The truth of the matter is that some children are less motivated than others. There are children who are smart but their grades in school do not show this. Some sit in the classroom staring into space despite the best efforts of the teacher and you. Maybe you have a child who forgets his homework or worse, does it and never turns it in.
Or you could have a preteen who doesn't seem interested in anything and has no real hobbies or passions. Maybe your child gives up easily or doesn't want to try. Despite his best efforts, he remains trapped or is beginning to lag behind. (If you have other concerns, make sure your child's school and / or pediatrician rule out learning disabilities, ADHD / ADD, depression, addictions, and other conditions.)
If your child is one of the least motivated, it can be a source of great concern and frustration and sometimes even despair, and that's where the problem can begin. The problem in this case is their reaction to your child's lack of motivation, not the lack of motivation itself. When you get nervous about him, you try to motivate him by controlling your own anxiety and forget that you just can't get someone to motivate himself if he doesn't really want to.
Ask yourself these questions:
- Are you worried about your child's motivation causing him to scold him?
- Does your frustration make you yell at or punish your child?
- Do you feel helpless in the face of your children's lack of motivation, does it make you argue with your partner because you think they do less than you in terms of your child's motivation?
If you find yourself doing any of the above, you've probably seen your child resist, comply just to please you, rebel, or not want to be forceful. If you force your children to be motivated it will not make them be ... They will do what they want, your goal above all is to inspire them and be their good example to follow ... In this way they will be motivated.