People who should not judge the raising of your children

All parents must endure at some point people who judge the way we raise our children, but worst of all is that they can make us feel that we are doing it wrong. If you've ever been through this and someone has judged your work as a parent, It is the moment that you stop giving value to those words, because nobody can judge the raising of your children.

All the parents in the world who love and respect their children will look for the best way of parenting, at least the one they think or consider to be the best at a certain time and only because of this you will already be on the right track. No one who dares to judge you knows who you really are and what you strive to raise your children, because they are not in your shoes. But there are also some people in particular whoe should not judge the upbringing of your children and if they do, accept their words but do not give them value.

And I am sure that since you became a mother you have received an avalanche of advice, suggestions, diagnoses and evaluations from both close and non-close people. It is possible that this behavior is because of how our culture is, a society in which conventional wisdom has been approved through the generations and that we really like this and carry it out, although it can be difficult in some situations.

What I cannot deny is that the vast majority of people who give you advice will do so with all their good intentions, but it does not mean that you have to do what they tell you. You need to respond firmly and kindly to other people's comments to assert your position without losing class or having to hurt anyone's feelings. Think that they do it with all their good intention, although sometimes it is not the most successful.

Friends or family who do not have children

Have you received advice on motherhood from someone who doesn't even have children? Even if it is the best or the best friend you have, as long as they do not have children and know exactly what it is to be a father and mother, their opinions can be received, but that's it.

On many occasions these people  they think they know what is best for you and your children just for the sake of knowing some theory, maybe they have studies? It does not matter what studies you have regarding child care or development, because until you are a parent you don't really know what it means and what feelings come into play.

It is important set limits so that these annoyances are not reflected in the friendship and that there are no meaningless frictions in the future. Explain your mother's point of view to really instruct the conversation and the other person will understand that you don't need to say much more because practice always beats theory.

The grandparents

Grandparents are the next people by nature who will love your children the most after you and your partner. They, whenever they give you advice or judge your way of acting, they will do it thinking about the good of your child, but of course, if what they say does not do it to reassure you and they begin to exaggerate you may feel stressed and that you have the horrible feeling that you are doing something wrong.

So that there is no break in the bond with your parents because there is no agreement between the points of view, it is necessary that you respect their words but that you establish clear limits regarding the upbringing of your children. Smile, thank and do what you consider really appropriate. Never lose a good bond with your parents or in-laws for this reason.

The parents of your child's classmates

Picking up children from school can be a great exercise in patience for many parents. It seems that in these situations it is normal to talk about children and development or moments of values. You can always find "super moms" or "super dads»To tell you what you are doing wrong with your child or to give you his advice for the day. If a parent at school makes you uncomfortable with their comments, ignore them, just take a few deep breaths, smile, and don't reply. It is not being unpleasant, it is being practical in the face of comments from people who are most likely toxic to you.

The close and distant relatives

In addition to your parents there are also uncles, aunts, cousins, cousins, in-laws, mothers-in-law, sisters-in-law, brothers-in-law, nephews, nieces, godfathers, godmothers and many more people who make up your family. They all love you and want the best for you, but one way to show their attention to you is by giving you advicee what they think you can do better in raising your children.

In family gatherings it is usually the perfect time for this type of situation, so if you receive many opinions or advice that you have not asked for, such as: the best diet, when to remove the diaper, sleep habits, the best educational activities, etc. . As always: smile, nod and if you are not interested, don't give it more importance.

It is important that you be careful in the words you dedicate to them That is why it is necessary that you decide what is debatable and what is not in reference to the upbringing of your children. He appreciates their words, but every parent will know what is best for their children. If there is something they tell you that you are interested in or want to learn more or are you asking for advice, then great… but when it's free advice that you haven't asked for, just be polite.

Do you think there are more people in your life who shouldn't have an opinion about how parenting should or shouldn't be? Are you one of the people who accept this advice or do you prefer to be given it only if you have asked for it before?