For parents, one of the ways to understand how children develop sexually is that it is like any other type of child and adolescent development. You want to support the child But don't assume that what you say or feel about something one day is how you will feel about it.
While other types of identity, such as gender awareness and homosexual sexual orientation, have been shown to be vivid for some children early in their development. There is no such data on asexuality, which is, by definition, an orientation people come to after reaching sexual maturity.
Sexual relationships and maturity
Childhood and adolescence, on the other hand, are, by definition, a state of flux and not a state of maturity. There is no reason to suppose that a child or adolescent who has expressed little or no interest in having sex with other people cannot maturely develop one.
It has been shown to vary greatly and is not standardized in relation to chronological age (meaning that a thirteen-year-old may have strong feelings of infatuation and sexual desire, while a different XNUMX-year-old may not have because they have not yet reached sexual maturity).
Discover your own sexual desire
Women, in particular, can discover and begin to understand their own sexual desire much later. If your child expresses opinions that they feel asexual, it makes sense to have a similar conversation with any child or adolescent about sex that emphasizes that they should never feel any pressure to do something sexual they don't want to. Sex should always be an option, be it gay, straight, bi, or asexual.
It's important to be respectful and open-minded about it, while also being open to continuing the conversation and letting them continue to grow and change as they mature and new experiences or feelings may or may not arise. You must remind all children that they are inherently kind and loved., no matter what they come to learn about their sexual or asexual identity.