Imagine that your child is in a bad mood. Anything, no matter how small, sends you to the brink of tears. It may seem like they are trying to manipulate you or make your life difficult, but in reality they are not. Your child is simply overwhelmed. When children "misbehave," many of us (our own parents) were taught that discipline or punishment is what it takes to get a child's behavior back on track.
But provide comfort and support instead of yelling "Stop crying!" it will not cause your children to have more crisis in the future. In fact, the opposite is true. Your child NEEDS support during times of stress. Showing empathy and affection gives your child a sense of security and understanding.
By showing empathy to your child, you are meeting his needs. If your child doesn't get that sense of connection from you, he will keep trying ... which means more crying and bad behavior. This is one of the core concepts of positive parenting. It is also the reason to say "stop crying!" it doesn't work in the long run.
The next time your child is struggling with an overwhelming feeling, don't immediately jump in and say “stop crying!” Have some of the positive phrases handy so you can react with empathy and understanding. Feelings are not something to avoid, they are opportunities for connection.
At the end of the day, we want to show our children that we always accept them. When they are calm and when they are excited or angry. That is true unconditional love and it is what your child should feel about you so that in this way he can grow and develop in an integral way. A child who feels good behaves well ... And crying is nothing that anyone should regret.