When you listen with your heart to your children, you will know what you need at that moment and in this way, you will be able to know how to respond in the most appropriate way. Your child needs you to learn to listen to him from the heart, without value judgments and without feelings that distort their emotions or what is really happening to them.
Parenting can be a bumpy journey that lasts a lifetime. You may be raising your children with your partner or you may find yourself in lonely parenthood. Either way, It is important that your child knows that you are his most important pillar but that he also has other pillars to lean on, such as his grandparents, teachers or caregivers.
Everyone in a child's life plays a role in affecting their physical and emotional growth and development. But having said that, it is necessary to emphasize that there is no deeper connection than that between parents and children. When the bond between parents and children is strengthened, then it will not matter if there are emotional ups and downs, your child will trust you and everything you have to say to him.
Parenting
In Western society we know that our right brain connects us with creativity, spontaneity and imagination… essential ingredients for parenting. Our most emotional and intuitive brain part must be developed by all parents in the world to be able to listen to children from the heart every time they speak to us or tell us things.
Of course there are basic guidelines for parenting, like ensuring their survival needs are met., keep them out of harm's way and give them lots of love and affection every day of their lives. Then there is the task of guiding children and adolescents in the most suitable way for him or her, taking into account their thoughts and interests.
The fact is, your child may need something completely different, and this is where effective parenting begins. When this happens, you must have an attitude of openness and a willingness to listen from the heart. When you listen with your heart, your children will know that you are truly attentive to their emotional needs and that you will do your best to respond in the most appropriate way. This will provide security and emotional comfort to the children, essential things for their emotional development.
Promote intuition in parenting
Intuition is not something that is widely promoted in Western cultures and it is very important to do so. Natural instinct and innate knowledge is part of the gift of humanity and it is important to listen to it. We all have the ability to empathize with the other, we just have to put it more into practice with the people we love and are by our side.
As a parent, it is likely that you have experienced a situation in which you knew in some way and without hesitation what your child needed or did not need at a certain time. This is a powerful feeling that cannot be explained in words, it just happens.
Perhaps at some time it has also happened to you to think a couple of minutes before about a person and that later he will call you by phone or that you knew how to say something before someone else could finish the sentence. These situations may or may not be coincidences, but if they are cultivated and worked on, it will allow you to have an extra intuition and an extraordinary ability to communicate better with people, and above all, with your children.
The awareness of being in the present moment brings forth inner orientation and increases intuition towards yourself and towards others. When you practice listening to your conscience you will learn to trust it and you will be able to trust your abilities as well and use this empathy and intuition to your advantage. Intuition is useful in all situations and especially in familiar situations.
Intuition and connection with ourselves and others
It is important to know ourselves and what we feel before opening our hearts to our children. If you feel bad, if you are sad or depressed or if you have spots on your soul that do not leave you alone, then it is likely that it will cost you a lot more to be able to get close to your children emotionally. To be able to listen from the heart, the first step is to have a clean heart and to feel good about yourself and the world around you.
It is very necessary to be in connection with ourselves to be able to connect with our children. Children need to feel close, feel free and also know that we respect them and love them for what they are no matter what they think ... Because what they think will be of our utmost respect, without judgment and without trying to change their thoughts for others that we consider 'better'.
When you open your mind and your heart to your children you will be opening a whole world of possibilities within you, you will be inviting your children to love, to harmony, to forgiveness, to empathy and to play a much more important role in our lives.
By supuestoAs a father and mother, you are the voice that should guide your children, but not with your own life or with your past frustrations ... You must guide your children based on respect, positive parenting, based on the deep love you feel for and towards them. This is the true beauty of mindful parenting: you can learn and adapt your parenting learning to all areas of life for the benefit of your children's physical and emotional development.
When you feel that you have a balance within your consciousness, you will have a more balanced life. An awareness that will allow you to balance both your physical health and your emotional health, an awareness that will give coherence to your actions and thoughts.