No, tolerating bad behavior is not having patience, it is allowing what you should not in terms of their behavior. Patience. Yes, patience is an important virtue for responsible parents in their parenting toolkit. But believe it or not, tolerance for children has limits.
It is not a 24/7 quality, constant or "essential in all situations". Moms and dads must understand that there are certainly times to be patient with children, but there are other circumstances in which they should not be.
Being passive in the face of bad behavior will only make the situation worse. Being a passive or permissive parent does not benefit your children at all. Sometimes you have to face the situation and set the limits for your children with authority and discipline, always from the respect and mutual understanding.
Parents who constantly look the other way from the child's misbehavior and finally intervene with conversation, reasoning, and pleading, are doing the child great harm. The bad behavior continues and before long other children can't bear to be around the little demon.
When should parents remove their hat of patience and intervene quickly? Just look for bad behavior, demanding requests, leadership, and generally being a rotten friend to others. You as a parent should not tolerate such inappropriate behaviors and speak patiently with your child. Act quickly and firmly. And never, never mistake patience for looking away while your child misbehaves.
The other face? Moms and dads should be patient when they listen to their children talk about events in their lives, problems, or situations where counseling and problem solving is the occasion. However, let us share an observation: Many parents who "patiently" tolerate bad behavior and are totally oblivious to what their child should or should not do are quite impatient when their child needs a listening ear. You see, these parents jump in right away to solve their children's problem. Therefore, Be the patient parent, but only in that way will you benefit your children… you will notice the difference.