Bullying is a common problem in schools around the world. It is a social problem that affects thousands of children in each city and it is necessary that all of us put a stop to this scourge. In the most particular cases, it is necessary to start from home. If your child has been the victim of bullying or bullying, the road to recovery may be more difficult than you might imagine.
The effects of bullying can last a long time in the heart of the victim, even after the bullying has ended. Also, if not addressed immediately, it can also lead to problems for children in the future. There are some strategies that are worth knowing to help your child to be able to recover from bullying without having bad consequences in his life.
Define your personality
Your child doesn't have to feel defined by bullying. What happens to you does not have to mark who you are or your personality. You should not allow him to define who he is as a person. Your child must recognize that bullies choose to behave this badly and he must choose that what others do does not affect him at all. Your child does not deserve to be bullied.
Teach your child to make hurtful words slide like waterslides. Let the painful actions leave them in the past and do not mark your future. It is important that children recognize their strengths and develop them. You have to make sure that he knows that there is a lot in the world for him and that he can offer a lot to others.
Change your perspective
Your child can change his mind. Children who have been bullied sometimes feel that bullying consumes their every thought. Encourage your child to rethink their thinking and change their perspective on bullying. The goal is for your child to focus his thoughts on things that have meaning or meaning in his life.. Your thoughts should not focus solely on the bullying you have experienced.
If you don't know how to help your child in this regard, you can enlist the help of a professional psychologist to work through cognitive behavioral therapy and help your child to be able to redirect his thought processes. If your child feels guilty because he is being attacked at school because he thinks it is somehow his fault or because he does not feel capable of changing the situation ... You need to change these negative thoughts to empower the situation.
Your child will have to discover his strengths, realize for example that he is stronger than he thought, that he is assertive, that he has empathy, that negative messages do not affect him because he has more internal strength than he thought, etc.
Have control
In order for your child not to feel fear, he must feel that he is in control of the situation or at least that he controls what he feels about what others are trying to make him feel. Feelings of helplessness are common in victims of bullying and these feelings can last into adult life ... With dire consequences for their personality and personal evolution. You can live your life as a perpetual victim, undermining potentially healthy relationships by turning toxic.
Your child needs to realize that while he can't control what happened to him, he can control his reaction. Recovery begins when you can take control of your thoughts, emotions, and actions and begin to make healthier choices. Help your child identify the things in his life that he has control over. For example, you may choose to think about something other than bullying. Or, you can choose to do something to help others in similar situations. The point is for your child to learn how to identify healthy choices and then use them in his life.
This will help you feel in control in your life and make the thought of victim less likely to linger in your life. When you feel that you are able to make and make choices on your own despite experiencing bullying situations, you will be better able to break out of the vicious cycle. When the bully realizes that his bullying actions do not have as much power or control over the victim, the bullying is likely to stop.
Personal growth
You need to identify the areas in which your child can grow and heal. For example, you may find that your child needs help building self-esteem or becoming more assertive. It may also be necessary to work on the stress or anxiety you feel due to the bullying situations you experience. It is very important that you be attentive as a parent to the thoughts you have in case there is a risk of depression or suicidal thoughts. The goal is to identify the areas in your child's life that need improvement.
If necessary, you can work on this aspect with a professional in case you need guidance of any kind. In this way your children will be able to be aware of your thoughts, of what they feel towards others and towards themselves and above all, they will learn to have control over themselves in situations that they cannot control.
End bullying
As we mentioned at the beginning of this article, ending bullying is everyone's business, so it is important that as a parent you are aware that you also have a lot to do.
Part of your child's healing process to be able to leave behind the feelings of pain because of the bullying. Creativity is needed ... So the goal is for your child not to allow negative thoughts to invade his mind.
It is also essential that while these strategies are taken into account to overcome bullying, measures are taken so that your child feels protected. If it is necessary to change schools, it will be necessary to do so when the measures taken are not sufficient.