There are many important things that take part in the formation of children, in their physical and emotional development. There are methods and techniques that are used in the education of children to modify their behavior. Nobody said that raising children was something simple, all parents know that it is complicated. If parents are not careful in their children's education and important things are left out, there may be negative consequences.
There are many parents who focus on discipline to educate their children, in a traditional use discipline to modify behavior, making use of outdated norms that do not help a real change in behavior. Sometimes parents just want to get results and lose sight of the big picture of the situation in front of them.
There are some aspects that must be taken into account in order to have a good parenting with children, focusing on important things for parents and children and above all, to be able to raise well-balanced children emotionally. If a child is emotionally well balanced, he will be able to achieve anything he sets his mind to.
The relationship with the children
The relationship you have with your child is the biggest influence on his development. This relationship will be an example of how your children's relationships will be with other people throughout their lives. If you have a healthy relationship based on respect, empathy, and compassion, that's what your child will have for the rest of their lives. In this way, your children will grow up expecting this from relationships and will not want to settle for less.
If instead, your relationship with your children is based on control, coercion or manipulation, you will only have problems in interpersonal relationships with others.
The influence you have on your relationship with your children comes from good manners. Children are likely to listen and cooperate more with adults if they are emotionally connected. In other words, building trust and open communication when they're little will pay off. when they are no longer so small. Your attachment will help your child's brain develop healthily.
Your perspective
When you look at your son, who do you see? Do you also see the positive and the negative? The way you think about your children influences the way you treat them. Your thoughts are also influenced by the way you feel during the day (both physically and emotionally). If your child for example is two years old and you think that he is in 'the terrible two years', you will only think about the terrible things he can do and you will want to constantly correct them, generating constant stress and frustration.
Try to turn these negative thoughts into positive thoughts. For example, if your child is two years old, do not think that he is in the terrible two years, but that he thinks that he is in a precious stage of his growth where he begins to show you his personality and identity traits. Try to view potential misbehavior as a way to communicate with you and never as a form of meaningless manipulation.
Also observe your tone and language. You need to be especially careful with the language you use to describe your children. Your kids will get an idea of themselves depending on what you say about them. Avoid labels, because if you say that your children 'are naughty', 'stupid' or 'bad', that's how they will be ... Because that's what you think of them.
The relationship with your partner
Your children are watching and learning from you every day. The way you and your partner have a relationship will also directly affect the emotional balance of your children. Happy parents (together or apart) will raise happy children.
The foundation of a happy family is a strong and loving relationship between the couple and the children. The only thing, the most important thing you can do for your children is to do everything you can to have the best possible relationship with your partner or ex-partner (but also the parent of your children). If they see a healthy supportive relationship, it will be reflected and this will help them to become emotionally well-balanced people.
The environment of your home
The atmosphere and climate of your home is very important in all cases. If there is discord or a toxic environment inside your home, your children will receive it all and the climate will be affected. Have you ever gone to someone's home or entered a place where only a negative atmosphere was transmitted? A home has to be the refuge of those who live in it and that is why we must fight to make it a safe, warm, welcoming and loving place for all members of the family.
The best way to keep children at home is to make the home atmosphere pleasant and let out anything that could contaminate the environment or your hearts.
How you relate to others
How you treat the bank teller, the store clerk, or anyone else also has a huge influence on your children. How do you treat your parents or your in-laws? Because your children are watching your example. Setting an example is the only way to really influence another.
Are you involved in your community? Aside from setting a good example, there are valuable lessons to be learned from volunteering, supporting a local cause, etc. Seeing how your actions can influence many lives will give them a sense of responsibility and reinforce good values in your children.
These are some habits that all parents should take into account to raise children that are emotionally well balanced and in order to build a much healthier and more stable relationship between parents and children. Parents are the most important thing for children and therefore, it is necessary to take into account the day to day to be able to influence them positively.