home in the care of family and children is a life of luxury (although we remember that you do not charge a euro to do it), but that you do not have to 'work', you do not have to put up with 'bosses' and you can live without stress 24 hours a day.
This is not entirely true, and it is necessary to begin to know what are the pros, but also the cons of being a stay-at-home mom taking care of the children and the house. In this way, you can freely choose if this goes with you or not.
You will always be next to your children
This is the main reason why a woman and mother chooses the stay-at-home path. It has the pro that as a mother you stay at home and you will always be by your son's side when he needs you. But it has the disadvantage that always being next to your children can make you feel trapped. You may like being a stay-at-home mom, but there will be times when you wish you could steal a few moments from yourself.
To have balance it is important that you have moments for yourself, for your personal and mental care. Your physical and mental care depends on: getting enough sleep, eating well, exercising, and having time to relax.
You're never alone
You will always be with your children close. It has the pro that your children will be with you almost every hour of the day, you will be there in everything: their first steps, their first words, their first falls ... But it has the disadvantage that you will never be alone, that is to say that you will literally NEVER be alone ... You can hardly even go to the bathroom alone.
To find the balance You will have to establish some personal limits, this is not bad, but you must do it for your mental health.
You don't work outside the home
Thanks to not working outside the home you can dedicate 100% of your time and energy to your children because you do not worry about work deadlines, or traffic jams, or a boss who tortures you. This has the disadvantage that you lose interaction with other adults, that you lose the feeling of doing a good job, having a salary and even dressing well to go to the office.
To find the balance you can obtain this satisfaction and connect with other adults if you volunteer at your children's school, in social organizations in your community. You can also have a small income if you find a part-time job from home or do some type of independent work such as making crafts or recipes to later sell.
You are raising your children
You will be intimately focused on the development of your child, and really, this is not paid for with money. It has the pro that your children will be with you almost all the time and it will not be someone else who is raising your children because you must be away from home. You determine what they eat, their schedules and the values they learn. You are absolutely responsible for their lives as they grow up. The downside is that you can create a bubble almost without realizing it and isolate yourself from the world, and also isolate your children without realizing it.
To find the balance it is better that from time to time you meet your friends, that you organize game evenings for your children and their friends at home ... so you can all expose yourself in a healthy way to social environments while you are raising your children.
You are the one who runs your home
Home management is the stay-at-home part of a mother's job. It has the advantage of knowing everything that concerns your home: paying the bills, cleaning, taking the children everywhere, keeping the family calendar under control ... But the disadvantage is that all the weight of the home falls on you. Even if your partner is the best teammate in the world, There will be times when you will feel very stressed trying to keep up with everything while raising children.
To find the balance, delegate some tasks to your partner and children. As for the children, if you do, you will be teaching them important life skills and responsibility if they help with laundry, cleaning and cooking, to name just a few.
You have a gap in your resume
This society does not understand it, but it is a reality. If you take care of your children you will have a gap in your resume and it will no longer show that you have been continuously employed. This can be a pro because when you want to return to your work there may be jobs where they facilitate access, but as against, you can find companies that do not see it with good eyes and do not understand why you did it. You will also have to compete with people younger than you and with a much more recent experience.
To balance this, it is a good idea to take courses, volunteer or independent work to do from home while you are caring for your children. In this way, when you want to rejoin work life, you will not have such a big gap.
You have mixed feelings
You will have mixed feelings because you will not be able to contribute to help the family financially and this can cause you to have contradictory feelings within you. This as a pro is that on the one hand you can save gasoline, kangaroos, clothes, etc. But against is that the income of two people is reduced by one. The economy can be hurt and cuts in monthly expenses will have to be made.
To find the balance you will have to have a well thought out family budget and established to reduce economic stress and make easier economic decisions. It is necessary to bear in mind that you must have a good financial responsibility.