Surely you remember how your first love was and have you passed that moment when you were a child, and perhaps you are now acting as a father or mother to your child and relive again as him, whether he is a child or not, his first phase of infatuation, perhaps this episode may sound like something to you and can help you with many concerns.
But the circumstances may be different, perhaps your son is already a teenager and is going through that great and complex stage of infatuation. And it is that during this cycle resolving your feelings can become very elocutive, since your emotions are more intense. At this stage appear jealousy and insecurities emerge more facing today's world. Or maybe it's a little love of children where their feelings have nothing to do with the sexual issue.
The first love when it is a child
Your first love may come very soon. They usually experience this feeling at the age of 4 to 5 years and that's when he's attracted by someone his own age. You may refer to that person as your possible boyfriend or girlfriend Although they have not confirmed anything between the two, nor surely the other person knows.
His love is too innocent feels admiration for the other person and they have him in mind at all times, of course it is a childish love, where the sexual issue it does not represent any link between them.
Usually it will be a love for sure passenger and very fickle, their attitudes towards the other person will be to play and share experiences but for others it will be an innocent act of modesty. Since for some it is fun for others it is synonymous with shame, but for others it will be an act of impudence, even claiming that they have several boyfriends or girlfriends.
First love when you are a teenager
If you have confidence with your son or daughter, you can help him channel his first love experiences . Here they have to overcome new steps a little more serious and for that give them a firm and consistent hand it will never be too much. If the topic focuses on the fact that he has come to us with his first love (or courtship) by surprise, this can create some concern for the simple fact of not wanting him to be feel hurt, but you have to solve this situation with the best possible resolution.
In this case we are faced with a much more serious love. Here it is already represented by the presence of sex hormones, both in men and women and where they will be highly sensitive to picking up any stimulus. Of course this can be translated into the purpose of get to the courtship between both parties.
As an added theme, it is necessary to review the emotional moment in which they are participants, your self-esteem plays a very serious role it is here where it begins to be built and from there everything else. Self-confidence is synonymous with a great psychological maturation It will help you better control your emotions. It is important, as I have already said, to have confidence and to see the possible purpose of this phase.
How should parents act?
The ideal would be stay out and let love flows naturally, But in the case of adolescents, even if we give them their space, sometimes they can be exceeded, sometimes we need to protect them from something that it can harm them or we even have to position our authority with punishment. In the case of children, we must respect their space and let them experience it feeling accompanied by us.
Try not to prohibit the courtship, even seeing that it is not convenient many times can cause it to hide and can worsen the situation. It is important be proud of the confidence that our children can contribute by telling us their experience, hence the create a link that we take the opportunity to contribute our position as parents and be able to help you increase your self esteem.