Living with a teenager during their summer vacation can be difficult for some parents. Dealing with mood swings, reluctance, no to just about everything, dependence on friends, voluntary isolation, and the fizz of hormones is a challenge.
One of the keys to having a good summer with those big kids is knowing what do they expect from their vacations and look for options so that their expectations fit into our family life.
Too much free time?
Every teenager's dream is to get up for lunch, spend hours with new technologies, be with their friends or simply do absolutely nothing all day. That can be unnerving for parents. The best solution is negotiation.
How to negotiate with teens
- Together, plan a relaxed daily routine, let's not forget that you are on vacation.
- Include all the topics (deadline to get up, time they can be with the console, mobile or on social networks, who and what time does the garbage take out, time of arrival home, etc.)
- Involve all members of the family.
- Remember dialogue is the key.
- Make agreements that make you feel comfortable.
- Negotiating some concessions will make them see that your opinion is important too. They can also make interesting proposals.
- The whole family must commit to following the established routine.
By establishing basic rules and routines, you will avoid many misunderstandings and conflicts.
Activities away from home
Today there are multiple options to do in summer, language courses, sports, volunteering, youth camps, stays abroad, etc. Many parents want their children to keep busy in the summer and, if they also learn something, much better.
So that these types of activities are a pleasant experience it is important that they are the ones who decide to do them and that they are not imposed by adults as an obligation.
Teenagers still need their parents to be around, to talk to, guide and advise them, although it may often seem the opposite.
Planning a trip with teens
It is obvious that teenagers do not share our tastes or expectations when it comes to traveling. If we plan a family trip without taking that into account it can become a nightmare for everyone.
Negotiation is essential in this situation. You can offer more than one option and assess as a family the pros and cons of each one. This way no one will feel left out. You can always look for some alternatives, for example your son thinks he is going to get bored, you can invite a friend of his.
Although teens sometimes seem like the most listless and lazy people in the world, they find the idea of experiencing new things and adventures exciting.
What happens when there are bad grades?
Experts advise avoiding poor school performance from becoming a family drama all summer long. Punishments are not effective in these cases.
It is much more effective to get your child to take responsibility and put together a plan to pass in September. Offer your help and support when they need it but you must remain firm so that what has been agreed is fulfilled.
Enjoying the holidays together and strengthening family ties is as important as passing the September exams.
The friends
For most teens, their friends are their "family." During adolescence, socialization is important, especially with people your age.
If your son is responsible and you know his social circle, you should not be distressed when he goes out with his friends.
Consider planning a group activity during your summer vacation. A party or meal at home is another good option for teens to socialize.
Summer loves
Summer is an ideal time for teens to fall in love. Who does not remember his great summer love?
As parents we must assume that our children are becoming adults, respect their privacy and avoid judging them. Of course we will be in the rear to give them a hand, whatever it is, when they ask us.
A teenager in love is a happy teenager, much more receptive and full of positive energy.
Happy family vacation!