In order to develop, children need to feel loved every day of their life. They need their parents to be by their side and support them in everything they need throughout their lives, they need words of encouragement and a hug with nice words every day… This is the secret so that children can grow up with a good emotional balance. Therefore, it is necessary for all parents in the world to learn to love their children in such a way that they can feel it that way.
Learning to make your children feel special is the most important thing. But the reality is that something as essential as transmitting love to the little ones, many parents feel disoriented and do not know how to do it. If you are one of the parents who do not know how to make their children feel loved every day, then read on because I am here to help you. You don't have to be a highly emotional person to show your children that you care for them and that you love them deeply. Do you want some advice? Do not lose detail!
Spend quality time with them
It is important that the time you spend with your children is not just time, that is, it should be quality time. But what is quality time and what is not quality time? A time that is not of quality is the time that you spend with your children but you do not pay attention to it or do anything with it. For example, a time that is not of quality is when you are with your friends and your son playing the game console, or you are doing things and your son watching television. It is true that although there are many things to do during the day and mothers we have to take time from under the stones, we must find time a day to be able to dedicate to our children.
On the other hand, quality time is the time that you dedicate exclusively to your children, that is, that you are fully caring for your children, sharing activities to spend time together and have fun. In this quality time, it is necessary that you put aside your work, your mobile phone and focus exclusively on have a good time with your children.
Listen to them for real (but for real)
There are times when children talk and talk… but adults don't really listen to them thinking that what they have to say is not important, but everything that children have to say is important. They are learning and they say everything that comes to mind to know that they are right. Listen to them so you can guide them in life. Also, when a child has the need to tell you something, listen carefully to know what he wants to tell you and enjoy that moment… he has chosen you to tell you something.
See what is important to them
Children as they grow (rather since they are born), have interests and tastes that are marking their personality and their path in life. You need to learn to respect these personal tastes and enhance their interests so that in this way, they can enhance their skills. Children must understand that if they like something or want to do something that motivates them, there must be no impediment to achieve it.
Encourage them and give them words of encouragement
Your children need words of encouragement to be able to achieve whatever purpose they set out to do. Words have great power and parents have the obligation to encourage and motivate our children so that they know that mistakes are not a problem but a learning process, that they will be able to achieve everything they set out to do as long as they have perseverance and determination, everything, that there is no one better than anyone ... we can all get anything, we only need to know what we want to achieve (according to our tastes and interests).
Kisses, hugs and "I love you" every day
Do you like being hugged, kissed and reminded that you are special to someone? It happens to your children too! Children need you to hug and kiss them, they need that contact with you to be able to feel close and know that everything is fine. In addition, parents need to understand the importance of saying "I love you" to their children (and anyone you really love) every day. Children need to know that they are an important part of a communityBy saying this, they will know that they are an important part of the family, forever.
When you are away
Perhaps, due to the work you currently have, you should be absent for most of the day and even have to be away from home for several days. If this is your case, then you will have to get them to feel close to you, how do you get it? It's as easy as making a phone call or video call with Skype to be able to get to talk to them and that you can see each other face to face. In addition, in this way, you can maintain good contact with them, they can tell you what they want and they will have you much more present than if they do not know anything about you. We must take advantage of new technologies to be able to get even closer to people, right?
Create traditions with your children
Traditions are very important in people's lives because they make us feel like we belong to a community. I'm sure you will fondly remember childhood traditions that you could enjoy thanks to the fact that your parents fought to achieve that way. Now hyour turn has come to create new traditions so that your children when they grow up can remember them fondly and perhaps repeat them with their children. Traditions can be how to celebrate special days, go for a walk to the country or the beach on Sundays, go to Grandma's house one day a week (or more than one), etc.
And of course, remember that it is tremendously important have good communication with them every day, ask them about their day-to-day life, to praise them when they do things well, and to motivate them to do better when they are wrong.