Today is Grandparent's Day, and we do not want to miss this opportunity to talk about them. With the current demands of new changes in society, there are many grandparents who feel like parents and that they act as such. Grandparents who perform functions that parents cannot do because both of them have to work many hours a day.
Grandparents who act as parents
The grandparents used to be spoilers, those who granted all requests to their grandchildren in order to see them happy. The ones who enjoyed grandchildren from time to time. Parents educated and grandparents spoiled, were the advantages of having already raised the children.
But now things have changed a lot, and grandparents in addition to spoiling, carry the responsibility of educating our children when we cannot. They are being burdened with an enormous responsibility to become parents again without asking.. The roles have changed a lot for them, many with quite advanced ages, which act as a bridge between family and work conciliation.
The role of grandparents
Grandparents play a very important role in the lives of grandchildren. They have knowledge that they transmit with their stories, they have a patience that parents sometimes do not have, and they are a great emotional support that creates a very special bond between them.
But when grandparents take on the role of parents, confusing situations can occur. The role of grandfather is very satisfying, undemanding, consenting and benevolent. On the other hand, the role of father has to be firm to set limits and have authority. This role reversal can lead to confusion in grandchildren they don't know who to listen to.
Problems can also arise with the type of education chosen, there may be disagreements about how to educate them and this can create conflicts. It would be convenient before deciding to be parents, if you both work and have your parents close, it is Ask them if they could help you and the type of education you want to give to your children.
All in perspective
Although grandparents and grandmothers greatly enjoy their grandchildren, If we exceed the hours of care, what we will achieve is that they burn and become stressed. If a child is already exhausting for a healthy and young adult, imagine for an older person even if they do not have any major health problems.
On the other hand the occasional or few hour care is beneficial for them, since they feel useful and fulfilled, they enjoy their grandchildren and they still have time to carry out their usual activities. Many times we are not aware of how much grandparents have to give up for us and it is time that we take it into account. They they also need your time, their activities to do whatever they want.
We must not forget that a child is the responsibility of their parents, we cannot burden another person with that responsibility and make them give up their lives completely. We are asking you to renounce your role as grandparents to act as parents. Grandparents have already spent their lives working and raising children, it is a great demand to make them take up more responsibilities when they would have to have time for themselves and be more relaxed. Grandparents also shouldn't feel guilty for saying they can't so they can have time for themselves.
Grandparent's Day
That is why today on Grandparents' Day, we cannot do anything other than thank you for your sacrifice, your dedication, your eternal smile and your unconditional help. For giving us a hand when schedules become impossible, when children get sick, for picking them up from their classes, for giving them his unconditional love and his eternal wisdom.
Why remember ... grandparents are to enjoy themselves and for them to enjoy their grandchildren. But everything in its proper measure.