The figures of women victims of sexist violence continue to be alarming, despite the fact that institutions and other public and private organizations try to provide an outlet and support for all of them. Remember that the 016 is the telephone number that serves female victims. It does not leave a trace on the invoice, but you do have to delete it from the call history.
But before the call to 016 occurs many women do not recognize sexist violence within their partner. Sometimes the abuse is not so evident, because before the blows comes the loss of self-esteem or the constant underestimation. If you want to know some of the signs that can help you detect a situation of gender violence, let's go with it.
Traits that identify a battered woman
Here are some features that can make you understand if you live in a situation of gender violence. It is not necessary that they all be given, nor that they be scandalous. Precisely, sometimes, because of how integrated we have this type of behavior, and of submission, is why they are not identified as violence, but as part of coexistence. And the normalization of these patterns they are the most dangerous.
Some of these signs are, for example, jealousy and possession, which usually manifests itself in looking at the mobile with any excuse, or asking who this or that man is, or the typical one, why has he called you? In these cases, the flirting accusation by the woman, or directly to the accusation of being unfaithful, or wanting to be unfaithful. Possession can also manifest itself in asking for accounts of expenses, even if you are independent.
We can identify battered women who do not want to go out or have relationships with friends, co-workers or family, stop studying or even working or preparing for other positions.
In the most obvious cases, men humiliate these women in front of others, in many cases they are not present, so do not allow it. May arrive threats, assaults, sexual even, disavows you in front of children, or competes with you for their attention.
Gender violence in all social strata
Gender violence occurs, especially in the Familiar scope, in that of the couple, and does not understand social classes, races or countries. To date, the number of 47 women murdered by their partners in 2018 has already been exceeded. What remains astonishing is that the 80% of these women had not reported and, almost certainly, that they did not recognize themselves as victims. The complaint comes after many years of suffering abuse and violence in silence.
Victims of sexist violence are not only those women who have inherited a patriarchal education, or a sexist education, but every day passes with girls and younger women, in high schools, and in schools.
According to the latest macro-survey of the INE (National Institute of Statistics) 12,5% of women over 16 have suffered sexist violence.
Free, the application against sexist violence
For several years the Ministry of Health and Social Affairs has been running a application, Free. It is a resource, available for Android and Ios, for women victims of violence, and also for those who detect these situations in their environment, who can report it.
The main menu of the application includes texts, useful telephones, testimonials, videos, audios, tips, documents and links to web pages that are very useful. You can also find self-protection measures to safeguard your safety and that of your offspring.
It is a free tool, which maintains the confidentialityVery easy to use and accessible for people with different abilities. Although it is thought and designed for teenagers and young women, it is for all ages, and if you think you need it, use it: even if you don't feel “so young, nor so put into new technologies”.