Bullying has become a social situation in which at least all children will experience at some point in your life. For this fact to be defined, it is necessary to realize that the child suffers and is subjected to some kind of repression or discrimination by a classmate for a long period of time. Faced with this type of abuse, parents must know how to act.
This situation is of great relevance, since a child can't be suffering this kind of reprimand for a whole school year. This type of behavior may manifest itself in some specific way, but when the time is exceeded no child should be bullied. According to one statistic, they suffer from it almost equal to 50% both boys and girls and the age where they suffer the most is 12 years, although the cases can be disparate.
How to detect bullying?
It is important to be attentive before any change that occurs in your child's behavior. If you are being bullied, it will show in your attitude at home. In general they become more quiet and introverted, or they begin to disobey or behave more unusual and contradictory to the rules.
Although each child is different, perhaps this problem will make him externalize it in a different way. They will start to have nightmares, suffer from tummy aches, or are restless or stressed. They will always put excuses for not wanting to go back to school and you will always have problems when you are meeting friends either physically or virtually.
They are children who they are suffering abuse, either physical or psychological. Whoever is harassing will do so repeatedly, with insults, threats, blackmail, hitting, stealing, even spreading false rumors. Your intention will always be try to isolate that person because he sees her as someone helpless and inferior.
How to act when your child is bullied
At any indication, we can always ask our son. If you are able to tell something, no matter how little, you always have to listen to it and take it seriously. Surely you count that there are classmates in your school who are not behaving well, or who are not very friendly. This is when you have to make an assessment to see if we need ask for help in the center.
Above all, keep calm and transmit tranquility to the child, to be able to solve the solution with greater peace of mind. You have to make him see that it was not his fault and give him assurance that nothing will happen to him for telling it. You may believe that by making your situation known you can worsen your condition, so you have to give the conviction that what is told at school to your tutor it will be confidential. help him to analyze your situation solving all your difficulties and how to solve them. We can always put other exceeded examples and never comparing his way of being with that of other children or siblings.
Encourage him to find other friends who they could be a good company, do not let them fall that everything is over. He must be encouraged to discover if there are children he likes in the classroom and to seek the intention of find moments to be together.
Depending on the uneasiness or anxiety of the situation we will have to ask for psychological help in order to overcome bullying. You can reinforce your fear raising his self-esteem and illusion pointing him to some extracurricular activity that he likes a lot and where he has a relationship with other children. It is not good to overprotect it with great protection, as you may feel ashamed of the situation, furthermore it won't boost your self-esteem.
It is necessary to leave within the possible that the boy or girl deal with the situation naturally. Right off the bat, do not try to change centers with a challenging and demanding attitude, as we will count on you can become much more introverted. Each step that is taken must always be done with a future of visualization and making the child a participant in each step that is going to be taken. First of all their decision must be respected.