A few days ago we saw some practical tips for new parents. As children do not carry a manual under their arms, new parents have to learn a lot for this new challenge in their life. Today we go to see the most common mistakes made by new mothers.
As soon as you get pregnant you will receive a barrage of advice (some requests, but most not) of what you should or should not do with your baby. Advice is always fine, as long as it is not negative criticism of you or your way of educating or raising your child. The most important thing is almost to know the most common mistakes in order to avoid them.
Follow external advice more than the pediatrician
Advice, especially those that come from people close to us, are usually taken into consideration more and that is fine. But we have to accept that times change, and what was once said to be good is now known to be not. There will always be the typical harmless grandmother tricks but you must follow medical criteria. Your mother or mother-in-law, no matter how much they know, will never know as much as the doctor.
Don't obsess over sterilizing everything
Your baby's things should be clean, of course, but don't get hung up on it. During the first three months or in premature babies it is advisable to sterilize their things. From there the children They need to be in contact with certain types of bacteria in order for them to develop their defenses. If you sterilize him, his entire immune system will not develop properly.
Bathe him every day
You don't need to bathe him every day. With doing it between 2 or 3 times a week is enough. If we don't, we run the risk that your fine skin will dry out. You can wash it daily with a damp sponge.
Don't let him cry
Some time ago the advice was said that children should be allowed to cry until they were tired. It is the worst thing to do. If a child cries it is for something, and since he cannot speak, he still expresses himself through crying. He may be hungry, cold, in pain, or in need of your affection. So calm him down, attend to his needs and make him feel protected.
Children need to know that we are there, we are their main source of security. If we ignore them, they will feel frustrated, alone, and unprotected.
Isolating yourself at home
That you have been a mother does not mean that you have to be secluded at home. Babies need sunlight and air to develop antibodies. And you also need to disconnect and take walks with your baby.
Wrapping him up too much
Babies usually need more warmth than adults, but you don't need to dress them up as an Eskimo either. You can take his hands and feet as a reference to see if he is cold.
Cut his hair so that he is born stronger
No matter how much you cut a baby's hair, it won't make it grow stronger. In addition, the head is where most of our body heat goes.
Change your breasts before finishing
What remains at the end of the feeding in the chest is what contains more food. In addition, by emptying the breast well, mastitis is prevented.
Eliminate the father from the baby's routines
The father also needs to feel included in the mother-child bond. Let him get involved in the routines and care of the baby. It may take a while to get the hang of it, but if you don't try, you will never learn.
Silence during the daytime nap
If your baby is napping during the day, you should not be in absolute silence or in the dark. If not, you will be awakened by any noise and will not have a deeper, more restful sleep at night.
No nap
Many moms take advantage of their babies' naps to get ahead with household chores that are accumulating without stopping. It is complicated, but you have to try to rest or your body will look resentful, and you will only accumulate fatigue. You also need to rest.
All mothers make mistakes, no one is perfect. The best advice is to follow your instincts. Sometimes you will be wrong and other times you will not, that will not make you a worse or a better mother.
Why remember ... we are learning as life puts us to the test.