If you can explain to your children what love is, we are going to ask you to tell us. Sometimes they manage to express this complex feeling in a simpler way for adults. And we also talk about the different types of love, between siblings, relatives, with the partner ... and at different ages ... in short, a conversation as interesting as it is complex.
How to explain infatuation
There is a wonderful book entitled In Love, which is illustrated by Rébecca Dautremer and published by Kokinos in which it is explained very well from the point of view of a girl what it is to be in love. Beyond the tenderness and beauty of the illustrations, the values and explanations given about love are very easy to understandr for the little ones, able to identify these emotions. If you can find it, we recommend it, and we say if you can find it because it is a bit old and it may be out of stock.
It is clear that no matter how old you are, you can always talk about falling in love through stories, tales or music. But you have to have beware the idealization of romantic love, sacrifice, heroes and that fantasy of suffering to make it authentic. Speak to them naturally and confidently, and convey the idea that falling in love is something achievable and humane.
Boys and girls they understand actions more than words. So as a recommendation instead of giving him a speech about what it is to be in love, give him examples of what you and your partner do for each other. This way you will understand that there is a surrender and an altruism, that no reward is sought.
Examples of other types of love
The love between siblings, towards grandparents, relatives, friends are examples of love that children assimilate very well when you want to give them examples of love. If at home you have Pets These can be of great help to you. You can tell your child that when feed or pet your pet is caring for and loving the other. In addition, you will also teach him the limits, for example you can explain that you do not allow the puppy to run like crazy in the street, to eat chocolate because that would hurt him. It is a way of recognizing that the love is that care by others knowing their weaknesses.
From the hand of love goes the respect. It is important that the boy or girl lives it in the family, not only the one that the fathers or mothers have with each other, but also with the other members of the family, the neighbors, the classmates, the different cultures. Respecting the other is not treating him as if he does not have the capacity to do something and accepting him as he is.
Transmit them love for sports, literature, art, nature and all those values that we consider important is the best inheritance we can give to our children. It will lead them to love and appreciate the world and will contribute to the care and preservation of these values.
Is love ending?
One of the biggest concerns for children is whether love ends, or is spent and what happens next. We cannot ignore the subject, because surely you will have friends with separated parents, or it may even be that you are going through that stage. The important thing is to keep showing you that love is untouchable, that only coexistence has been broken.
They are also concerned make it limited, that if you love him you cannot love your brother or sister, or vice versa, that as you love your brother you do not love him. One way to explain to them that love has no limits is by using the example of a candle flame, which is used to light another candle, and another and another, and that is not spent for it.
As we said at the beginning, this is a complex issue, which can only be explained with actions and from the heart.