It can be difficult for a child to communicate with others, understand them, or give and want to receive affection from them
Whether a child is sociable depends largely on his personality and character. It is often said that if a child is with his parents a lot, he will surely be withdrawn from other people. Next we will discover that this statement cannot be applied to all cases.
It is highly recommended that a child from an early age opens up to the world and do not educate yourself locked in a bubble. The outside world is ready to receive you, to contribute to you and to invite you to decide, assess and implement actions to face many obstacles and challenges. For those who represent the child, their task is to promote values of personal growth and everything and everyone is learned.
You are not only sociable with the people around you, but also with those you are close to or live together as a home. To a child it may be difficult for you to communicate with others, understand them, or give and want to receive affected thereof. This can happen for a number of reasons, including not feeling comfortable or not having the necessary tools.
The development of children who live with their parents
It is common to hear or suppose that a child who lives, daily, and especially in childhood only with the father and mother, does not go to kindergarten very early and does not remain in the care of other relatives or friends, is already a spoiled and withdrawn child. Despite that statement depends largely on what the child sees in his parents, what they teach him and his characteristics personal
Really children who have been with their parents and since babies they have felt safe and protected, they show themselves this way with others. The children know that their mother is there for everything, therefore they trust that she will not leave. While it is true that they ask parents for approval to approach someone and even distrust at first if they are not encouraged.
Parents who are to bring their child to creche From a very young age faced with the impossibility of reconciling personal life with work, they add to this reason, the supposed need of the child to socialize with others, but not everything is so simple. There are variants and traits of the child's personality that do not provide facilities for that quality.
Children learn over time and during their different developmental stages. A young child who first learns denial, the sense of ownership and no longer sharing, has to go through these phases first and then through others of a more mature nature. The child learns by imitation in many cases. He learns from his parents what belongs to each one and understands that he also has things “only his”.
Children who have been with their parents and since babies have felt safe and protected, they show themselves to others.
Children should not be forced or made to feel uncomfortable. Children are people who know how to decide and who choose what to do, but of course they will imitate those who have at their side. We don't have to tell them "give a kiss" if you don't even know who that person is. What he does see and perceive in his parents are the ways of acting and education. If a child goes out into the street and sees his mother or father say hello, good morning or thank you, he will act the same.
There are children who live surrounded by people but are not sociable. Being among other people does not imply being sociable, it implies “being with them”. A sociable child knows how to interact with them, feels good and without pressure to perform according to what actions. Being sociable means talking, listening and sharing, in a relaxed atmosphere and of your own free will.
Of course a child in a place that you see hostile and empty of people with whom you have daily contact, you will not feel equally calm or comfortable than with their parents. It will be difficult for him to make the deal in that environment and with those people, but like any of us. Being sociable or behaving in a comfortable way with certain people takes time, you have to test the waters, see if there is feedback, feel if there is a feeling with others ...
The child's contact with his closest environment
A sociable child knows how to interact with other people if he feels good and without pressure.
The child will give himself to the world, if his world is given to him. If the child receives love from his loved ones, from his closest environment, he will be more likely to have healthy and warm relationships with other people. If you have seen smiles, friendly gestures, if you have heard good words and pleasant conversations from your parents, you will understand that it is the right thing to do. If there has been reciprocity, you will understand that giving is getting something good.
The educational referents are, normally, the parents. Parents will indicate what is okay and what needs to be corrected. They must also enhance self-image and self-esteem, solidarity and respect for other people, on the part of their child. If parents are people who help others, who put themselves in the place of others, are generous ..., they will educate their little one in these values and will see a child grow up full of established skills that will lead him to complete full emotional development .
The appropriate thing is to talk with the child, explain what can be improved and not reprimand him if he looks poor, socially speaking. Parks, environments where there are more people, parties, a children's event, leisure places for the little ones ... are places where there is no rigidity of rules. The carefree environment can make the child feel free to act and want to establish relationships, dance, play or laugh with others.
It is necessary to take care of the relationships between parents and child to strengthen self-esteem, communication, social skills, confidence ... The child will be able to associate his outer life with the activity that he carries out daily with his parents. They are the engine of his life and must value the opinions of the minor and help him to express his feelings. The interactions that they carry together will be the key for the child develop your skills cognitive and socio-affective towards others.