Being a mother is an experience that will change your life, your circumstances and therefore influence your identity. However, después of that stage as hard as it is beautiful, where your baby needs everything from you, the need arises to recover yourself.
That need may arise from an immediate return to work, a breakup, or it simply arises without further ado. The really important thing is know how to cope with change, have enough resilience to grow in the face of any adversity. You have to focus on the positive part of all those changes that have arisen and immerse yourself in personal self-knowledge.
Why is it necessary to recover?
We have already talked before about the need to be an example for your children, to be well and be happy to be a more complete mother. It is a fundamental part that you know and love yourself to be able to be that example. Your children need the best of you, for that it is necessary to know who you really are.
You cannot set a good example if they see you as an empty person. You cannot show yourself to be an automaton that only performs basic tasks. They need the example of a person with their own dreams and concerns, with a forged personality, a mirror in which to look at themselves and find out who they are.
There are many changes we go through, both during pregnancy and postpartum. You may even go through some depression, which you will have to control with a specialist if it is the case. All this will also affect your identity and it is necessary that you overcome the obstacles before embarking on a full and real recovery. Otherwise, you run the risk of losing yourself, of not finding yourself and falling into a loop of frustration, from which it will be difficult for you to get out.
Dependence on children and how it affects your identity
We are not going to lie to you your children, especially in their first years of life, depend on you, physically and emotionally. It is your choice how you decide this affects you. That is to say, although it is an undeniable fact that this dependency exists, it is you who must manage it, just as you must also manage the degree to which this dependency limits your personality.
Being a mother, youYour responsibilities take time for yourself and that influences your self-esteem. However, it is a good exercise for it to be able not to forget what you like despite adversity. Now it all depends on your resilience, of your ability to grow in the face of adversity, to face obstacles and turn them into opportunities to forge yourself as a person.
Is recovering your identity being the same person?
We are constantly growing, and all these difficulties are what will give you the opportunity to be a new person, with your own personality, with new goals that allow you to decide whether or not you want to retake some of your identity before giving birth.
Recovering your identity is not being the same as before your children were born, having the same habits or tastes. It is accepting those changes, growing as a person and recovering the essence of your personality, embracing the new traits that you have developed with motherhood.
Recovering your identity is feeling that you are you, not as you were before, but as you are now. It is knowing your goals and striving every day to achieve them.