It is possible that your children when you have given them a gift either on birthdays or at another time, they have made a disappointed face or they have not liked the detail that you have bothered to do to them. When this happens, you may have felt guilty for not having hit the right gift, but do you really have to feel bad if your child does not like a gift that you have given him / her?
Maybe you want to run to the store and buy that doll or toy that you love so much, regardless of the money it puts on the label ... all in order to see her happy face. But that is not the solution. Don't feel guilty if she doesn't like the gift you've given her. Don't feel guilty one bit. You want to know why? Keep reading to find out.
Your kids shouldn't have everything they want
You also don't have to give them what they want in a gift. When giving to another person what matters is not the gift itself, but rather that the true value of the gift is in the hands of the person who gives it. It's about choosing a detail that the recipient will use or enjoy. Whether it be clothes, things for school, a toy or a game ... eThe detail that you have thought you have done thinking of your son from your heart.
Children need to feel disappointed and know that they cannot always get everything they want. Disappointments teach them great values that they can then use in their daily lives. Life is full of disappointments, but you will have to channel that disappointment and realize that what matters in a gift is not the gift itself. So that disappointment can be gradually transformed into gratitude.
Life is full of disappointments
As you have read in the previous point, life is full of disappointments and it is normal. This is important for children to learn as soon as possible. Nowadays children are used to having everything 'now' and not waiting to get things. When they have to wait a bit, they quickly get frustrated or angry. It is important that they learn to wait ... and if the gift is not what they expected, that they appreciate the gesture of the gift that they have had because another person has been concerned about giving it to them.
A gift is about sharing joy together. To have a good time. To enjoy the happiness of love between people.
Don't even think about changing the gift
If your child has locked himself in the bathroom crying because that is not the gift he was waiting for ... then let him cry, he will pass. But do not rush to buy what he wanted so that he will be satisfied because then, you will be making a serious mistake. If you fulfill his material need it will only be the beginning of the end, his tyranny will begin and he will think that with tantrums, anger and tears he will always get what he wants from you. Don't let him think that he can manipulate you to his advantage.
If you buy him more and more and give him better gifts, then you must prepare yourself for the failure that will come to your lives. But do not panic, because you can avoid this by allowing him to get angry and teaching that gifts are acts of kindness and love. If you really want something in particular, and are old enough to understand the concept of saving, allow him to do extra chores at home to get some money or to work on his own doing chores for a neighbor (for example), in exchange for some euros. This way you will understand that the money to get things does not fall from the sky ... and all this, without neglecting his studies or his responsibilities at home, of course.
It's okay to be disappointed
It is also important that you teach him that it is also okay not to like a gift, but he should know how to keep his composure so as not to offend the person who gave it to him. This is especially important when it comes to gifts from other people, such as grandparents, uncles, cousins, or any other relative or close friend.
When grandparents give away clothes, children do not show enthusiasm, which can cause discomfort to grandparents since they have invested money in the gift and also time to choose the clothes that they thought were best for the little one.
Children should know that feelings of disappointment are okay to feel and should not be repressed, you simply have to learn to channel them in order to externalize them in the best possible way. You don't have to like the gift, but you do need to learn how to graciously accept it.
So if your kids don't like a gift that's been given to them, it's not the end of the world. They may get angry and cry if necessary, but then you will have to overcome those feelings and Try to keep your composure whenever you notice the bad mood starting.
Even if you see that your child's behavior is never appropriate, it will be necessary to work on it in neutral moments so that when they give them a gift that they may not like, they can know how to behave. You can rehearse his behavior as a game and learn to act when he receives a gift.
They are lucky
It is also necessary for children to know how lucky they are when they receive a gift, since there are other people in the world who do not receive them due to lack of money, lack of family or loved ones ... or for any other reason.
Children who are capricious usually are because they have been allowed and allowed everything from the first moment, and they have grown up thinking that they deserve everything they want when they want it. Regardless of the feelings of other people, thinking that they are the center of the world. To avoid this, it is necessary to educate children through gratitude.