Educating a 12-year-old child is synonymous with acquiring another educational method because your son is coming to the preadolescence. Reaching this age is another way of living life and Parents face another difficult and complex time in their education.
From the age of 11 boys and girls already begin to deal with puberty And it is when the first hormonal changes occur, the first physical changes and their social life is also in constant change. It is here when the subject must be touched with delicacy, as a new stage has begun for everyone.
Important changes that are generated at this age
- Your change is primarily your physical transformation. In males, pubic and facial hair begin to appear, and their voice changes. In girls, menstruation appears, breasts grow, and pubic hair appears.
- They start to worry about your physical image, with having hair in a different shape and dressing in a special way.
- This hormonal change causes them to focus a lot on that change and they have to deal much more with focusing on themselves, their thoughts, and their mood swings. That is why it is important that the lack of confidence does not wane.
- They are influenced much more by friends and they put aside the opinions of the parents. In this case you show to be in a bad temper and are more conflictive.
- Their load and change of school work can make them feel much more stressed, Some children may experience eating problems and others may feel sad and affect their school performance. Other children try drugs and alcohol and start having uncontrolled sex.
How to educate a 12 year old
Generally At this point the situation has created a lot of confusion among parents. The first question posed is whether during the years past your education, has everything been done correctly. However, this little stage is that little rehearsal of life, here children have to start an adaptability and they should look at it in a positive way.
- If the children begin to cope with their new changes in a positive way we will have much more evolutionary and positive attitudes, this is the equivalent of being educated feeling a lot more security and self-esteem.
- Therefore, his rebellion should not be taken personally. It's better to blame your hormones than your own attitude, because we create so much more conflict.
- When the children are angry, we should not play the same game. You are probably expecting the same kind of responses and at the same level of hostility. The method of not catching up and having a quiet conversation works. Must give priority to comment and ask for things calmly and take an example that we do too.
- You have to do feel that they observe that we have empathy towards them, which we will treat you honestly and thus we can access them more easily. From here it is much easier to direct them to any opinion or advice as long as they are healthy decisions for both of you.
- Turn your day to day into a concern, Let him notice that you care about what he does (not to be confused with being in control). Get to know her friends and what they do when they go out, show concern for her homework, and help her make the right decisions.
- Respecting their privacy is very important. We cannot have control over everything he does because it overwhelms him, but neither can we show total disinterest in what he does.
- And always show affection and empathy. Although these children now need more intimacy and show more disinterest in the family unit, it does not mean that they no longer need affection, perhaps it is when they need it most.