Today is a very special day, Father's Day, that we do not forget. And also given the circumstances of confinement and state of alarm, it will be even more special. But what happens to those sons and daughters and those fathers who are not at home, either because geographical distances have wanted it that way, due to separation or divorce, or simply because we had the misfortune to lose it this year.
If we cannot go to visit our father, or give him the well-worn tie, we can do everything possible to thank him for our love, even without a hug. In this article you will find all these ideas so that today is what it is: a very special day.
Be grateful is the best gift on Father's Day
Teach your child to to thank and let him see you do it. If this is the first time that your son is not with his father on this day, make him understand that he would have loved it. Remind him that it was one of the most special days for his father.
An idea can be write to him a letter, whether he has passed away, or if he is simply not there because the confinement has caught him in another place, or because the agreed visits are not being made. In this letter, let him express all his emotions and thank the father for all the moments lived together. Explain that it is something intimate between him and his father and her. That you are not going to read it. In this way the boy or the girl, even the adolescent, will be able to feel in a closer way with that father who is not there today.
If the father is away for circumstantial reasons you can deliver that letter upon your return. If he has already passed away, it is a way to pay tribute to him on such a special day.
Remembering is also a way to bring you closer
This may not be the first time your son or daughter has faced their father's absence today. In other circumstances you have surely done special things that he liked, go to his favorite restaurant, visit him in the cemetery, listen to the music he liked. Well, despite the confinement by the coronavirus, today you can also remember him.
Together you can make the food that he would have liked, make a selection of his favorite movies to spend the afternoon, just chat about what dad would have done in this situation and things like that. Naturally, if your son or daughter is very young and barely remembers things about his father then it must be you, his mother, or other family members who show you pictures or tell you anecdotes about him.
Dad is not home during confinement
If the situation is that dad he is not at home today, because you are away or because you have not been able to make your corresponding visit as single or separated parent, Beyond what the law stipulates, do not charge or give the child the false idea of abandonment. Explain that his father would have liked to be at home, with him or her, but that there are higher reasons.
It is very important that the father be present on this day with calls, chats, video conferences. But also remember that the child may find affective references of a father in your new partner, family, friends or neighbors. If you see that he wants to give one of them a gift, do not criticize him. The child needs express your feelings also at this time.
There are thousands of cases, but remember that on a day as important as today, Father's Day, as a mother, do not criticize the father if he cannot be there. It's not about justifying it, but don't impose your negative emotions and frustrations in your children. They must create their own relationship with their father that will mature and change over the years.