The big day has come. The one in which you decide with your partner (or yourself) to get pregnant. What a wonderful moment! After postponing it a lot due to the circumstances (that if I work, that if job stability, that if now is not the time ...) you finally decide to take the step. Because there is certainly never an ideal time, there will always be something that does not fit. The moment must be created.
But after that moment of decision come doubts, everyone tells us about their experience or that of close ones but it does not have to represent normality. How to wait without despair? Here are 7 useful tips for all those women who are looking to get pregnant.
Go to your GP
Tell him about your intentions to get pregnant and he will give you a full checkup, in addition to prescribing folic acid. It is recommended that you start taking 2 months before conceiving, although it can also be taken during pregnancy, as well as iodine.
It doesn't always come out the first time
Surely you have been told many cases of women who become pregnant not only the first month, but the first time they do so without protection. How lucky! But it is not normal, do not feel strange if that does not happen to you. The average time it usually takes for women to become pregnant is:
- 25% of women get pregnant in the first month.
- 60% around the first 3 months.
- 80% around the first 6 months.
- 85% around the year.
As you can see, the most uncommon thing is to get pregnant in the first month, the most are concentrated between 6 months and a year. It is not an easy task. In addition, there are many factors to take into account that affect fertility. Among the best known are:
- Age: From the age of 30 onwards, the chances of becoming pregnant are complicated, since ovarian quality decreases (women are born with a pre-established number of ovaries). Trying to get pregnant at 25 is not the same as at 35.
- Lifestyle: Smoking and drinking negatively affect both men and women. If you are trying to get pregnant, it is appropriate to stop nicotine and caffeine.
- Weight: both by excess and by default affect negatively. If you are obese, each kilo you lose will put you closer to your goal and if you are too thin a few kilos will make you gain health and you will be more likely to get pregnant.
Find out when your ovulation is
This is the most obvious part, which is to have sex especially during ovulation, which is the most fertile period of the woman. It is when the ovary releases the mature ovum ready to be fertilized. This happens around the middle of the menstrual cycle. It occurs regularly between 12 and 16 days before the next period.
If you have a regular cycle it will be easier for you to know when it happens if on the contrary you have irregular cycles, there are products on the market that will facilitate this work or you can also use the technique of doing your homework every 2 days to cover all the possibilities.
Does lying down facilitate conception?
There is no scientific evidence who has shown that lying down after intercourse makes the path for sperm easier. If it gives you more security to do so, do not hesitate! In this project we know that the mental issue influences much more than the physical one.
Do not tell anyone
Why? Because they will add their own anxiety to yours, asking you every two by three if you know something to satisfy their expectations. It is best to tell as few people as possible, so you will be calmer. Furthermore, it is always better to surprise than to anticipate.
Prepare your body
Stop smoking if you are a smoker, limit or eliminate alcohol from your diet, eat healthy, do sports ... in short, take a life as healthy as possible It will make you more receptive to getting pregnant.
Prepare your mind
Almost as much or more important than the physical aspect, it will be your mental state. I know it's easy to say but don't be overwhelmed.
A practical advice for all those goals you have where the aspect of anxiety can be counterproductive (getting pregnant, diet, quitting smoking ...) is this: make your goal secondary.
And now you will be thinking "but how am I going to do it if getting pregnant is my priority right now?" Well, precisely because of that. When we make something our priority and we want to achieve the goal when before, the only thing we achieve is to generate more anxiety and that we get frustrated.
We all know cases of couples who have been trying for a baby for a long time and when they relaxed (thinking that they could not have children or preparing the papers to adopt) they became pregnant. Was when They left to worry about the result.
So my advice is: let it work in the background. Do your homework and find out your ovulation period. Eat healthy and take care of yourself. To keep your mind busy, create new goals that become a priority: study a language, read more, go to yoga classes, redecorate your home ... whatever fulfills and satisfies you the most. This way you will get rid of anxiety and you will take it in a more relaxed way. You will no longer be obsessed with the result.
If after a year of searching (or 6 months if you are over 35 years old) you have not been able to get pregnant, you can take fertility tests. It does not necessarily have to be a problem, but this will rule out any possible problems that may exist.
And voila! Enjoy the search and let it be when it has to be.
Because remember ... patience is the art of science.