Sex education is a life-long process, but it is Parents' responsibility to talk with their children about intimacy, love, identity, and healthy sex. In our opinion, sexual education in the family does not have to be limited to the conception of children. Rather, it must include how to acquire information, form attitudes and values, since it concerns biological and psychological development.
Most of us parents feel anxious when we have to discuss the issue of sex with our children, we are not even sure when it is time, or how to approach it, and even more so in the case of children. teenagers, where we must be so careful with your privacy.
Inform, educate and guide in healthy sex
Different studies confirm that children and adolescents who have confidence with their parents when talking about sex obtain it because they trust the communication in general. That is, because previously they have spoken openly about other issues that have arisen and the views of family members have been listened to.
Information is the most effective way to avoid risky behaviors in relation to sex. To the boy or the girl, it is necessary to explain the stage they are living, and anticipate the immediate future and announce the changes that are going to take place in their hormonal development and the physical and psychological consequences of the same.
Already with adolescents we have to enter into conversations about freedom when choosing a partner with whom to live a sexual relationship, the importance of this relationship being consensual and that it is enjoyed safely.
Talk about healthy sex
We cannot ignore our children, be boys or girls the subject of safe sex. We must talk about unwanted pregnancies, the possibility of using contraceptive methods, and of the Sexually transmitted diseases. This conversation cannot be isolated, you always have to keep up to date, and doubts can arise as the experience grows.
Recommend the use of condoms, are the most common contraceptive method among adolescents and the safest, they protect from STDs and pregnancy. They are also cheap and both feminine and masculine easy to use.
Recommend to your children that if you want to obtain more information, go to a reproductive health center or talk to a gynecologist. Do not believe all the myths and urban legends that are on the Internet, or friends tell you.
The moment of sexual intercourse
This is one of the great concerns of parents. If the fact of giving information does not encourage our sons and daughters to have sex. That is why it is so important that this information is consistent and oriented towards our own values of respect and identity.
Tell your son or daughter that starting your sex life is an important decision, That you must take convinced or convinced, so that you avoid having sex for the wrong reasons, or pressure from different people, from your own partner to friends. In any case, the decision for which you have decided to have sex is neither good nor bad, it should only be honest.
Advise your son or daughter talk to the other about sexuality, if it is an exclusive, sporadic relationship, for fun, love, romance. These questions that seem strange to us as parents, we may be surprised by the clarity with which many boys and girls are able to answer us. Let us not mythologize sex, nor do we vanalize it.
Another issue to consider is the difference between sexual intercourse and penetration or intercourse. A sexual relationship can mean games with or without clothes, mutual masturbation, oral sex or penetrative sex. Try not to let your children focus their relationships on penetration.